Will I be the only one 'smiling and nodding' to in-laws

[nrpmum]

We see in-laws too frequently. Mainly because it's the only time they get to see their grandson (my step son) as dh ex doesn't like mil.

This year in-laws are coming to us Christmas Day. I'm cooking hiding in the kitchen

Anyway. I always get the comments of 'bet you'll be glad when dss has gone home'. You look fed up nrpmum, did stepson have you up early?. Must be annoying having stepson so much (eow). Mr nrpmum should cut down his weekends so you two can get time together, add infinitum.

Now I thoroughly enjoy having my stepson. He's an absolute joy. Yes you have to sometimes explain what we are going to do, and when we are going to do it because he is 7 and autistic but he genuinely is an amazing kid and it is very rare for him to behave otherwise.

So this Christmas Day I will be smiling like a Cheshire cat and nodding.

Anyone else, and for what reasons?

Sorry been awol. Christmas was hectic.

Mil was fine until dh had to take dss back to his mums. Then mil started to talk about something dh had done that she thought would piss me off. Fil told her not to shit stir (his exact words). She protested but he was having none of it, so she shut up.

To answer a few questions.

Dh has a difficult relationship with her, and didn't speak for 3 years. If he tells her to back off she will for a few weeks, but often the same starts over again later on.

Wrt to someone saying I might look tired. I do. I work a 37.5hr week. Commute 2 hrs either side of that each day. Then have 2 dogs to walk individually, the house to sort, and I have an illness that can sap my energy occasionally too. That has no impact on my feelings about having dss here though because if we had children living with us full time I'd have to suck that up. Dh works 80hr weeks currently hence why I'm picking up the slack.

Someone said they only have my version. Of course you do. Mil is not on mumsnet. As I have said previously she can be the loveliest woman in the world. She just seems to have a bee in her bonnet about dss. For example I have gone man-down with a kidney infection this weekend. She said to dh that he should not have dss this weekend as I should take priority. I said to tell her that bed rest, hot water bottle, and snuggles with the dogs whilst they finish fixing the santa trap will be good. She passes comment like this constantly.

I think reading your comments it might be time for dh and I to have a conversation around why she keeps saying it because my main concern is dss hearing her and thinking he's not wanted.