Which child gets the bigger bedroom

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We live in a 3 bed terraced house. The 2nd bedroom is a huge double bedroom and the 3rd bedroom is a small box room. We have DD1 who is in the big 2nd bedroom. We also have a 3 month old DS who is currently in our room, but will need his space eventually.

Do we keep her in the bigger bedroom and he gets the smaller one just for being younger? (although there's only a 1yr age gap)

Or do we have them both sharing the bigger room and keep the box room free/as a playroom for them?

I don't want any resentment in the future from either of them so want to get it fair.

I personally think the oldest gets the biggest bedroom. It's not fair but it's the way it's always been.

I'd put the baby in the box room first and then move him into his sister's room when older. Weirdly children often sleep better when they share. You can use the box room as storage/additional storage space.

They can alternate having the big room when they're too old to share.

My big brother got the big bedroom (until he went to boarding school for sixth form). Not fair but that's just life. The Queen's only the Queen because she's the oldest..

I personally wouldn't go down the room sharing room route.
Oldest gets the biggest bedroom. It's not written down anywhere but that's the way most folk do it. And if course a right of passage for the younger child to inherit room when older one goes off to uni. Unless of course oldest decides they want the small room.

Oldest. It’s totally fair because you will find the oldest is the trailblazer. Not allowed an iPod until 8? The youngest will get it a year earlier. No boyfriend until 18? Youngest will get one at 16.

Oldest takes the biggest bedroom as payback

We're the same, we tried both, they share now - there choice and so much easier actually

Some people swap their rooms around every so often.

Do you own the house or rent?

We had a similar issue (double room next to a box room) & are in the process of making them more even by building a wall about 3 foot into the double room & then taking down the old wall so both rooms are good sized singles.

As the mother of a boy and girl- girls tend to have more stuff. Son is now 9 and doesn't play with toys at all. daughter a little younger still plays with dolls, Lego, dress up, colouring etc etc. She has the bigger room x

If the rooms are so disproportionate, I'd move the wall across, so they are more even in size! This is exactly what we did and now have 2 reasonably bedrooms, rather than a ridiculously small box room with an enormous room next door. Its also fair and solves the small and large room debate.

Can you partition the big bedroom to two sleeping zones and use the small room for a playroom ?

I think it’s normal for the older one to get the bigger room; I wouldn’t have them share as in their younger years they’ll wake each other up and then you’ll want them to have separate rooms as they get older anyway

DD is a year younger than DS but she has the 'big' room. More stuff, furniture and toys.

Both bedrooms have the master bedroom in between them so we can't change the sizes of them. We were thinking of maybe allocating her bedroom as a play area for both of them during the day to make it fair, but then that gives her no privacy if she wants some.

For those of you that grew up having the small bedroom, did you feel hard done by?

Eldest gets it. It’s the law

The most controversial parenting decision we made was moving our eldest into the smaller room at about 8 years old because (2.5 year age gao) the youngests still played with toys. The boys are fine but its like we breached some sacred natural law - lots of people comment negatively.

Eldest gets it. And depending on her age, she isn’t going to appreciate a toddler going through and destroying her things so I wouldn’t make her share

If there's only a year between them I would have them share the bigger room and revisit the decision in five or six years time.

Is the double big enough to put a thin stud wall down the middle to make it 2 box rooms? Then they could have a bedroom each and a shared playroom but you could easily put it back to normal again when they're older and need properly separate rooms.

My brother and I (just over a year between us) shared a room until about 5/6. You don't need separate rooms before then (or even until older if necessary, but once the older one starts school they suddenly become very conscious of the younger being a 'baby' compared to them )

Oldest gets the biggest room. Not always fair as our dd had the smallest room all the time, now she'll have the bigger one for about 2 years until she moves out. Her siblings had the big room for far longer.

You could have them share the box room just for sleeping and then a playroom in the bigger room.
I think you just have to be happy to swop and change as the need arises.

It seems like it's overwhelmingly the eldest ones 'rights' to have the biggest bedroom! Maybe we'll put the baby in the box room and have a rethink later on if it becomes an issue. Thanks to everyone for the replies.

Girls tend to have more stuff. I think you revisit as and when. For the moment either they share or ledge your dd where she is.

They might like sharing, but either way oldest gets the biggest And I say that as a younger sibling.