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What would you tell your 18 year old self?

111 replies

Crazypanda85 · 26/12/2019 22:39

Just interested, if you could go back and tell yourself anything at 18 what would it be?
I'd tell myself :
Stop chasing pricks that aren't worth your time & you'll find a job you like and are good at stop worrying.
Oh and you aren't fat so stop worrying about that too.

OP posts:
Mintjulia · 26/12/2019 23:54

To have greater faith in my own abilities.

To treat advice from men with a massive pinch of salt.

Ludways · 26/12/2019 23:56

Study harder, dumb ass!

Evilmorty · 26/12/2019 23:57

Lose weight now, travel, get a 95% mortgage and stop mooning over boys.

ssd · 26/12/2019 23:57

It'll be fine.

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 26/12/2019 23:57

Focus on your baby, not on boyfriends. Get back into education. Go to church. Choose your friends wisely. You are good enough, you can do this, and you are worth more than you think.

Wheresthebeach · 26/12/2019 23:59

Don’t marry the idiot you’re dating.

Find a job you actually enjoy...and repeat - dump the boyfriend...sigh

Wheresthebeach · 27/12/2019 00:00

Oh and your parents are fuckwits.

PanamaPattie · 27/12/2019 00:08

Stay in. Save your money. Don't get married. Don't have kids. When Bob offers you a job in Silicon Valley - go - you will be at the forefront of design technology.

BraveGoldie · 27/12/2019 00:10

Enjoy your body - it is beautiful.

Don't marry that guy. He doesn't truly value you and there are men out there who will. (While still magically getting his semen so you end up with the same amazing daughter you now have! 🤣)

Purplecatshopaholic · 27/12/2019 00:11

Don’t marry a twat...

OneDayAtATimex · 27/12/2019 00:27

Be wary of your so called best friend.

Don't touch coke, it'll get you into debt and defaulting on payments on a credit card.

Don't take the overdraft.

Graphista · 27/12/2019 00:57

Get therapy now! You’ve already been through a hell of a lot and it wasn’t your fault and if you get therapy now it could prevent years of misery in the future.

Yes he’s the love of your life and always will be but you need to set boundaries and not be such a doormat with him and don’t accept his parents being shitty to you either nor your parents being shitty to him.

You will get to be a mum, mc happens but you KNOW something isn’t right with you gynaecologically so push for a dx and treatment ASAP to avoid more heartbreak.

Uni isn’t beyond your reach, you might need to wait a few years to get the right support to go but you will get there.

Wereallsquare · 27/12/2019 01:02

You are worthy of love.
Love yourself.l
You are not fat.
Loosen up.

Foghead · 27/12/2019 01:05

Don’t be scared of following your instincts and don’t let others stifle you.

VanyaHargreeves · 27/12/2019 01:07

At 18?

Something very specific about 2 occasions in my life :

In three years your Grandmother is going to die. You will have done all you could for her, but at this point it is crucial to ensure you persuade your cousin that the two of you needn't be so loyal to your mothers, who are both batshit, and be loyal to each other. It will never be as it was again otherwise.

In 8 years when L offers to tell him - let her don't let your pride panic you.

I think my life would be VERY different now if not for those things

rhubarbcrumbles · 27/12/2019 01:09

Ignore what your parents tell you about yourself or you will be listening to it for the next few decades.

caringcarer · 27/12/2019 01:16

Start a pension and pay in every month.
Believe in youself, don't be afraid to have a go.
Look beyond the body for a potential partner - Are they a kind person?
You look your best now, make the most of it.
You can get over a broken heart.

livinlife · 27/12/2019 01:17

@Ludways I'm 18 now and needed to hear that

Montyman · 27/12/2019 01:20

Yes, study harder. Also, I know he’s older and you’re mad about him but you don’t have to settle down with him. Live your life a bit more. Buy your own house.

Foghead · 27/12/2019 01:27

Also, buy shares in Apple, Amazon and Google Wink

ShristmasChopper · 27/12/2019 01:27

Trust no one.
Put yourself first.

MuchTooTired · 27/12/2019 01:36

You’re not weird, you have ocd and anxiety. Take the anti depressants, have cbt and go live your life instead of being terrified of it.

Don’t go to uni, it’s not for you. Get a job, figure out what you want to do when you’re older, and buy a bloody house whilst they’re cheap.

You’re right, you won’t ever have babies naturally, but you will have a beautiful set of twins in the future. There’s nothing wrong with you becuase you need ivf, it’s just the way it is.

Oh, and you’re not fat, nor ugly, nor stupid, nor weird. Sleep around a bit, have fun, live your life and don’t be scared. But seriously, buy the house.

Taddda · 27/12/2019 01:43

I'd like to print out this entire thread and give it to my 18 year old self titled for me!

Namestranger · 27/12/2019 01:46

JUST. LEAVE. HIM.

You'll waste 7 bloody years on him.

Taddda · 27/12/2019 01:47

...actually I think my 40 year old self needed to hear some of this now...