Help need some advice

[Katielou2019]

Hello im so new to this ...

I have 3 children 8 4 1 and im going back to a new full time job in February 2 of the children are in school .. my 1 year old has always been home with me is hiring a nanny or nursery best im so stuck what to do

Depends on your family and your child but I’m very much pro nursery. A nanny to me seems a lot of extra hassle: NI contributions, employer rights to navigate. I also like a nursery because there is no defaulting to putting a child infront of a tv, there’s no blurred lines about what you are paying for as the care givers aren’t in your home. I also like the social interaction between children. Ultimately I felt more comfortable my child being in an almost school like external environment than bringing a care giver into our home which would kind of feel like a replacement of me.

yes I do feel the same but I feel bad 8-6 mon -fri is that life or being selfish by going back to work?

Depends- do you financially need to go back? Mentally need to go back? Part time an option?
I had to go back, 4 days at first then 5. thankfully my husband is self employed and could do the odd day at home- but I have friends who had no choice and I wouldn’t dream of judging them and their children are fine.