DH has gone away for 3 weeks....

[StripyTShirt]

To see his family in another country.

I'm sat here sobbing already.

Just me and the kids now

Take no notice of all these heartless MNetters OP, speaks volumes about their relationships than yours.

Wow, there are some really nasty women on here.

Ignore OP, maybe it's jealousy that they don't have a relationship with their partner that they'd miss them extremely.

I would also sob if my husband left for three weeks! He's my best friend. I do like the odd couple of nights he works away though, bed and the tv to myself 😂

My messages are open if you need a chat!

Also, to the women suggesting he has another partner and/or kids, not every man is a bad one. Shame you view men in this way.

Dh is away for 4 weeks.

I now feel bad I've not shed a tear, and he's been gone a whole week.

But im old and grumpy and like my solitude, so its fine.

I remember getting emotional at 17 though.

Not over same fella, though. Just to clarify.

But, sorry OP you have been affected in this way. As pp's have said, routine will help and before you know it he will back and you will be muttering dark thoughts as to how he has upset your routine!

Good advice based on experience from @graphista.

Hope the time passes quickly for you and that he gets back safely free a lovely visit to see his family. Nice to think his own parents will be able to enjoy their son being around for a bit - and I’m sure he’ll be missing you too.

Don’t listen to the sour faced MNers who are being mean. It’s perfectly OK to miss your DH. Mine is doing a long distance Masters and goes away for a week every 2 months and i’m always sad. The only good bit is star-fishing in bed 😂

I found it hard when exh travelled when the kids were small but it was a lot, at least a couple of nights a month and up to 2 weeks at a time, it's hard work with two young kids, you get used to it. I think I will find it harder when I move in with dp, he travels a lot and no children (all grown) to distract me

I adore my husband but love it when he goes away (and he does sometimes go away for 3 weeks)! I get a bit grumpy if he doesn't have any work trips planned. I think you'll quickly get used to it and enjoy watching what TV you want to watch, eating what you want, having the bed to yourself etc.

'You can still love and miss someone without sobbing for them. I'm sorry you feel the way you do, I miss DH when he's away too. The fact that I don't cry doesn't mean that I don't love him, we've been together a very long time so of course I miss him. '

This. I'm not terribly impressed at some of the insinuations on this thread that people who don't break down sobbing when their h/p goes away don't love them properly or have doomed marriages. It's also no iron-clad proof of a good marriage never to have spent a night apart.

Getting on with it on your own sometimes is part of being an adult. Dh and I were in a long-distance relationship at the beginning (our very early 20s) and I did feel very sad when we parted, especially because it was complicated by very difficult circumstances relating to the wider family, and I probably did cry on occasion, but even then sitting sobbing would have been a bit too much, and certainly isn't appropriate as a full adult and parent. Feeling sad and missing him is fine, but a bit of getting on with it is indicated.

An ex used to travel a lot for work, the longest he was away for was four months.

It’s so hard being away from the person you love, I used to cry more on the day he came home as I was happy and relieved to see him.

It’s hard, but you will get through it

And to those castigating PP for being spiteful/nasty/bitter/whatever - I suspect (don't know, but suspect) some of those posting that the sobbing is OTT may have endured partings that are a bit more permanent than three weeks. Please think about that before you pile on.

fill a bottle of thoughts and sweet love notes for him to open when he gets back

Please don't contemplate this.

He has gone to see his parents and that is fine. You’ll be ok...couple of days in and you’ll be used to it.

OP I think that the reason that some people are a bit exasperated is that you don’t realise how lucky you are that he usually never goes away. My DH has to be away a lot and it is very hard. Be grateful for the life you have.

Try and be happy for him when you speak to him. It must be incredibly hard to live so far away from his family. My husband is in the same situation and I feel it's really important to be supportive of him going to see his parents.

Thanks to PP who saw this for what it was, a bit of a wallow and whinge!

Of course my children were not sitting watching me sob (actually poor choice of word, more like a little whinge), I adult like everyone else! My children do feel safe and secure, that's always my priority.

I do suffer with anxiety and work in an extremely stressful job and coming home to DH to unload on helps me massively but hey ho, three weeks is nothing really.

Just thankful I didn't post in AIBU

Haha this brings back memories...can't say I ever sobbed but I used to really miss DH when he was away. Nowadays I get excited when he's going as I get the bed to myself 😬

@Woeisme99 no neither of us ever travel for work, I'm a SAHM now anyway and we've never had to stay overnight in hospital. We don't really go for weekends away with friends, we both will later this year for stag and hen dos but we don't have a lot of friends so it just doesn't occur often.

I LOVE it when dh works away. He went this morning and i was doing cartwheels!

New fresh sheets on the bed, house is always tidy, I don't need to watch Gold Rush or Pawn Stars or any other crap he watches. BLISS!!

You can still love and miss someone without sobbing for them. I'm sorry you feel the way you do, I miss DH when he's away too. The fact that I don't cry doesn't mean that I don't love him, we've been together a very long time so of course I miss him.

this ^

I don't think we should normalise such a complete lack of resiliance.
'Sobbing' that her dh has the opportunity to do something nice (visit his family) ? What happens when someone dies, or is hurt, or diagnosed with a debilitating condition or terminal illness. Or when redundancy strikes or 101 other normal things happen in life.
You can 'miss' your dh without it causing you to break down in tears.

I continue to be amazed by the numbers of posters suffering with anxiety - there must be something about modern life at the root of it.

I'd be lost without my husband for 3 weeks, he's lovely to me. And, as I have agoraphobia life would be very difficult.

Nothing wrong with preferring to be with your partner than not.

Duh - the bit I meant to paste clearly didn't copy - apologies - I've reported myself and asked it to be removed.