Does anyone else feel that long never ending cuddles make you feel smothered, burdened and bored

[GlowingR]

Does anyone else feel that long never ending cuddles make you feel smothered, burdened and bored or even slightly depressed?

I'm talking about cuddles from your partner etc. and not quick hugs.

I like cuddling when bf is awake, but sometimes when he's asleep he grips me with an immobile vice like clasp which is so tight it makes me fear for my ribs.

It's the iron claw and I'm trying to wriggle out without waking him.

I'm not the cuddliest person in general.

I’ve never been a cuddler at all but recently after my lovely old mum died I had a brief period of finding long quiet hugs really comforting. I could kind of relax and be a bit quiet and restful during them (and sometimes have a good cry too). It was a brief glimpse into a cuddler’s world !

What kind of cuddling do you mean? Random standing there having an embrace would feel uncomfortable and weird to me. I'm quite happy to have a casual loose cuddle on the sofa while watching tv although DP has really fidgety hands and it drives me insane, especially when he stabs his fingers in my ribs then looks hurt when I lose my shit 😆. In bed I like a quick 5 minute cuddle then left alone but dp likes to cling on like an overgrown, overheated koala. Often find myself hanging off the side of the bed to get away. Bizarrely he doesn't do PDA of any sort where as I wouldn't mind that sometimes

My husband is a hugger. I am not. I love a cuddle from my toddler because they last about 2.5 seconds before he's off. Maybe that's the trick, he always leaves me wanting more?!
My husband would sleep entwines if I would allow it. He tells me I don't put enough effort into my hugs and he can tell I'm not into it. My eldest son is a hugger, I'll hug him because I don't want to upset him, but after a few seconds I start to get really tense. My daughter is a strange mix of my husband and me. She only offers a quick hug and knows when it's time to let go!
God I sound like an absolute monster! I just feel really uncomfortable being hugged for a long time. I feel awkward when someone (adult) is upset because I can tell they're expecting a hug but I can't bring myself to! Luckily everyone I know is aware of my affliction so don't get offended when I awkwardly pay them on their head!
Just to point out that I love my kids and husband with every inch of by being! I just can't cope with long, drawn out hugs! I accept the issue is mine though and not those lovely, generous beings who just want to share their love!

yes, yuck. not my kids obviously but DP

My friends are all huggers though but will wave at me instead because they know I'm tensed and not enjoying it. Wish I did because it seems so impulsive and caring.

This!

My husband would sleep entwines if I would allow it.

Ah mine used to be like this too, but was decent enough to not foist his wishes on me - it did feel a bit mean because he accommodated my wishes but I couldn't reciprocate. We did often wake up holding hands though, strangely. I miss having someone in bed with me

Another cuddle addict here

Nope I love cuddles but not to go to sleep with. I like my own space when I'm sleeping