How many people do you know that you can honestly 100% trust?

[Littlemiss74]

I have one long standing friend of over 20 years. She lives 200 miles from me and we see each other around once a year but message each other all the time. She is the only person that I know who I would consider to be a true, genuine, trustworthy friend.

Since my ds started school I have made friends with a small group of mums and we have socialised together many times. We share a lot of information, usually under the influence of several vinos, but I don’t feel that they are entirely trustworthy. Around here everybody knows everybody and there is a lot of gossip. I feel like I can’t really trust these other mums and yet the way they act is as if we’re all super close and trustworthy. I know this not to be the case.

The long & short of it is that I feel very alone -and just wondered if it is normal at the age of 45 to feel non trusting of anyone and reluctant to make friends with any more ‘school friends’. Why can’t I find a friend that I can trust and be open & honest with?

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My Mum, My Brother & my 2 closest friends

My siblings know my darkest secrets. I trust them implicitly.

Sadly, I don't have that level of trust with DH - he broke that spectacularly, and I struggle with that daily.

I'd trust my parent but wouldn't confide and worry them as they are very elderly now and I wouldn't want to burden them.

I dearly wish I had a confidante and am seriously considering counselling in the new year to work through a couple of issues.

My mother. No-one else 100%, that would be daft. I have lovely friends but I know their loyalties will always lie with their families, not mine.

In terms of sharing gossip... don't tell anyone anything you don't want others to know. There's always a chance it could slip out by accident.

I question this. I have a couple of close friends who I trust a lot, but probably only my mum who really has my back?

My eldest sister.

One male friend. One female friend, both I’ve been close to for more than 20 years.

My mum and dad. My children.

Just my husband. I wouldn't trust anyone else to have my back, not gossip or to dow what is right by me.

2 - DH and my best friend of 30 years

My husband. He's the only one.

I trust my mother to put everything on Facebook, even if it's a private conversation, and my mil to tell everyone what's going on in our lives. We reserve what we tell her.

Can't tell Dad anything, because that goes back to Mum, who puts it on Facebook.

Fil is not allowed out of earshot of mil.

I trust DW, DD and my best friend, and when I say trust, I mean those are the people who I believe will never actively seek to harm me. Everyone else is more or less a threat. Up until I was about 14, I trusted pretty much everybody. Then something happened, and I realised people = shit. All of them.

I have quite a few friends who I trust in different ways - to support me if I'm having a bad week, to cheer me up on a night out, to still like me even if we don't see each other for a year, to look after DD, to not hit on my husband . But my most personal deep thoughts and worries I don't really share with anyone, so I guess I don't really trust anyone. I'm ok with that. I get a lot out of my friendships.

My dad, my brother, my sister and my best friend.That's it, but I think I'm lucky.

My mum, my best friend of 30 years, and my DH. I trust them all 100%.

Myself. Nobody comes close.

My parents mean v v well and am most definitely their beloved only child but they aren’t people I’d confide in.

My spouse can be trusted with any DC related matters entirely as he’s the most dedicated dad ever.

My dog is my lifeline and my great love :)

I’ve got friends here and there and one in particular I can enormously trust - he’s about 10 years older and has come through for me on numerous occasions so caringly.