Does anyone else feel that long never ending cuddles make you feel smothered, burdened and bored

[GlowingR]

Does anyone else feel that long never ending cuddles make you feel smothered, burdened and bored or even slightly depressed?

I'm talking about cuddles from your partner etc. and not quick hugs.

i get it sometimes when DP cuddles me, especially in bed. i like cuddles but i like my space. i just tend to feel smothered and a bit 'hemmed in'. like i'm trapped. is that weird. i worry that i feel like that and i end up overthinking things

I feel relieved that I’ve never experienced that! I would definitely feel bored and smothered.

Yeah I'm like this

Like, what am I meant to do? Just stand there?

I’m like a stereotypical man. When I’m done, I don’t want any cuddles or pillow talking. I just want to go to sleep with a smile.
So, no, you are not alone.

I tell you what I really hate — holding hands. It makes me feel violently irritated.

It's a sort of long running joke here. He's a cuddler, I am not. He cuddles everyone all the time, big smile and a hug. I go rigid and sort of claw away.

My male best friend via work, married, my child's god parent with his wife, has cottoned on to this with dh and now they all try and hug me all the time.

Baby is only one and already a cuddler. I love her cuddles though. Just not anyone else's!!

My problem is that I’m peri-menopausal and just get so ducking hot! And also irrationally irritated that predict text has yet to realise that I never say ducking! 😱

With you so much on this!
Had a fabulous upbringing but nobody was overly huggy.

I don't mind cuddling while watching tv (except that it's not easy to make sure you're both comfortable) and wouldn't mind reading a book while entwined...

but for some reason that's looked upon as rude. If you're being cuddled you're supposed to concentrate on the cuddle. In which case: yes, BORING.

And if you so much as twitch a foot - because it's really not natural to sit completely immobile - you're rejecting them ohfergodsake grow up

(I do love my husband, really)

Yes I feel the same. I don't mind cuddles from my dc (though even then I still feel a bit "hemmed in" after a while) but with dh I just feel smothered, like you say.

I'm uncomfortable hugging anyone, even DH I feel like a cat struggling to be put on the ground! My friends are all huggers though but will wave at me instead because they know I'm tensed and not enjoying it.

Wish I did because it seems so impulsive and caring.

I love cuddling dh on the sofa but he always cuddles into me to go to sleep and I instantly think fuck off! I hate any form of touching when in sleeping

Why put up with it then?

I would just move away, or say " I need some space" not offensive to speak truthfully surely?

Nope. Cuddle adict here .... Cannot get enough.... 🤣

Nope! After years of a marriage on its last legs and 9 months of self imposed purgatory I'm enjoying every second, alas geography isn't in my favourite so I'm lying here counting down the hours until I see him. I've got it bad

Op, I couldn't agree more. Hate them. Your words sum up exactly how i feel too!

I go rigid and sort of claw away.

This made me laugh!

Me too. I just tell my husband to GET OFF. I can tolerate him for about 20 seconds, then I’m done.

Personally I prefer a ‘ damn good seeing to ‘ - am not a cuddler unless it’s my animals

Oh God, so glad it's not just me. I am not a hugger. My husband always gets the hurt puppy dog look when I wriggle out of his never ending hugs as well which makes me feel like an ice queen.

I'm the same. A quick embrace is as much as I can take before I feel invaded and get cross. Cuddles in the night when I was fucking asleep put me into attack mode.

Ahh I'm also made to feel like an ice queen with those hurt puppy dog eyes.

I don't mind sofa cuddling if we're at separate ends. Dp rubs my feet most nights. What I hate is the wanting a kiss or a cuddle when I'm comfortable and watching tv/MNing/working on my laptop and he interrupts me for a kiss - fuck off!

I have my own duvet so that puts a stop to all those night time cuddles or even worse, the leg coming over.
No duvet stealing either.
I highly recommend it.

Oh yes, my husband would quite happily cuddle me all night long, but it makes me feel suffocated and I can't sleep with anyone touching me.
After 6 years of sharing a bed, we've come to a mutual understanding, that when I say "Right... Night sweetheart" its code for "bugger off back to your side of the bed so I can sleep."

God no
I want to be a professional hugger.