DH has gone away for 3 weeks....

[StripyTShirt]

To see his family in another country.

I'm sat here sobbing already.

Just me and the kids now

My husband took my children away for 2 weeks last year, so I was totally alone. I'm also a SAHM so no work ( as such) to go to! Anxious as hell during the run up, and for the first day/night.

Bloody loved it!! . I did what I wanted, when I wanted. Watched what I wanted on TV! Lovely!

I would be sad too, we are hardly ever apart save for work or the occasional night out with friends. We just like spending time together and were long distance at the start. Just plan something nice you can do when he gets back.

Ahh I hear you! It's horrible going from everyday to nothing and sob all you like hun it's your emotions and your husband - you can miss him all you want!! Do something sweet to occupy your time, fill a bottle of thoughts and sweet love notes for him to open when he gets back. Even one of those money pot things you have to smash! That will make you smile and excited for his return.
You got this and it's fine to feel out of sorts. And you got us Netters posts to keep you busy and distracted too!
All the best

For heavens sake. Hell be back in a few weeks time. Be grateful for that

Sorry but a bit extreme, I don't think I was that upset when mine went off to war 1st, 2nd or even 4th time!

Just think, the next time you speak you'll have lots to talk about.

@lovelytobehere - hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Mine works away all week and I sat and sobbed when he told me he would be having 2 weeks off over Christmas
I’m joking (kind of!)
If you’re working and have children I’m sure it will fly by, and you get the bed to yourself 🤗

@growbagsforever glad it made you smile too! See everyone loves a love note jar!! I think I've started a trend

You are a grown woman? Sobbing? Did he die?

No.

You sound ridiculous. I urge you to get some perspective of the world. I hope your children don’t see you sobbing, they need to feel safe with a parent and reassured.

Christ. Have I stepped into the teenage girl version of Mumsnet?

I bet if you tried hard you could find something much more sob-worthy to think about. Like how Jif is now called Cif much preferred Jif.

I’d be upset too if my partner went away for 3 weeks. I think it’s perfectly normal. I think it’s really weird to NOT care if you don’t see your husband for 3 weeks.. why be with a man if you hate him that much? Sounds miserable. And you women sound bitter.

I feel for you - I hate it when my dh goes away fir work - I always have a cry - then I pull myself together. Try enjoy the time with just you and the little ones - it is tough but it will be lovely to see him when he gets back. And although he is seeing family he will be missing you all too. Take care

Wow there’s some really horrible posters on here!

My DP works away op and at first I was the same. I’m now used to it. If you aren’t, it’s huge shock to the system. Some people are more emotional than others so ignore the posters telling you you’re ridiculous

Ex army wife here.

3 weeks isn't hugely long but if you're Not used to it I can see it can be tough.

Top tips:

Focus on the positives: watch what you want on tv, make your favourite dinners, no smelly socks/sports kit for a few weeks... whatever helps

Mark on a physical calendar when he'll be back and cross it off with the kids, each day marked off is a day closer to him coming home. Also mark the halfway point and remind yourself you're on the downhill part

Keep busy - see friends and family, talk to them on the phone if kids in bed and feeling lonely, even write some letters (older relatives love getting letters, you can get the kids to join in too)

Be prepared for his return - no I don't mean kill the fatted calf! But realise that even though you're missing him he'll quite likely annoy the hell out of you when he gets back! Because you'll likely have found your "groove" at that point and he'll disrupt that plus the kids may play up for a few days so go easy on both of you if it's "bumpy" when he first gets back.

Crying sometimes is ok but don't dwell on things.

Genuinely hope that's helpful to you, he'll soon be back

Why are some people so rude? We don't know op's full situation, she could suffer with anxiety or depression and rely on the extra support of her husband day to day. There are many other reasons why people don't want to be alone such as abandonment issues from childhood etc. Can you not just assume the op has to have a stiff upper lip just because she's over the age of 18 (an adult).

Op, the first few days will be hard but after that you will find a new temporary normal until your DH comes home. It's hard when the toddler misses them/asks for them too but he will be happy to have his mummy still there.

Sobbing is quite extreme, it's three weeks. I hope you don't suddenly find yourself single.

Why are some people so rude?

Yes when did it become race to be the biggest arsehole on here? Someone wanted a bit of sympathy and chat. You think she's being wet? Fine, just move on. Maybe to AIBU.

Loveablers that wasn't to you btw, I agree with you. There's a lot of unnecessary scoffing on here.

Some people just can't help themselves!! If you don't have anything positive to say, why don't you keep your opinions to yourselves. Honestly!!!! Take no notice OP - if you feel like sobbing then sob.

Christ, there are some spiteful responses on this thread. There's nothing grown up about making someone who's in tears feel stupid for it.

God why are some people so rude!. Everyone deals with things differently and some people might cry because they miss their husband, just because you didn’t doesn’t make you any better or worse than them!!.

Try and fill your days OP, and enjoy getting all the bed to yourself!

If I were in a relationship, I would probably cry if I couldn’t see my partner for 3 weeks.

I'm genuinely staggered that couples can be so dependent on each other that being apart for a short time provokes crying or sobbing. It does sound a little unhealthy, surely?

What do you want a medal @TrainspottingWelsh