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Mortifying first date, help me feel better?

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Tryingtoslim · 14/12/2019 13:04

Went on a first ‘date’ last night. I say date but really we’d been talking all day and I went out last night. Drunk messaged him and he came and met me. So we went for a drive. Basically I got in a car with someone I don’t know absolutely hammered. Not only that but I was so drunk that I made no conversation and all we did was drive to McDonald’s to pick my friend up some food then dropped me home. I even joked that he was my Uber drive cringe. Oh and to add to the already horrendous situation my card got declined.

Please tell me your first date stories to make me feel a tiny bit better

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AudacityOfHope · 14/12/2019 13:27

How's that in any way a date?!

BalsamicVin · 14/12/2019 13:28

That is not a date at all, that's just a pick up by a stranger

You were very very silly AND lucky

formerbabe · 14/12/2019 13:30

Stop drinking and grow up.

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Tryingtoslim · 14/12/2019 13:43

Yes in hindsight it was very naive

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BalsamicVin · 14/12/2019 13:58

I'm sure the majority of us have done stupid things when we've been drunk, but that really is incredibly dangerous
I hope that's sobered you up today. You should be more concerned about that than it being "cringe" or mortifying

BalsamicVin · 14/12/2019 13:59

Oh and laying off the booze

Bluntness100 · 14/12/2019 14:00

Did you not have a friend there to stop you? As others said, that wasn't a date and I'm not sure why you're classifying it as such.

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 14/12/2019 14:05

So who was he? You'd been talking to him all day, was that online?
I'd say you were very lucky he wasn't a psycho Confused

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Tryingtoslim · 14/12/2019 14:05

My friends were there and actively encouraged it

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Tryingtoslim · 14/12/2019 14:06

I think it’s given me a wake up call I needed, Thankyou for all replies it’s made me really think about my actions

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SleighOfSparkliness · 14/12/2019 14:10

Christ, you need to give up booze and find new friends.

Tryalittletenderness · 14/12/2019 14:16

I had a first date last night too. He turned up with flowers & chocolates. He wanted to take me to dinner, but I didn’t feel up to it, so we settled on a nice cup of tea & 1.5 hour chat. It was beautiful waking up this morning with the flowers beside my bed. Can’t wait to see him again.

JumpyLiz · 14/12/2019 14:18

Eek did he have to pay for your McDonalds as well?

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 14/12/2019 14:19

Basically you made a booty call...

...but instead went to McDonalds.

Feeling kind of sorry for the man. He must be a nice guy to pick you up, drive you around, pay for your mate's McDonalds and drive you home again.

Babyg1995 · 14/12/2019 14:19

That's not a date he gave you a lift to McDonald'sConfused

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Tryingtoslim · 14/12/2019 14:20

No I had cash. It’s interesting that this is deemed really unacceptable behaviour, I’m quite young and everyone I know wouldn’t bat an eyelid at it

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TheNameGames · 14/12/2019 14:21

You are incredibly lucky that you’re still around to write that post.

SpiderCharlotte · 14/12/2019 14:21

Well that is pretty mortifying OP, presumably you haven't heard from him today? Don't make yourself the subject of your 'friends' gossip. And FFS think of your own safety, you are very very lucky.

hidinginthenightgarden · 14/12/2019 14:22

Bloody hell OP!
I have put myself in some dangerous positions when druhnk as a teen - not too similar to this. I look back and am shocked I didn't come to more harm!

hidinginthenightgarden · 14/12/2019 14:23

Tryingtoslim - it will be acceptable but your young friends. You don't understand the dangers until much later on. Trust me!

SpiderCharlotte · 14/12/2019 14:23

No I had cash. It’s interesting that this is deemed really unacceptable behaviour, I’m quite young and everyone I know wouldn’t bat an eyelid at it

Really? If it's so 'normal' why would you even think to post? Presumably you're an adult, so you're old enough to understand when you're put yourself in a really vulnerable position. Well I hope so anyway.

SpiderCharlotte · 14/12/2019 14:24

How old are you OP, are you in your teens?

WhatchaMean · 14/12/2019 14:24

Sounds like the worst date he's ever had. For you it was really just a lift to McDonalds

onemorerose · 14/12/2019 14:25

Yes it was dangerous but he wasn’t a psycho so that’s great. Have you been in contact with him today?

Christmastree43 · 14/12/2019 14:26

Aww bless you OP, I know this sounds like the drunken antics me and and my friends would've got up in our younger days. Don't feel too bad, just have a laugh about it if you can and learn from it about not getting too drunk and getting in cars with strangers. You'll be able to laugh about this one day!

Did you think you may have liked him or was it a complete no anyway? Has he messaged you today? With dating the highs definitely have to come with the lows unfortunately.

Hope you have a happy and healthy Xmas and look forward to the new year!

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