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Fuck it, just fuck it.

105 replies

crosser62 · 15/12/2019 11:15

I’ve just had enough of everything and every one.
Christmas can fuck off, the house can fuck off, work can’t fuck off and the fucking family can fuck off.

I feel like just getting in the car and driving far away and never coming back.

And people have it much much worse than me, this I know.
But just now, its got right on top of me.
I can’t see any way out of it, no break from it, no escape and no solutions.

Ok you can put that martyr label on my forehead now, you know you are going to..

OP posts:
jinglebelldogs · 15/12/2019 13:20

I hope you grabbed all his shit out the room and dumped it in the hall!

PocketsForMe · 15/12/2019 13:32

Also fucking sick of the lot of it. Was not even fully out of my car yesterday and dd was shouting requests out of her bedroom window
Fuck off

Works a nightmare
Fuck off

Not bought any presents and have no money
Fuck off

Tv has broken
Fuck off

Have not even put my tree up this year and don’t think I will because my house is a shit tip and I can’t get motivated to do anything about it

Anyway, thanks I needed that! I know you didn’t ask but YANBU

originaldomesticgodess · 15/12/2019 13:33

Fucking minibus grumpysausage? Try a fucking double decker. Fucking count me in. In fact just typing fuck has made me feel better 😁. Fuck, fuck, fuckitty fuck.

happypotamus · 15/12/2019 13:35

Further to my earlier message, my DH turned up from whatever the fuck he had been up to (spending about a hour in the bathroom) and said he didn't recall me ever asking him previously about what we were going to get DC for Christmas. I have been asking regularly for at least 2 months when relatives started asking what they should get and I couldn't give them suggestions from my list of ideas because he wouldn't engage in discussing what we were getting. He then suggested a budget per DC that I don't think we can afford but he does. I wanted to tell him to decide on and order the fucking presents because I am tired and have a shit ton of things to do and have run out of time for a nap before my night shift and can't see where I will fit in much sleeping in the next 10 days, but he has fucked off to ride his bike.
I have to make photobooks of DC throughout the year for each set of grandparents but think I am too late to order in time and it takes fucking hours to do. I can't tell DH he has to do that because he thinks they are unnecessary but our parents with be disappointed if they don't get them and my siblings who have their lives together will have done them for my parents.
Everyone else who isn't a small child might just get a bloody Amazon voucher, but I will regret that on Christmas when I watch people open their voucher alongside great stuff my siblings/ other people have got them.

Foo2 · 15/12/2019 13:36

I hear you OP Flowers

IdiotInDisguise · 15/12/2019 13:39

There was a time in my life when I felt like that, at that point I would fuck off to IKEA for a whole day out on my own. It brought balance into my life.

Everyone needs a rest and time to fuck off to do their own thing, so embrace the escape and make the best of it.

Ninkanink · 15/12/2019 13:39

Absolutely agree with pp - my first thought was, this year just get vouchers for everyone. Literally everyone. It’s a great present - people can get themselves something they actually want and you don’t have to stress at all. Order them online so you don’t have the hassle of leaving the house.

Your husband needs to stop leaving his shit around!

Most of all, give up doing absolutely anything that you do not have to do! No guilt. This year is your year to chill.

Ohfrigginghellers · 15/12/2019 13:39

I just want to let you and whilst it probably doesn't help right now you are making a difference to people's lives and no doubt will make those suffering at the moment just feel that little bit better.

Orangeblossom78 · 15/12/2019 13:41

I have to make photobooks of DC throughout the year

But the thing is you don't. I guess things like this start from an idea, not being told you have to. It then sets a precedent.

My Dh has done something like this. One year he decided it would be funny to get his parents stockings. So now he does it every year. and they for us. I kind of wish he hadn't started it in a way. But that was his choice (shrugs)

MeRecycled · 15/12/2019 13:47

Write a list here of presents you need to buy and we can make suggestions. I've been combing the Christmas threads.

Iwishiwasinvisible · 15/12/2019 13:48

OP, you are such a champion, all you do on so little sleep. I have so much admiration for people like you who keep everything together for everyone. You definitely deserve a clean sofa! Jesus.

