Is your other half voting differently to you?

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I just wondered what other people's situations looked like. My DH is Conservative , however I will be voting Labour.

He thinks I'm ridiculous.

I think he's unfair.

Politics is something I find hard to deal with when it comes to DH.

For example, he believes you vote for what suits you and "everyone does that". When I tried to suggest that no, many people vote for what's best for all of us as a country, he said I was ridiculous and 'nobody sensible does that'.

I feel like 90% of MN are ignoring the antisemitism. It's a big problem.

None of the parties are without major problems, at the moment, particularly for anyone even vaguely left leaning (or centrist, come to that).

The greens are even further down the GRA rabbit hole than the Lib Dems plus are so mired in idealism that their proposals would make life more difficult for a lot of people. I've voted green in the past, but can't, at the moment. Lib dems apparently don't want my vote because I don't support the erosion of women's rights. Labour have begun to see sense on the problems with the GRA but there is the antisemitism issue and Corbyn isn't everyone's cup of tea and, rather than making interim plans to fix what is broken and needing immediate attention, their answer is to re-nationalise everything because everything was allegedly sooo much better in public ownership.

DH used to vote Tory, but now votes Green. He's pretty disillusioned with all the politicians tbf, but environment is his top priority.

I vote LD, L or Green. I'll decide in the booth, and go tactical.

It's a Tory stronghold though.

I feel like 90% of MN are ignoring the antisemitism. It's a big problem. It isn't THE ONLY big problem though.

Draw up a list of each big problem that has been mentioned here or in the media, rank them in order of importance to you and the assign them to each party as appropriate.

If you are honest and diligent about it you won't really have much of a difference to show for your time.

Anti semitism, other racism, eliteism, sexism, etc etc etc

Juts assume they are all as bad as each other then pick the one that offends you least, perhaps!

We regularly vote differently but broadly agree my dh spoilt his thus time as he feels no one was worth voting for. I voted Tory because I have Jewish female friends so no other option for their safety.

I am aware of the handful of anti-Semitic members of the Labour Party but it is a huge organisation and you will always have that, The party do not condone it and Jeremy Corbyn is by no means an anti-Semite. Boris is a racist as well, As Well as many other hideous things. I truly believe that Labour are the best chance that we’ve got.

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Jeremy Corbyn is by no means an anti-Semite You'd really have to go some to back that up! Anti Isreal vs anti Semite is often seen as sophistry and, given his very outspoken support for various Palestinian organisations will always undermine anyone denying his racism.

That coupled with the weird reporting on Boris Johnsn, pointing out his racist terminology when the gist of his speeches containing them were often in support of those he seemingly maligned!

We have been fed a very biased perspective on both of them/by both of them... you just have to go with the bits that feel most true to you!

I could honestly not be with someone who would vote for this Tory shower of shit. Historically I could but not this lot.
My dsis doesn't know who her dh of 29 years votes for as he won't tell her. I like him very much but find this profoundly weird.

Jeremy Corbyn is by no means an anti-Semite

You'd really have to go some to back that up! Anti Isreal vs anti Semite is often seen as sophistry and, given his very outspoken support for various Palestinian organisations will always undermine anyone denying his racism.*

Total nonsense - many of my labour voting Jewish friends agree.

DH has voted Tory in the past but voting Lib Dem this time. I voted Lib Dem last time but Labour this time.

Well said @RoseHippy1.

DH has always voted Labour.
I used to be a lib dem voter but they lost me after the con-dem shit show.
Voted Labour since

I'm the same as you, OP - voting Labour with DH voting conservative. I've left him to it as it's his business - unfortunately he hasn't afforded me the same courtesy and keeps banging on about Corbyn. He misses the point that I'm not voting for Corbyn so much as not voting for Bojo.

Exact same as @marvellousnightforamooncup!

I watched DH do his postal vote but he doesn't know who I voted for (although would be able to narrow down to 2 I think!).

We often vote differently (although did both vote remain!), indyref was the big one but we had to agree to disagree and just got on with it.

Yes, he voted Conservative and I voted LibDem. I understand and support his reasons and he understands and supports mine. We won’t be falling out over it.

Both Labour voters here.

I'm amazed how many people married someone with extremely different values than them. I can understand when it's SNP v Labour or Lib v Tory kind of thing, but how well can a Conservative voter and a Labour voter get on? I mean in terms of core values?

We would vote the same at this election, but OH can't vote.

It wouldn't bother me if he had different political views though, because I'm not a controlling arse; he's his own person and is entitled to whatever political opinions he wants.

It wouldn't change how I feel about him, just the same as all my friends/family having different opinions doesn't stop them being friends/family.

If anything, it makes for interesting chats.

I actually find it really small minded that someone would leave if they found out their OH held different political views to themselves.

Me and my ex always voted the same but it wouldn’t have bothered me had we voted differently

“I actually find it really small minded that someone would leave if they found out their OH held different political views to themselves.”

I don’t think it’s that suddenly 20 years in someone votes for a different party and the other person would then walk out...

But from my POV, I’m not sure how it could get to be a long term relationship if someone had completely different views on the world than me - I mean if you’re both in the centre ground, sure, or on the same side of the spectrum but different parties, sure... they can work.

But really different?...

Me tooKnowhow

I’ve just come back from ‘floating’ down to polling station. At the last minute went Tory, can’t bring myself to tactical vote.

Tomorrow the board outside will have streamers or a sad face drawn on.

Im married to a European and he and I are voting tory.

I'm a leaver and whilst he is remain he accepts the vote went to leave.

But we didn't even discuss it. I was surprised, my dc put him on the the spot I thought he would be going non Liberal non democratic 😂😂

The only time I'd seriously consider is if someone went momentum /Bnp