DH has gone away for 3 weeks....

[StripyTShirt]

To see his family in another country.

I'm sat here sobbing already.

Just me and the kids now

Sorry you're feeling so sad. It's so hard when they go away.

You'll get into a little routine of your own though and he'll be back before you know it.

My DP used to work away and I cried every time he left 😔

My DP used to work away and I cried every time he left 😔

This is rather extreme.

Sorry that it’s making you upset, OP. Just remember he will be back and it’s good for him to see his family.

His family as in parents/siblings etc or another woman and his other kids?

3 weeks is a long time, dh and I hate being apart for even one week. So I know what you mean.
But it will pass, as pp said you will get into a routine. In some ways it’s actually easier on your own. This will be the hardest day, tomorrow you will feel better about it.

@mashedspud no his mum and dad.

Thanks for your kind words, it just seems like such a long time and we are always together

It is a long time, but every day is a day nearer his return and you will get into a routine.

Yeah I'm back at work on Tuesday so that will keep me busy!!

My husband works away a lot and it was so hard when the children were smaller, how old are your kids?
I always bend the rule a bit (picnic tea in the front room, sleeping in with me) and it seems to make life a bit easier. The longest we have done is 5 weeks it's rubbish but doable.

Aahhh you've got the bed to yourself!! Every cloud OP!

Envious op!!

It’s only three weeks, surely you can cope!

I think I realised that my marriage was doomed when I couldn't give a monkey's nits about being away from him, nor excited when we were back together.

I'm sorry you are sad. FaceTiming really helps.

I found it easier when he was away. The routines worked better, everyone knew where they were.

Bit ott to be sat sobbing. Dp works away a lot, sometimes for weeks, and of course we miss each other, but even when the dc were little I would have felt pathetic if I sat sobbing, instead of cracking on like a grown up. Let alone if it was a one off/ occasional occurrence.

I would be heartbroken as well op.
Luckily we've only been apart for the odd night or two.
Try to stay busy , the days will go by faster and in no time you'll be counting down to him coming home.
At least these days mobile phones make it so much easier to be in touch .

Kids are 13 and 2. DS has been running around shouting daddy and cried for him when I wouldn't let him play with the cooker

If he worked away I would get used to it and I'm sure I'll be fine but ffs I've been with him nearly everyday for 4 years and I'm going to miss him.

Sorry if loving and missing someone offends some people.

Ah op I get ya.dh was in hospital for a few weeks last year and it was sudden. I was shell shocked for a few days but by the time he came home I'd got used to having the bed to myself and watching my programmes on the telly

Once the school / work routine gets back to normal it’ll fly by. Make sure you’ve got something fun planned for the weekends through.

Put clean sheets on the bed and enjoy having the bed to yourself!

I’m jealous!

Sobbing ?

It doesn't 'offend' me that you miss him, but 'sobbing' ???

You need a proverbial MN grip.

Sorry if loving and missing someone offends some people.

You can still love and miss someone without sobbing for them. I'm sorry you feel the way you do, I miss DH when he's away too. The fact that I don't cry doesn't mean that I don't love him, we've been together a very long time so of course I miss him.

Presumably your happy for him to see his family?

I hate being away from my DP. Spent 4 days apart at the start of our relationship 6 years ago and thankfully we haven't had a night apart since! I would miss him so much if he went away for 3 weeks so I get you OP.

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Where did anyone say they were offended by the fact you love him or miss him? Oh yeah, nobody did.

4 years because everyone else in the world with a dp that goes away has only been together a few weeks.

Sorry for your sadness OP.

ACheekyFinger how do you never spend a night apart? Do you not have weekends away with friends / travel for work / overnight hospital stays etc? I'm genuinely interested as I don't think I know anyone who doesn't do things separately to their partner from time to time.

Sorry you are so sad. We are all here.

Mine has worked away from when we met so I'm
Well used to it. How long as your hubby worked away?

We bought a house together then never spent a week night together for 4 years.