Which child gets the bigger bedroom

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We live in a 3 bed terraced house. The 2nd bedroom is a huge double bedroom and the 3rd bedroom is a small box room. We have DD1 who is in the big 2nd bedroom. We also have a 3 month old DS who is currently in our room, but will need his space eventually.

Do we keep her in the bigger bedroom and he gets the smaller one just for being younger? (although there's only a 1yr age gap)

Or do we have them both sharing the bigger room and keep the box room free/as a playroom for them?

I don't want any resentment in the future from either of them so want to get it fair.

My thinking is a girl will usually need more space than a boy (though there are many exceptions).

I think it does depend on how small the smaller room is. Will it accommodate a bed, plus a desk for study and reasonable clothing storage? If it's too small for that then I don't think it's fair for the younger child to have it forever, it'll impact on their homework and study when they get older.

I’d have them sharing for several years and would turn the box room into a chill out area for them.

We have 4 double rooms but one is considerably smaller.

DD1 has the smaller bedroom, because she wanted a small 'cosy' bedroom and a cabin bed. DD2 also has a huge play tent she needed to fit in.

The spare larger double is currently used as a playroom, but we've told DD1 she can have it in the future if she wishes.

As the younger DD, I always had the smaller bedroom growing up and was happy with that.

Only issue ever was when now DH and I bought a house to move in together. I chose a house with the smallest bedroom facing East which is my preference. I intended the 'master suite' to be a lovely, west facing study for us to share.

He usually lets me have my way but is adamant that we sleep in the 'master suite '.

Sigh. He is the elder . Xx

If there is only a 1 year age gap they can share and then have the box room as a playroom (if you wanted) or spare room/study/whatever.
She doesn't need privacy at this age and probably won't until at least the age of 6, so you have a while before it's an issue. And as there would be two rooms (bedroom and playroom) she would be able to have privacy in one or the other.
Plenty of kids share until they're 8 or 9 with no issues. I loved sharing with my brother when we were younger and we had a much bigger age gap.

Put them in together, they will probably be happy to share for a good few years, meanwhile save hard so you can convert the loft and make yourselves a lovely master bedroom and bathroom up there and the kids both get good sized bedrooms on the first floor.
Worked for us.

Apparently we went against convention!

Oldest went into the box room and new baby in the bigger room because of nursing chair, changing table and so on.

There's only a year between them so who knows what will happen in the future.

I was the youngest in the box room growing up and I loved it, it was never issue. I had amazing built in wardrobes and a cabin bed to utilise the space-my brother just had boring standard bed etc and of course I inherited his room when he went off to uni.

Make the box room special and it won’t be a problem.

There's two years between my brother and I.

Every couple of years we used to swap rooms. I preferred the smaller room in the end anyway.

If it were me, I'd toss a coin and then just swap them over every year or so. It's a good way of getting rid of clutter.

We gave the bigger room to the youngest because they had bigger toys eg play kitchen.

When we move/extend our home, the eldest will get a bigger room.

Eldest gets the bigger room. Just the way it is. Before we moved, youngest dd's room was really tiny so older dd bedroom was also joint play space.

Oldest gets biggest room, and please don't designate it as a daytime playroom, that's not fair at all and she'll hate it

Oldest gets biggest as they are there first. When eldest went to uni they swapped. I always had to share with my Dsis and was jealous of DB in his own box.

Ours weren’t next to each other so couldn’t reconfigure rooms. I do wonder what the architects were thinking when planning these houses. We have 2 large doubles and box and a large landing?!?? We have put a study area in the landing so at least they don’t need to fit a desk into the box.

Also couldn’t go into the large loft without spending £40k as the roof slopes awkwardly which affects the staircase apparently.

I always had a massive room and my sister always had the box room growing up. It meant my room was always a tip because we played in there all the time, and she never had enough space.
I plan to alternate with my kids - once every two years in the summer holidays we'll have a big sort out, swap rooms, get new bedding etc.

I've read about oldest children being more successful in life & wonder if it's a bit of 'oldest child privilege' that starts with the automatic getting the big bedroom etc.

More space to study, more space to be creative, to relax etc

I understand that a small bedroom can be nice but if you have a double room & a box room then in my opinion they should be swapped every year.

When we were teenagers we moved from a 2 bed to a 3. My younger sis demanded the big bedroom or threatened that she would go & live with grandparents (just 2 miles away). My mother gave in. Although if DM had really thought about it, I very much doubt GPs would have allowed it (certainly not permanently).

Sis then got the room decorated to how she wanted it. I didn't even get curtains in my box room. A pair only got put up after I moved out 2 years later.

Unfortunately this just followed the script of most of our childhood. I left home as soon as I was able to.

We've got a bigger gap but DC3 has the biggest room as she has the most stuff and big stuff at that, dolls house, kitchen, pram etc. Other DCs are older and don't have much stuff or toys any more so no need for a big space. The other 2 rooms are decent sized for the purpose though and not box rooms.

Share until 6/7 and then eldest in box room with high sleeper. We had this dilemma with a recent house move and chose this way round as eldest wanted privacy but youngest didn't mind having a joint bedroom/playroom.

My brother had the smallest room as he's younger, he didn't care one bit, was just happy to have his own room, likewise with my BIL

Does your bedroom have to be your bedroom? I'd think about moving walls if I could. Children spend a lot more time in their bedrooms than adults.

Our younger has the small bedroom because he does better in his own space (ASD) and plays a lot in the shared living space where the adults are anyway. His sisters share but we are about to create another room. Middle child will get biggest room as she still has most toys. Dd1 not fussed as more into books, tablet, drawing than toys.

I would put youngest in the small room as realistically he will mostly play in the living areas for sometime to come. It can change down the line if need be, me and my younger brother swapped over every year as teens.

We moved in to our house when DS was 3 weeks off turning 4. He was allowed to choose which room he wanted (apart from the master). He chose the middle sized room. DD arrived a year later and her room is bigger.
My dad often makes pointed remarks about how the baby got the bigger room regardless if how many times it's explained to him that DS chose his own room. Mind you he also comments on how the spare room is the smallest of the 4 bedrooms and really it should be DD room. No! We have guests about 4 times a year, DD lives here

My eldest has the middle room. The two younger ones will be moving into the biggest room early next year and I’ll be having the box room. People love to have a shitfit about that. They start stuttering about family hierarchy bollocks. Do whatever works for your family and don’t listen to dissenters