“Ach, we’re all a bit weird in our own way”

[PullingMySocksUp]

Do you think you’re a bit odd or do you think you’re completely normal?

I have a theory.

For all of you that describe yourself as weird, what do you mean? Is it the way you dress, or your hobbies, or having a rich fantasy life? What do you think makes you weird?

And why «weird»? Don’t we all have different tastes, interests and preferences ?

Yes both me and my OH and our families are quiet weird so our poor children have no hope

I know I'm weird but ordinary. This is fine.

Ordinary = I have no importance in the world. Nothing remarkable. No influence.

Weird = too much to list. If you list a conventional preference or habit, I probably don't have it, basically. People openly despair of how I dress and eat.

I think I am utterly ordinary and normal. If people say they are weird what sort of things confer this weirdness? I need a list to check on my normality/weirdness rating.

A1A1 I see where your coming from.

Since I've been on Mumsnet, I've begun to think the same, some of the sentiments/beliefs on here are just...quite odd imo,
but MN does makes me smile to myself and then I think I'm not quite so odd after all

It's self indulgent to consider yourself weird. We are all different and that's wonderful. We are all special but we are not weird.

Agree with this entirely.

I don’t dress the same way as other people my age. Everyone wears sensible clothes by this age, I still look like I’m wearing early 90’s grunge clothes. I listen to very obscure music for a person of my age, I still go to goth clubs, we have 6 sequinned crows on our garage roof, our hobbies arent “normal” (DH makes something very specific that would be outing, as well as other hobbies that are actually considered fairly normal in the alternative world, like larp and d&d). I have green hair. I love teeth and those teddies that have the false teeth. Our first date was to see an exhibition on sexual disease. So it’s our tastes that are weird. I can transcend the divide though and chat normally to people until it becomes about love island or something and then I just mmm and nod my way through.

OK.
I am totally.normal.

@Evilmorty, I think your friend sounds incredibly weird!

I used to be concerned because I thought I was weird. Now however for the most part I realise this is how I am like it or feck off!! I don't like or adhere to the 'usual' conventions. I am definitely an introvert and need time alone don't know if that makes a difference.

DH and I are both very weird by MN standards. Which can only be a good thing

but it feels like extroverts are more clues up, successful and geberslly better at life

No, with extroverts all that is more visible because extroverts stand out.

What you don't notice are all the introverts who are successful in their own introverted way. They're not "in your face", aren't the loudest at parties, don't do attention seeking things, etc., so you don't notice them. But there are lots of them about.

I feel completely normal, but apparently a lot of the things I feel are normal are weird to other people. Which is normal, right!?

I love MN because I don’t feel weird on here. There’s a lovely mix of people and because it’s all anonymous, no one makes a judgement on you based on what you look like so we all get an even shot iyswim.

I am also introverted if that makes a difference?

I'm quite odd. I find understanding others hard.

A lot of ppl on MN who self-identify as introverts seem to be hugely resentful of the people they identify as extroverts. And seemingly jealous. I find this baffling.

I am going to withdraw my identification as 'weird'. Don't think I meet any of these definitions.

Possibly a little weird/alternative but I like it that way. Sometimes I get into chats with colleagues and I can tell they're thinking 'wtf' but it really doesn't bother me.

Delightfully run of the mill...

If I was rich, I would be considered eccentric. As it is, I'm just plain weird. The difference between the two seems to be purely financial.

^This

Obviously I have a couple of idiosyncrasies, but basically I'm pretty normal.

I don't think I am weird. I cant think of anyone I have ever met, who I would class as weird either. I can always find some common ground.

I'm quirky :) I don't want to be normal, but I do wish I didn't have to hide my quirky ways around new people. For example I'm starting a new job in January and for the first few weeks will keep my weirdness contained until I know people more. I just want to let the weird out from day 1!

@HakunaRattatas I don't think it's self indulgent at all, I think it's more being self aware and realising I'm different in some ways. Of course we're all special, I just think I'm quite odd compared to most people. I do try my best to fit in but I find it hard.

I’m not resentful of extroverts, I would say my DH and close friends are extroverts and we complement each other.

The ones I do find annoying are the ones who say “we’re all mad here!” “Ooooh welcome to the mad house” and it’s just a very nice and normal house but what qualifies them as weird is that the walls are covered in very staged and often professional photos (barefoot, white background) of them gurning or being “‘mad”. Perhaps the mum adds chocolate to chilli or dips her toast in to her tea. None of which are weird at all. My father in law has a boiled sheeps skull above the door. That’s weird.

The weird ones usually accept it and just get on with being weird without announcing it when they walk in. “I hope you’re mad too, you’ll fit right in”