Is your other half voting differently to you?

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I just wondered what other people's situations looked like. My DH is Conservative , however I will be voting Labour.

He thinks I'm ridiculous.

I think he's unfair.

Politics is something I find hard to deal with when it comes to DH.

For example, he believes you vote for what suits you and "everyone does that". When I tried to suggest that no, many people vote for what's best for all of us as a country, he said I was ridiculous and 'nobody sensible does that'.

We’ve voted differently in the past and also the same at times. We don’t argue about it though.

We have voted differently... might be again tomorrow, I’m still undecided, lol.

But we’re on the same side of the political spectrum, so it’s not a huge issue tbh.

We vote differently but only in terms of one voting labour and another voting green so kind of similar parties. If my fiancé was a Tory I think I'd have a big problem with that!

Having said that I voted remain in 2016 and he voted leave and that didn't cause any problems or friction between us.

Oh and I always vote for what I think will be better for the country... voting for what’s best for you is IMO the opposite of sensible, your circumstances can change drastically in so many unforeseen ways.

Mine is. Have lost a little bit of respect for him over the past few weeks so we don’t discuss politics anymore

He was planning to vote Lib Dem, but I told him my reasons for voting Labour and he changed his mind and decided to vote Labour as well. I don't know whether he just didn't feel that strongly in the first place or whether my reasons made sense to him.

My DH has never bothered to vote before we got together, but always does now. We chat a bit about politics at home and hold broadly the same views. We’re in a safe Labour area and both like our MP so will be voting Labour to keep the Tories out.

We both vote the same way, I wouldn’t have a problem with him voting differently (unless it was Tory) sorry. I don’t feel I have anything in common with Conservative voters

Both Labour thank goodness. I’d put up with a tactical Lib Dem vote but couldn’t tolerate a Conservative and Unionist one

My husband used to vote Tory but he's not this time. I think he's going Lib Dem, I'm going labour (Tories will still win our area as the vote will be split between red and orange)

Two labour voters here.

We are the same as you. I’m going to be voting Labour and DH Tories.

We debate a lot! Particularly this week.

It’s all good though. Opposites attract and all that

I'm labour dh is Tory which is really annoying. But we're a labour area so I'm hoping his vote doesn't count. I don't talk to him about politics as he thinks he's an expert!

I'm in the same boat as you OP, I'm Labour and he's a Tory.

We don't talk about it anymore because it causes arguments and I know he thinks less of me because I vote labour but I don't care.

At least my heads screwed on straight!

My OH is a total Tory and I'm a swing voter. Still undecided who to vote for tomorrow as the leaders are all just so disappointing, and locally I've seen hide nor hair of the green or lib dem candidates, the Tory is a mysoginist and unfortunately labour is not for me while JC is at the helm

I’m Tory, he’s SNP......🤷‍♀️

We both vote Lib Dem. I'm very politically engaged, he is less so but we have the same basic principles and political leanings. We did an online quiz last week which shows you where on the political scale you are, and we were pretty much identical.

I'd have no problem with a partner who voted for Labour or Green - in fact I think it would be interesting to discuss; but I couldn't be married to a Tory voter.

Voting the same way but it’s not set in stone.

I would struggle to be in a relationship with someone without broadly the same political views but we have slight differences. I’ve only relatively recently decided how I will vote this time but I think DH has known clearly for a while.

For the first time ever I think my DH and i are voting the same way....

There's no way I could have dated a man with vastly different political views, let alone married one! I suppose I might have snogged a few Tories back in my teenage years but when it came to serious dating there was no way I would have gone there

DH can't vote in UK general elections because he's European but he would vote Labour if he could. I have my reservations about Labour but I still think they're by far the best option.

I actually think we should have a much better electoral system, FPTP is awful as many of us have to vote tactically rather than for the party we really support, and it makes the two main parties complacent.

DH agrees with me on that too

I'm Labour, he's SNP. Not something that bothers me, but I would divorce him if he voted Tory and that is a fact and not hyperbole.

I know of a couple (both now deceased, having lived into their 90s) who voted differently. They were happily married for more than sixty years.

We often vote the same but this time we aren’t.

Neither of us are enthusiastic about the options, but we’ve come to different conclusions on who the ‘least bad’ option is. If I’m honest I’m really struggling to understand the decision he’s made. It’s definitely affecting my view of him.

I’m labour, he’s Lib Dem and irritatingly well informed about politics (PPE degree and a job that lets him spend a lot time reading articles on the internet). This means I rarely ‘win’ any of the discussions but I know whose principles I agree with most and we’re in a red/blue swing seat. I think we’d really struggle to find a middle ground if he was a Tory and there would certainly be a lot more heat in the arguments!