Which child gets the bigger bedroom

[Bingit]

We live in a 3 bed terraced house. The 2nd bedroom is a huge double bedroom and the 3rd bedroom is a small box room. We have DD1 who is in the big 2nd bedroom. We also have a 3 month old DS who is currently in our room, but will need his space eventually.

Do we keep her in the bigger bedroom and he gets the smaller one just for being younger? (although there's only a 1yr age gap)

Or do we have them both sharing the bigger room and keep the box room free/as a playroom for them?

I don't want any resentment in the future from either of them so want to get it fair.

I am the oldest. I’ve always always had the smallest bedroom, as soon as my siblings came along I was shoved off into the smallest bedroom. I wish my mum had read this thread 😂 in my house, the oldest gets the biggest room.

I'd say baby in the box room then sharing. How long do you think you'll be in that house? You might well be somewhere else by the time they start to care about having their own rooms.

My youngest has the biggest room as I didn’t want to move my oldest just because I was having another baby.

@Bingit I find older boys don't have as much stuff as girls, they have clothes and an xbox? Girls have clothes, bags, make-up, hair products, big fancy mirrors etc 🥴🤣

If the master bedroom is in the middle of the kids rooms, couldnt you move the wall adjoining the box room to even them out? You could then move to the other large room yourself, or stay in the master one- albeit it a little smaller.

I had a tiny boxroom growing up. Big brother had larger bedroom. Didn't bother me in the slightest because it was what I grew up with.
I did get a curtain put on in my teenage years to give me more space but there weren't the snazzy folding doors back then.

I was the eldest and got the biggest bedroom - my younger brother got it when I left for university. He was always fine with it as it was just what we grew up with.

My two share quite happily as it's the only way they can both sleep on the same floor as us.

Ds who is the youngest of 3 and the only boy had the biggest room in his parents house for his giant train set. His sisters still haven't forgiven their parents.

Can you even it at all? It doesn’t sound fair how you split it. Can the master room lose any space? Can you put storage in the middle room for both (all clothes / other storage for the house)? Can you split the master room and you take the middle room and use the box room for storage? Etc.

OP, are you planning on staying in this house? if the bedroom is so large that a stud wall is a possibility it certainly would be worth thinking about. Two single rooms give them both a degree of privacy.

Obviously it's not essential, but privacy during the teenage years can be very nice.

My boys always shared and small room was toy room, I said whoever wants there own room first gets the small room

Eldest will spend more time in their room.
Eldest will experience the upheaval if she's switched.
Eldest will face upheaval if she suddenly has to share, it's not fun all the time.
You don't need a playroom, they will play even in an undesignated space.

I have a 2 bed house and 2 boys (4 and 6) some night's they are up till 9, chatting, arguing or just generally messing about. It isn't fun, I cannot stress this enough. Add to this the rows that occur because as DS1 grows up he wants privacy.

I have offered him my smaller bedroom and me and DS2 will share the big bedroom. DS1 is thinking about it because he sees the loss of floorspace as a loss, but he gets to have his own space again.
He will also miss his lil bro for those late night chats/fallouts/unauthorised late nights.
I honestly wish I'd never put them in the same room.

My daughter is moving into the bigger bedroom so the box room is free for our baby, when he/she is born. Dd has loads of bits and I’ll be happy when it’s all in one place. We are going to paint it for her and get her a toddler bed and make it special though.

We have the same and bar a couple of years when they shared, oldest has always had the big bedroom HOWEVER his bed converts to a double so he gets turfed out whenever we have guests (not often to be fair) but more importantly he has a huge shelving unit that houses 90% of our toys, board games, toy boxes for Lego, dolls, playmobile etc and he knows he has to allow youngest access to get whatever he wants.

Both DH & I are the youngest in our families & both had the smallest rooms & HATED it.

This was a big part of making sure all 3 of our DC have equal sized bedrooms.

Could anything be done to make the box room bigger? Could you have a large built in wardrobe that uses space from the master bedroom so there would be no need for wardrobe/chest of drawers in the bedroom space?

We asked DS if he wanted to move into the big spare room but he wanted to stay put. So DD who is 2 years younger, got the big bedroom. He didn’t realise what he was missing out on but got a cool cabin bed to make the most of his smaller room. So DD is jealous of his cool bed, DS is jealous of the extra space she has!

I was an only child so I've asked my husband how he felt as a younger child in a box room. He didn't mind it at all. When his brother went to uni he moved into the bigger room and from what I can tell his brother didn't mind staying in the box room on his visits home.

My DD is in the smallest bedroom at the moment and when her brother is old enough to move out of our room he will be going into her bedroom with her. The room will be used for sleeping while the larger "spare" bedroom will be a play room for them. When they are old enough to want their own rooms we will hopefully be able to move the wall between the two to make two more equal size rooms.

Eldest got the biggest room here, by dint of moving into it first. We should, at some point, have thought about swapping them over when she grew out of her big toys and dd2 had them still, but instead we did high sleepers etc in the smaller room for dd2.

Now, DD1 has moved out to uni and is only home for 4 weeks at a time until the summer. She always knew that this would be the point that DD2 would get the bigger bedroom - and that has happened without any fuss and DD1 has adjusted brilliantly (with no moaning) to the smaller room on return for the holidays.

You'd have thought I was moving house and not telling her where we were going by the reaction of some mnetters to her losing the big bedroom at the age of 18.

The eldest has the bigger room.

Put them both in the big room for now and revisit this problem in 5 years time.

Oldest always gets the biggest room!

When we moved second daughter got the biggest room on the grounds that she’d be here to enjoy it for longer, (older teenagers, oldest off to uni next year,) for little ones the oldest gets the bigger room.

I got the bigger room when we were younger, I am the youngest.

I had more stuff so it made sense, my parents then gave up the dressing room on the side of their bedroom to knock through for a bigger bedroom for my brother

I would go youngest gets the biggest as they tend to need more space for playing than older children but your children are very close in age. It's stay with the slightly older one having the bigger bedroom as the youngest is still a baby. If keep the room neutrally decorated so not plastered in characters from her favourite programme etc and move them about of he needs more room for a while or just to let him have a turn in the future.