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Is your other half voting differently to you?

147 replies

youcanonlydraftthefuture · 11/12/2019 12:21

I just wondered what other people's situations looked like. My DH is Conservative , however I will be voting Labour.

He thinks I'm ridiculous.

I think he's unfair.

Politics is something I find hard to deal with when it comes to DH.

For example, he believes you vote for what suits you and "everyone does that". When I tried to suggest that no, many people vote for what's best for all of us as a country, he said I was ridiculous and 'nobody sensible does that'.

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MsChatterbox · 12/12/2019 13:12

My husband is really unorganised. So when I found out he would be voting differently I didn't remind him to register to vote. I know. Terrible.

Defenestratethecat · 12/12/2019 13:17

DH will be voting Conservative in an attempt to stop the SNP candidate getting in. I just can't bring myself to vote Conservative even though I don't want the SNP to win this seat. I can't vote LibDem, what with them not knowing what a woman is and all. So Labour it is, even though it's tantamount to wasting a vote here, and Labour dithering over Brexit.

MamaGothel · 12/12/2019 13:19

Mine won't vote because he never does. I was really surprised to find out he would have voted Tory, as their policies have been very detrimental to our family over the last few years. That led to a bit of debate, he doesn't follow politics at all and is clearly agreeing with what his work mates say.
His choice but I certainly won't be nagging him to go and vote.

Pepperwand · 12/12/2019 13:23

DH and I are voting differently. I am voting Conservative this time and DH Lib Dem. Last election was the exact reverse and we are both swing voters. I think it's really important to have reasonable debate, listen to the opinions of others and be able to disagree without it descending into nastiness or bitterness. I can listen to any sensible, moderate argument on any side and I don't look down on anyone else's vote as long as it's something that they have actually put thought and consideration into.

alphasox · 12/12/2019 13:23

We are very different in our outlooks - I work in local govt, he runs his own business, so normally he votes Tory and I vote labour and we agree not to discuss it. This time, mainly as he thinks Boris is a joke, I’ve brought him round. I feel really proud of him!

eenymeenyminyme · 12/12/2019 13:24

We don't discuss it. We know we have reasonably similar morals and sense of fairness, but it's none of my business who he votes for, or his of mine.

My parents were married for 60 years and never told each other who they voted for.

SpiderCharlotte · 12/12/2019 13:31

I think this time we are, though we don't really discuss it. Although the party I believe he's voting for would be my second choice.

Eminybob · 12/12/2019 13:48

Even worse, DH is completely apathetic and hasn’t voted since I’ve known him.

I have reminded him to vote today 3 times before he left the house, And 5 yo DS even shouted “don’t forget to vote daddy!” up the garden path this morning as he was leaving Grin

I find it frustrating, he doesn’t believe that his little vote will make a difference (we are in a very safe Tory seat) but perhaps if everyone who felt that way got up and voted then we may finally see some change! (Can you tell I’m a Labour voter?)

FruityWidow · 12/12/2019 13:54

DH doesn't vote as he doesn't think it's a fair system. Tbh I don't think it's suitable either but there is no alternative so I use what opportunity I do have to have a say.

TheCatInAHat · 12/12/2019 13:55

We would both be financially better off under a Tory government but neither of us vote Tory, or ever would. I vote with the nhs in mind predominantly.

UserPop · 12/12/2019 14:06

Last time we voted the same, this time he's not voting. I voted labour.

MarshaBradyo · 12/12/2019 14:08

Yes I’m finding it hard as I feel conflicted on who to vote for (still)
He’s not and reminds me that whatever I do we’re still in a safe seat

Banana770 · 12/12/2019 14:10

We’re both voting the same, in the past we’ve voted differently. I think if we were both at opposite ends of the political spectrum it would be an issue but when we voted differently it was Green and Labour.

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 12/12/2019 14:12

I don’t know who he voted for

We talk about politics now and then but neither of us have ever asked how we voted, it’s just not important so many better things to chat about

NextdoorNeighbourIsATwat · 12/12/2019 14:21

I vote conservative, he votes labour.

Things can get a bit heated!

Very · 12/12/2019 14:23

We don't always vote the same and that's fine.

But I'd be horrified if he voted Labour this time. We're not Jewish, but the current antisemitism is unforgiveable and a total deal breaker IMHO Angry

Would also be very cross if he'd voted Lib Dem as he knows how I feel about their attitudes towards women's rights and the GRA.

Nonicknamehere · 12/12/2019 14:30

DH has always voted Tory, I’m a floating voter. Never caused problems in our life apart from this year. He bumped into our local MP shopping in Waitrose (of course Grin), asked him for some posters to put up. I was cross, and said they wouldn’t be going up - but even more cross that he couldn’t tell me what was in his shopping basket!

Heard banging a week later, and I now have a blue board outside my house. Obviously no Labour supporters round here, as I haven’t had it ripped out, house not egged etc etc.

Nonicknamehere · 12/12/2019 14:33

P.S or Mumsnetters. Grin

NextdoorNeighbourIsATwat · 12/12/2019 15:35

We're not Jewish, but the current antisemitism is unforgiveable and a total deal breaker IMHO angry

Glad to see you mention that very. I feel like 90% of MN are ignoring the antisemitism. It's a big problem.

FGSJoanWhatsWrongWithYou · 12/12/2019 15:41

Yes, for the first time in 25 years we have voted differently. Have always been floating voters but always came to the same decision as the other until now. We agree there is no good choice. Neither chose Labour this time because of Corbyn and Momentum. I chose Tory because of self-id despite being a remainer. He chose Lib Dem because of being a remainer despite self-id.

SockQueen · 12/12/2019 15:52

We are both centre-left, previously DH has always voted Lib Dem and I've voted either LD or Labour. This time we're both voting Labour tactically as the lib dems stand no chance in our seat and Labour do.

I'm not sure I could have married a Tory.

Skyejuly · 12/12/2019 15:53

I wouldnt be letting my hubby have a Tory board outside lol

MerryDeath · 12/12/2019 16:04

DH isn't voting because despite having a very unpredictable schedule and wanting to vote he never bothers to register for a postal vote and surprise surprise is out of the country.

which is fine by me because we don't need his tory vote thanks.

RoseHippy1 · 12/12/2019 16:26

@MerryDeath good call Grin

CuriousaboutSamphire · 12/12/2019 16:34

We discuss politics but we never discuss who we will vote for. So we have discussed the possibility of tactical voting in our area and the pros and cons of each candidate.

But we don't say what we have decided. Never have... in 34 years!

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