‘We are not sending cards this year, instead ...’

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Anyone else get annoyed by these frankly attention seeking posts?

No reason to tell people which charitable cause you are supporting - simply wish your friends a Merry Christmas, without the public display of do-goodery.

I’m not sending cards cos I write them and forget to post them and it’s a massive waste of time and money, so I no longer do it.

Merry Christmas everyone!

Totally agree! I'm sending cards AND I've donated to buy a few Christmas dinners. Haven't broadcasted it all over the place.

My 4 year old loves cards, luckily he got 38 from nursery and duly sent 38 back... my nana and parents love cards too! Honestly people can be so bloody self righteous !

Glad it's not just me who gets pissed off

Anyone else get annoyed by these frankly attention seeking posts?

I like the people I have on my FB feed so I don’t automatically assume a negative from every post!

I never send xmas cards because I cant be bothered, total waste of time and money and lack of care for the environment, all ends up in the bin or recycling anyway.

People do seem to feel the need to justify it don’t they? Must be to convince their family and friends they’re not not sending them because they don’t want to spend the money.

I don’t even bother with the seemingly obligatory post on Facebook wishing people a merry Christmas. No one gives a fuck.

I haven’t seen this on social media but have had e-cards that mention what charity they’ve given to. I think that was a nice approach - still gets in touch, they’ve taken time to design it etc, but much less waste and money going to good causes.

I still get guilted into buying the ones the kids have designed at school and nursery. At least it’s fundraising for them...

Well my next door neighbour does this and says they are giving £50 to the children's hospice that looked after their daughter during her final weeks of life when she had a brain tumour aged 10.

I find it hard to judge them really, and I know that them posting it on Facebook has prompted others to also give a small donation to the hospice

THE first year we decided not to send cards i did post on Facebook to tell family and friends that i wasn’t sending them and was donating to a charity that’s helped our family immensely. I wanted them to know there was a reason for no cards, I’ve not posted it any years later.

I actually can't stand Christmas cards and we donate every month to various charities without announcing it. But this year I did on FB because my son will spend Christmas in hospital and I wanted to raise awareness of a charity that supports the illness. I feel neither virtuous nor smug just wrecked really and don't give a flying shite it is perceived as the former.

I haven't done cards for a few years, just because they are such a waste. Less and less people are doing them now. I don't post on fb saying I am giving to charity instead, I do give more to foodbanks at Christmas but it is not directly related to not buying cards.

I don't mind at all if others post and say they are giving to charity instead, it encourages others to stop sending and reduces waste and/or encourages giving to charity. I honestly don't see the problem. Some people just look for problems where there really aren't any.

I don't like it either. I don't see how one (sending cards) has anything to do with the other (making a donation).

I find the idea that I might have a special budget for Christmas cards very quaint. I haven't sent any for 15 years and I don't give to charity instead either.

Some people probably post for point scoring I'm sure. Although I tend to think that if people sharing charitable donations on social media inspires another person to do something similar then it has to be a good thing.

I rather suspect the charities don’t get quite as much as promised...

^this

It does wind me up because I manage to do the not mutually exclusive things of both sending cards and donating to charity. Without posting about it every time. I assume they just can't be arsed sending cards so let people know that they are donating to charity instead.

I send charity cards and make a charity donation- but I don’t announce it! I have a number of charities I rotate around that were ones my deceased grandparents were fond of - it’s effectively my present to them.

An elderly aunt of mine was saying how sad it makes her feel that she gets fewer cards every year. “Young people don’t bother today;” she said. “But I suppose they’re all very busy, especially at this time of year”.

She went on to tell me how she knew it was difficult for extended family to visit her when everyone lives in far flung places now, but she used to look at her Christmas cards fondly and enjoy feeling that they remembered her at Christmas.

I started trying to explain that some of them had posted on FB about how they were donating to charity instead, but I couldn’t find the words to explain how a charity donation was a substitute for remembering an ageing family member at Christmas, so I just nodded in sympathy.

I haven’t sent cards for15 years and I always telephone the people that send them to me and have a catch up and thank them.
I don’t post on fb about it but on here I’ll say I’ve already given a good donation to the lifeboat Association, and I’m Giving a donation to (the sniffer dogs) medical detection dogs of Milton Keynes who Can sniff a drop of cancer containing substance in an Olympic sized swimming pool body of water.
This is in the hope that in the future the dogs will be used more to detect cancer before it can be picked up by conventional methods.
I’ve visited the centre. Lovely friendly place. All dogs are pets and live in homes. They are taken for frequent walks in the fields nearby.
We can’t have our own dog so perfect choice.
Some dogs alert their owners when they are about to take a seizure..which allows owners to live a normal life.

I honestly don’t give a flying fuck what people think.
Gave that up years ago.

Buying charity Christmas cards isn't always as good as you think. Unless the charity gets 100% then I would question how much from each pack of cards goes to the charity too.

I did it last year because I have FB friends who would normally expect a card. These are people who tend to send the "token" Christmas card even when we've not really been in touch all year. Elderly family members and closest friends still got a card from me.

And I donated £100 to the charity, so... judge me if you like, I don't care.

I used to hate that too viccat

A card that was just scrawled ...love mary
Having not heard from love Mary since last years chris

Totally agree.
Also charity presents.

Pros for giver: easier, no wrapping/writing very little thought, and I suspect they feel terribly virtuous announcing that.
Receiver-no pros, just the con of effectively not getting a card/present/feeling of being remembered.

I asked once a charity that I'd seen several people mention that they were sending money to instead of cards, if they saw an increase in giving in December now. They said there always had been a slight rise in donations in December, but there was no noticeable change in recent years.
They reckoned most people who announced that didn't give the money.

Agree with jingle bells on OP.

I have no issues withFB friends doing this. But then my FB friends are also real life family and friends, people I like. I don't have tons of people on there I've only met once or twice.

So no, I don't get upset or cross by such posts if I see them as I know the people and know that if they've said they've donated they will have.

I don't really send cards. I do donate to charity. I don't post about it. My choice.

I do, however, send cards to older family members who I know would appreciate them and would possibly be sad not to receive one.