Fuck it, just fuck it.

[crosser62]

I’ve just had enough of everything and every one.
Christmas can fuck off, the house can fuck off, work can’t fuck off and the fucking family can fuck off.

I feel like just getting in the car and driving far away and never coming back.

And people have it much much worse than me, this I know.
But just now, its got right on top of me.
I can’t see any way out of it, no break from it, no escape and no solutions.

Ok you can put that martyr label on my forehead now, you know you are going to..

Today’s best saying...”CHUCK IT IN THE FUCK IT BUCKET”.
Love that saying.

What a cathartic thread. We are not alone.
Fuck it to the over tired, over stimulated, over worked, in a state of constant excitement kids x3. Fuck it to all the fucking shoes that are blocking the hallway and that people cannot remember to put away in actual shoe storage.
Fuck it to the constant stream of concerts, assemblies, performances (class, choir, orchestra, theatre group) (x3) that mean rearranging work to attend at completely awkward times.
Fuck it to having to dig deep and find other polite conversations when elders in the family want to talk about everything Tory.
Fuck it to having to remember the million extra things, (Christmas jumper day! Wear something red and donate day! Bring in cakes to sell after school! Etc etc etc)
Fuck it to the fact that if I feel grumpy and pissed off, it affects everyone else's mood and I can't climb into a concealed chamber and feel sorry for myself and scream.

Life is mostly great. But sometimes/ just fuck the whole lot of ye's!

How about one of those garden sheds converted into a woman cave? I'd love one, except my garden's not big enough (and we can't afford it). That would solve the problem!

Fuck fuck fuckity fuck. Then fuck off some more.
This is my kind of thread. Pretty much the same as all of you guys except I am getting out of work...only due to pneumonia 🙄
OP, as a fellow nurse, I hope you get a good post night shift sleep. Nothing better than snuggling up in a quiet house!!

Night shift from the depths of HELL itself!
Why do people have to be ill? Why???
Pffft. I did care though, I cared my ass off all night but have still come away worrying to death that I’ve missed something or done something wrong as I ended up overloaded with work with more poorly patients than was humanly possible to care for due to their level of sickness.
Missed a drug, gave the drug slightly late...an incident will be submitted about me this morning that I shall have to answer to when back on a day shift tomorrow..3 day staff rang in sick over night and another 2 came in and went off sick so hand over was late.
Handed over to a very very pissed off nurse who is tasked with caring for some very very sick patients until 8 o’clock tonight with very little chance of a break all day due to staffing crisis.
So last night can fuck off too.
Being a nurse can fuck off, and incident reporting may as well fuck off too as it’s s fucking stick to beat us with at every single turn.

Now, best get cleaning while waiting for a parcel delivery this morning...

Sympathies, OP.
I was once so fed up with dds' endless very noisy but not too serious fighting and the dog joining in with endless barking, dds ignoring my repeated heartfelt pleas for PLEASE some peace and quiet, that I fucked off to stay the night with a friend a 2 hour drive away.
Dh was away long-term for work, dds were maybe 10 and 13, no more.
I didn't care.
It was lovely!

Gave dds a bit of a shock, though!

OP I’ve been sent to this thread from my own Christmas hell thread. I sympathise, I too am a nurse.

The incident report should be a learning tool - I am sorry that the experience you have is that’s is a stick to bear with. That’s fundamentally a terrible way to treat staff.

Solidarity to my nursing colleague x

OP: that sounds horrible.

Keep your head held high and point out that the ‘incident’ is about systemic failure and the inability of one individual to replace 2 others without risk.

I have occasion to visit 2 separate hospitals. The one that displays the % of ward staff as being present at 80%- 70% on any given day is the one that has caused problems due to lack of care. It isn’t the fault of the staff who are present, it is the failure of the hospital to (be able to) provide full staffing.

Huge to you.

OP, submit your own incident report about staffing levels / conditions. You can do it retrospectively. I know that is not a magic answer and will probably be ignored but it would put some of your own concerns on record. Print out a copy of your ward has access to a functioning printer. Also if you are genuinely concerned and are in a Union you could contact your rep.

You have my sympathies... the wards are fucking awful to work on and often dangerous and situations like that are why I felt I had to leave .

Either don't do presents - or cash/vouchers.

Food - get some really simple stuff in. I know its super lazy but I always have those ready cooked jacket spuds in 5 mins in micro for a really nice spud with cheese, beans, or whatever.

Give DH a deadline for removing his shit from.your nice room.

Get yourself some nice chocolates ready for when you have your room ready

Tell DH and the kids how you're feeling.

Book a day off asap to do fuck all (have a boxing day - the book below will make it all make sense!)

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Is moving to a private hospital an option? Or working in a day clinic? Or doing botox? Most of the nurses I know have pretty much jacked it in to do do botox and fillers and are making ££££ a bit depressing but even as a bit if a break it might be an option?

