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How many people do you know that you can honestly 100% trust?

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Littlemiss74 · 22/12/2019 01:21

I have one long standing friend of over 20 years. She lives 200 miles from me and we see each other around once a year but message each other all the time. She is the only person that I know who I would consider to be a true, genuine, trustworthy friend.

Since my ds started school I have made friends with a small group of mums and we have socialised together many times. We share a lot of information, usually under the influence of several vinos, but I don’t feel that they are entirely trustworthy. Around here everybody knows everybody and there is a lot of gossip. I feel like I can’t really trust these other mums and yet the way they act is as if we’re all super close and trustworthy. I know this not to be the case.

The long & short of it is that I feel very alone -and just wondered if it is normal at the age of 45 to feel non trusting of anyone and reluctant to make friends with any more ‘school friends’. Why can’t I find a friend that I can trust and be open & honest with?

OP posts:
PorpentinaScamander · 22/12/2019 01:25

My brother. I'm 35 and he is the only person I can trust completely to always have my back.

Littlemiss74 · 22/12/2019 01:27

That’s nice. I am lucky to also be blessed with a lovely brother.

OP posts:
7salmonswimming · 22/12/2019 01:30

Trust with what?

My life? Many people. Most people, I like to think. Same goes for everyone. Not a reflection on me, but on the human condition.

My children before anything or anyone else? DH, all the DGPs.

Tittle-tattle, thoughts, feelings, day to day life? 8 or 9 friends. I’m very lucky. They would never betray a confidence.

Never, ever to do anything but the right and best thing by me? 1 person.

PumpkinP · 22/12/2019 01:32

There is no one I trust 100%

DramaAlpaca · 22/12/2019 01:32

My DH. I know I can trust him totally & utterly. He's been my best friend since we met 32 years ago.

I have plenty of friends I like very much & enjoy their company, but DH is the only person I know I can really rely on.

mummycubs · 22/12/2019 01:33

I have quite a big family (older brother, older sister, younger sister, two younger brothers, my parents, several aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, nieces, nephews and I have six children of my own) but other than my family, I can only 100% trust two people. My best friend (I also delivered her twins, my god-children now, when her waters broke a month early Shock) and her grandmother, who I lived with when I was eighteen and struggling through college halfway across the country from my family. Other than that, I can honestly say I wouldn't trust anyone else outside of family with anything even remotely personal.

RonaldMcDonald · 22/12/2019 01:33

4 in the world

katewhinesalot · 22/12/2019 01:41

Quite a few but I'd turn to my sister first in a desperate situation.

rudolfsquiffy · 22/12/2019 01:54

A few good friends, a cousin, no siblings (I have 4)

managedmis · 22/12/2019 01:55

Myself and my mother.

managedmis · 22/12/2019 01:56

Why can’t I find a friend that I can trust and be open & honest with?

^

Because you're not 7?

katy1213 · 22/12/2019 02:02

Two best friends, known one for 40-odd years, the other since primary school; completely trustworthy, and would turn to them before family. Other friends ... up to a point.

Drabarni · 22/12/2019 02:09

Myself

NameChangedNoImagination · 22/12/2019 02:13

My dad.

aurynne · 22/12/2019 03:58

100%? No one, not even myself. We are all human. And as I don't believe in God either, and hence no one perfect exists, then I trust no one 100%.

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 22/12/2019 04:13

Just don't tell them anything you don't want to reveal about yourself. Then they can't gossip. They can still be friends.

MissLadyM · 22/12/2019 04:23

None. Always just trust yourself.

metalkprettyoneday · 22/12/2019 04:23

It depends what you mean by trust. I have lots of people I would trust with my credit card , my house , ti look after my child. They have good morals and I just can’t imagine them doing something untrustworthy - it wouldn’t fit with their own self image . Same with me,and my partner and friends that I talk personally with.

WendyMoiraAngelaDarling · 22/12/2019 04:27

Not one person.

Ineedaweeinpeace · 22/12/2019 04:39

No one! Me 🙌

golddustwomen · 22/12/2019 04:55

No one.

Fifthtimelucky · 22/12/2019 08:02

Other than close family, the people I trust the most are my oldest friends: I have known one for over 50 years, two others for over 45 years, one for over 35 years (who is married to one of the others). I don't see any of them very often as we all live in different parts of the country, but I still consider them my best friends.

ghostmouse · 22/12/2019 08:03

No one

Waxonwaxoff0 · 22/12/2019 08:21

My mum. No one else.

I have wonderful friends, but in general I think that trusting anyone 100% is a bit naive. Anyone could turn on you at any time.

Tiredwiff · 22/12/2019 20:14

Take all you secrets to the grave

Trust no human!

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