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Help. DP being sick and I am phobic.

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thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 16/12/2019 07:55

I know there's nothing to be done. It is what it is. But I'm freaking out. Am now at work but can't relax. My heart is racing and I feel so anxious.

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AShaveAndAHarecutHalfPrice · 16/12/2019 07:57

He is a grown man, so leave him to it and go out.

I appreciate you are phobic and this is freaking you. But in 30 years of marrriage I have never needed to be with my DH while he puked!

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 16/12/2019 07:58

I don't want to be with him. I want to be as far away as possible. Like I said I am now at work but even though I'm not at home I feel so anxious. I don't want to go home tonight.

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AShaveAndAHarecutHalfPrice · 16/12/2019 08:11

Ah. I thought you meant how to cope with practical dealing.

Stay at your mums!

Dyrne · 16/12/2019 08:14

If you are genuinely phobic then there’s not much you can do this time around. Text him to see if he needs anything (meds/soup etc) dropped round then stay at a friends house if you’re really that phobic.

Then get yourself to a doctor and ask for help in dealing with this phobia. Do you want children? If so, you need to tackle it.

Dyrne · 16/12/2019 08:18

If it helps, he’s probably not going to be actively sick for too much longer - by the time you finish work most likely he’ll just be exhausted and dehydrated; and need to be in bed. If you can’t stay anywhere, then get what you need to sleep on the sofa tonight and leave him to it with a bucket by the bed, and make sure he’s drinking Sips of water when he can.

To be honest - that’s pretty much all I do when DP is Ill - he just wants to be left alone to feel like shit so I just pop up hourly to offer him food/water/meds and get in with my day.

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