I live a busy life, I have an extremely stressful job and have lots of DC who all have a variety of activities daily.
At Christmas I like to stop and spend time with family and not constantly be go, go, go.
MIL can’t sit down, she seems to find it impossible and she judges me for not going the same. But she is snide about it, she doesn’t call me lazy, she’ll just say things like
“Another Christmas film? With so much to be done?”
“I would love to play with the DC but I have so much to do.”
To be clear I have done loads and will do loads more to contribute to Christmas.
I’ve just been out to pick up the meat, I’ve cleaned, I’ve made brandy butter, I’ve made dinner for tonight and tomorrow morning I will peel all the veg and sort the cheese board and puddings whilst DH makes Christmas dinner.
And she is somehow always faffing. Faff, faff, faff doing little to nothing and yet judging me for seeming, in her mind, “doing nothing”.
She really judges me for not being in the kitchen - seemingly doing nothing - but being where she thinks I should be.
I’m nearly in tears over this. As a family we are going through a really rough time, so it seems petty to bring this up with DH but my mental health is taking a real battering.
Does anyone else have this with their MIL?