Fuck it, just fuck it.

[crosser62]

I’ve just had enough of everything and every one.
Christmas can fuck off, the house can fuck off, work can’t fuck off and the fucking family can fuck off.

I feel like just getting in the car and driving far away and never coming back.

And people have it much much worse than me, this I know.
But just now, its got right on top of me.
I can’t see any way out of it, no break from it, no escape and no solutions.

Ok you can put that martyr label on my forehead now, you know you are going to..

Put a lock on your special room's door lass.

I'm joining you in the the fuck it camp. Client work. Field work. Hairy critters that all need looking after. Feed and hay deliveries. Wrapping (so much bloody wrapping and this year I've cut right down, but I seem to be wrapping everybody elses), and a poorly daughter who needs me to do 200 mile round trips to support (which I'm gladly doing, it's just the journey isn't getting any Stuff! done. To top it off, one of the dogs has eaten something he shouldn't have, which means one of the others has as well, so there's all that cleaning up to enjoy (not!).

Anyhoo. Far more with far worse than me. I'll reel neck in, get off here and finish client work, and keep my fingers crossed that dog stays snoozing, and that DH handles the hay delivery okay, and that DD isn't ouching too much.

Hugs and a handhold to all.

Have had a stressful and sad year and did not want to make it worse by more stress at Christmas so just told everyone , sorry we are cutting right back . Only buying for children ( as in young children ) I want a list of what they want . We are sharing cooking on Christmas Day . I refuse to have everyone to stay . Delagated a list of jobs to my OH . I think it’s best just to be honest sometimes . It’s all got too big and too ridiculous. And what’s the point of making yourself ill.

1. Go into your lovely room, the haven you created for yourself.

1. Open the window.

1. Chuck everything that isn't yours out of the window.

1. Close the window.

Job done

I took a car load to the tip this morning, which made me feel a bit better.

But soMe how, despite the tip rum, my house is still full of crap.

How come?

I have it very easy compared to many folks. I am retired, no kids or grandkids to worry about, a DH who pulls his weight and sufficient money to cater for everyone in our relatively small family this Christmas. Yet even I am in the 'fuck it' camp this year. I think it's because I have health problems which make moving about difficult and uncomfortable, the news is so miserable, we've had no proper chilly winter weather yet - just endless rain - and we had to cancel a much-looked-forward-to break in France because of the strikes. I am trying to gather up the energy to go out and put up the Christmas lights before it gets dark. But I'll probably just broach the Christmas Baileys too soon.

I like wellwhatwasthat's approach :grin:

I now have a dog who is not only feeling a bit gyppy tummy, but who has twanged his leg getting up... He's sat on the sofa, with his back to me as I caught his poorly when I sat down. He has his back to me when normally he'd have his head under my arm... Save me from sulking hounds! Then again, it's much easier to type without a head under my arm :grin:

Wanted to send you a hug, You will feel better at some point. Tried to put on cake and flower emojis but it wouldn't work, sending them in spirit

I stopped doing cards about 10 years ago. Just a best wishes email and some photos to people outside the UK. I chat to my other friends throughout the year and we all agreed no cards.
Presents for family children only.
Secret santa for grownups. Only one gift to buy.
Christmas dinner and one outing.
Since my son died I don't do Christmas at all.
DH, DC and I just go away for a couple of weeks.
My friend has done the same with his dc since his wife died.
My neighbour ( who lost his partner a few years ago) serves lunch in a homeless centre.
It is always women who do all the work for Christmas and we need to stop.

Do this. With your husband's gifts, too!

Get a good lock on the door to your special sanctuary

Please can I join On the double decker, I am 22 weeks pregnant so no gin for me but I'll happily have the chocolate.

I am just so done with it all, I have NO energy, I lm not sure how Christmas is going to happen if I'm honest most of the time I spend crying my eyes out because there's so much to do and I am really overwhelmed by it all.

I am not normally like this I am normally so organised and efficient and things get done, nothing is getting done. I am concerned for my own mental health.

I think most people feel like that deep down.
I know I certainly do.
Heartbreaking circumstances that Christmas brings to life.
Everything just ticks along and then WHAM!! It's vile.

I wanted to run away this week, I knew where I was going as well. Unfortunately I had to stay because builders were due.
I have adult children at home, still not much help.
Would love a place on the bus.

You my friends are fabulous!

Thank you SO much for your sympathies and lovely “fuck it “ messages!
Especially love the “fuck it” song, made me laugh a lot!

Life isn’t all bad, not brilliant but not all bad.
Just overwhelming sometimes.

Being a grown up can fuck off too and take overwhelming with it.

Suggest you go old school.....get a note book and write What I have to do....list items.

It will probably be surprisingly short. Tick them off as you go along. As for buying stuff for relatives. no, get vouchers.

@crosser62 we may be the same person (I've mostly my shopping sorted but otherwise you are me, and your sitting room sounds like mine 😂)
I'll drive us to a ginporium immediately and abandon the car.
All welcome, bring snacks.

online is your friend.order any present you need off there.
nab yourself a food shopping slot whilst there are still some.get it delivered when hubbie is home.then he HAS to unpack.
also if he is a good man then talk to him luv.tell him your feeling ovrhwlemed and whether its rational or not right now you need help.and if the kids are old enoguh tell them this too.
we ued to be shits to my mum,but god if she ever told us this or we saw a post similar to yours i would feel awful for her and would WOULD WOULD step up.we are still often the ones telling our Dad to step the fuck up because he is oblivious.

my mum has an actual fuck it bucket(money jar) where she right all that is fucking her off and puts it in.it help her vent

write*

p.s i dont drink so i can be the driver if you will let me come to fuck it right off land

I hear you, OP

I have been soooo tempted to ignore Christmas this year (now a single parent carer for 2 kids with ASD and my exH also has ASD AND is abusive, woo hoo!) I am well and truly trapped. Its my responsibility and i adore them but it is hard and i often think: 'Fuck it all'.

I remember my Mum 'not doing Xmas' when i was 14. No nice meal, no tiny tree, not so much as a box of chocs. It was horrible, so I am trying.

Hope you feel better tomorrow OP.

Oh, op. I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I do too sometimes. And it's only natural.
Take care of yourself, and be kind to yourself. You don't need to pick up slack for everyone. Drop the things you don't need to do, and let others deal with it.
I wish you a very happy Christmas, someone like you, a great nurse, is making people's lives so much better. Thank you.

Op write a list of everything that needs doing and divide it up...make sure your dh is doing the same amour you are and give some jobs to the kids too!!

Glad you liked the song! At that point myself today. Helps to hum it when really stressed!

I'm having a similar time op. People have treated me like shit despite everything I have gone through this year health wise.
Today we got the Christmas tree down and all my dd did was moan about it that it didn't look as good as anyone else's.
My dh has been a miserable git and I just think why the hell do I bother.