I feel for everyone working in the NHS, thank you for what you do, OP, I'm sorry its so shit.💐🍷☕🍹🍸🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫💐💐

Unfortunately I am in the last 10 years of working so have to think of my pension.
I have no degree (did the old “traditional “ nurse training so I am extremely restricted as to where I can work.
That’s right dear reader, 30 years nursing experience and I have zero chance of getting a job against someone 3 years qualified as I have no degree.
Fun fun fun!

Oh OP, that's such a bastard! Even more💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐 to you.

Get that book!

We had emergency plumbers booked 8am this morning for several repairs that involved waking children, co-ordinating early showers, clearing access and animal wrangling.
I thought ‘Fuckit cubed’ told DH I was off to work and left at my usual time of 7.20am. To go to my nearest city and enjoy a spot of Christmas cheer and a delicious hot chocolate. Plan on wombling home in a couple of hours to see how they all coped.
And yes, OP. Buy a lock for your special room.

Sorry to hear about your shit night shift. Mine was short staffed, populated by bank staff who didn't know how to do their job and I didn't have time to constantly check that they were doing things properly or at all but will be the one who gets in trouble if they weren't done, handing over to another short-staffed shift, handover took for-fucking-ever because people kept interrupting and I left a hour late. And, yes, incident forms can fuck right off.
Then, I went to some shops instead of going home to bed. Who knows why I thought that would be a good idea. Now I can barely remember my own name but have tonnes to do before I pick up DC from school, make dinner, go to a volunteer thing that I enjoy but won't be able to go to for months next year because of my work shifts. Tomorrrow I have to go to a school Christmas carol concert to watch my DC be one out of abot 250 kids singing some songs. She probably won't be able to see me and I won't be able to see her, but I still have to go.

And school shirts that have to be ironed can fuck right off too. I wouldn't have to iron anything if it wasn't for them (people can just do without the rest of the small amount of stuff that needs ironing until I have time). Where have I got time for that shit?
And cats that eat random stuff and then vomit on the floor, they can fuck off too.

And my dishwasher and tumble dryer with their stubborn refusal to wash or dry stuff properly. I was so surprised yesterday to put my tumble dryer on, go out and come back to find the clothes were dry. So, I put several large towels in and now it is back to its usual ways of whirring on for 4 or more hours without the towels getting any drier. I don't have space to dry all these towels on radiators/ clothes horses.
Fuck off stupid fucking machine. I don't why the dishwasher felt the need to join in with this fuckery today.

Yep i feel ya too OP.

Sometimes i find something quite small is the final straw:

Waitrose website being partially broken just as i'm trying to amend my xmas order.

Local shops are all out of chocolate oranges. Ffs

Yes, first world problems etc i know i know

rufflecrow yes, to the absence of chocolate oranges. Apparently, they are DC2's teacher's favourite chocolate. He won't want the chocolates I already bought from the supermarket, only a chocolate orange. Searching shops from a chocolate orange was not what I wanted to do after my night shift.

And my right little toe can fuck off because it really hurts and I don't know why. I wish 'my toe hurts a lot' could be an excuse to sit on the settee and not go anywhere but DC need picking up from school and I am sitting here in my pyjamas, moaning and achieving nothing with my last bit of childfree time.

@crosser62 just want to say a huge thank you for being an amazing nurse, doing a job I could never do and just being amazing. I hereby give you a prescription of proseco, crisps, twiglets and chocolate. You must also add in looking on the internet for a small holiday for you only - three days away can be very restorative. I recommend Guernsey.

hi ^^happypotamus asda have choc oranges if you near one
hope all you nurses and healthcarers can get some much needed time off or sleep or whatever you need to survive the onslaught
to you all

Auch just fucken do it. I'd do it myself but there's only me here so I'd only be running from me...and taking me with me. Still considering it though, I'll still be stuck with myself but at least it'll be on a beach somewhere with a cocktail in my hand.

Lists are your friend, but only make a list of the stuff you HAVE to do that day, they get everyone to “chose” which job they want from that day’s list.....stuff may not be done exactly the way you’d do it, but it will be done!

Then make sure you take some time for yourself each day, could be just a coffee in a local cafe, but do it alone. Everyone will benefit form you being less stressed, plus they might get an idea of how much you actually do to keep the Christmas plates spinning!
Hugs to you x

Fuck fucking choir concerts. My children, my mother and my mil are in choirs. I have been to four choir concerts in the past two weeks and I hate them. Hate them. But have to smile and clap while I am sung at. Sacrificing another evening of my precious adult time.

Fuck the endless stream of money going into school this time of year.

Fuck all the expectations people put on me.

All I wanted to do in the run up to Xmas this year was some festive baking and winter walks

I've been so busy running around after everyone else that I have not baked or walked once.

My youngest doesn't sleep.

I work two jobs. DH does long shifts.

Today I sat on the sofa and just cried with exhaustion