BathHell · 15/12/2019 13:49

OP have you read Ladder of Years by Anne Tyler? Glorious book.

Italiangreyhound · 15/12/2019 13:54

@crosser62

Sounds very tough, I know how you feel at times. I've been very stressed last few weeks and my regular lament to dh is 'I'm at the end of my tether' and 'One day I will pack my bag and walk out.'

BUT of course I will not. I love my kids and my dh and I have nowhere to go!

If you just want a hand-hold, here is one handhold

Italiangreyhound · 15/12/2019 13:55

sorry here it is

Italiangreyhound · 15/12/2019 13:56

PS My dd is cooking dinner, my dh did the shopping and my ds (9) has even managed to go up stairs and flushed the loo when asked to do so! Get those family members helping you!

SilverDragonfly1 · 15/12/2019 14:03

I would be fuming about the room. Chuck all the crap out and buy a padlock and hasp...

Ofthread · 15/12/2019 14:08

This is exactly how I feel. Combination of the election, work, and trying to buy a house four times (different houses) and losing out every time.

Everything can just fuck off. I just want to sit with the cat and watch YouTube, but that's making me angry too.

FurrySlipperBoots · 15/12/2019 14:13

@Alakazam8

That was brilliant! Grin

NurseP · 15/12/2019 14:17

Another night nurse here. Husband sat on butt all day while I wade through the laundry after a really shitty shift at work.😡 . Can I come to this gin and chocolate retreat please?

Sandaled · 15/12/2019 14:21

OP just as some have it worse doesn't mean you can't feel fed up with it all! Night shifts are savage, let alone, I imagine as a nurse where you don't get downtime and are on your feet for most of the time; on top of everything else that's a lot! Do you ever get a chance to go out by yourself or with friends? I wouldnt worry too much about presents, can you just do boxes of chocolate or something?

longtompot · 15/12/2019 14:22

Oh op, I hear you loud & clear. My anxiety has been rising over the past few weeks. I am currently hosting a swarm of butterflies in my stomach and feel quite sick. There is nothing to stress about, apart from possible Christmas day arguments (politics). But, presents are pretty much bought, and if not, ideas written down, which for me is a very good thing.

Are your kids ofan age you can speak to them about it? Explain how what they are or aren't doing is making you feel.

Would taking a walk help? I don't know what the weather is like where you are, but if its like it is here, windy but sunny, it might help clear your head.

Anyway, I am off out with my sisters and their kids, for Christmas shenanigans, which as they are much younger, will make me appreciate mine even more Grin

Xenadog · 15/12/2019 14:27

I have found my tribe!

OP, get your husband’s shit and throw it all in a bin bag. Tell him it goes somewhere else or you will get rid of it all, for ever.

I wish the world would just fuck off!!!

ASundayWellSpent · 15/12/2019 14:31

I'm in!

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 15/12/2019 14:32

I hear you, totally and completely.

Everything can fuck right off including the D&V bug that DS2 picked up from school and has been suffering from since Thursday evening, when he puked all over the back of the car (well, on his side anyway).
I've had 4 singing things to do this weekend, 2 per day, and the only useful thing the husband has done is to stay at home with DS2, and to cook dinner both nights. No washing up, no clearing up, no cleaning, no helping with sick child, nothing else.
I realise he's still a "champion" in some people's books for even just doing the cooking but y'know, there's more he could have done...
DS1 ended up giving DS2 his medicine yesterday because I was out when it was needed!

I'm sick of it all and just waiting to see if the bug hits here too - it got MIL after I got her over to sit with DS2 so I could go to Ds1's Y6 presentation video for the end of year (Australia - it is almost the end of the school year here) - fingers crossed I don't cop it!

But if I do, I can guarantee that I'll still have to do fucking everything else anyway.

tillytrotter1 · 15/12/2019 14:32

get binbags for your DHs stuff.

Not environmentally friendly, just dump the lot out of the window, no bags, you'll feel better and your green credentials will be up to date.