Are you and your DH/DP's voting for the same party?

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Interested to see how many people on here will be voting differently from their OH's this election, and if so, how do you handle/deal with it?

I will be voting for Labour, DH is voting for conservative.

I'm having a really hard time wrapping my head around the fact that he'll be voting Tory, but obviously I don't try to press or force my views upon him. On the few occasions we've tried discussing politics, the conversation ultimately turns to him trying to 'educate' me on how awful the Labour Party is, how terrible JC is and that while Boris is a 'bumbling idiot' he's apparently a 'strong leader who will get the job done'.
My wide friendship circle will all be voting labour, so I'm struggling that DH seems to be so different from myself and the other people close to me.

FWIW, when we first got together many years ago, politics was never really spoken about between us, it's only been the last few years that it's been a true point of interest. That's not to say that if I'd learned sooner that we'd be voting for opposing parties down the line, that we wouldn't be together now.. we would be, I'm just struggling a bit.

If you and someone close to you share wildly differing views, what do you do?

I spend my time going back and forth between burying my head in the sand regarding this to spare arguments, but also wanting to heavily debate it.

I don’t think my marriage would survive if DH decided to vote Tory, I couldn’t be married to someone with such little empathy for others.

I am exactly the same as you OP.

I’ll be voting labour, DH will vote conservative. I can’t even speak to him about it because I get so annoyed, mainly because he votes based on what he reads in the papers rather than doing some research himself. Like you, we didn’t really discuss politics before we got together but I do struggle sometimes and wonder how we can have such different core values. I try not to think about it too much.

I’ve just asked him actually and he is going to vote for a local independent candidate apparently, maybe he is becoming wise to how vile the Tory’s are but I won’t hold my breath.

We are both voting the same this time (Conservative) but we haven’t always. It doesn’t bother me who he votes for or vice versa.

I don’t actually know as neither of us has yet made up our minds, it’s a seriously depressing election!

I can’t imagine being married to someone who voted Tory-I’m amazed the differences in your opinions doesn’t come up more often in general conversation to be honest. Walking past homeless people, NHS cuts, schools quite literally falling down, food banks, strikes, councils cutting street light usage to save money (and the resulting increase in accidents) etc etc

I don’t ask him. We’ve postal voted so voted already.
But talking to him I suspect we have voted the same, or at least similar (I.e . Not Tory!!)

Nope, nope, nope. Don't know how you do it. I couldn't stand it if my DH was to vote conservative.
I have always said I wouldn't push my views or 'unfriend' anyone due to political views but this election has definitely got me questioning this decision!

DP and I don’t discuss politics as it always gets heated. I voted remain in Brexit and he voted leave. I grew up in a Labour voting household (I don’t vote for them myself but prefer them to the Tories). He grew up in a Torie voting household and he despises Jeremy Corbyn.
It’s strange as we are so similar in every way other than when it comes to politics.

The whole family are labour except I'm ot 100% sure about Ds1, who will be getting married on 12th. He leans towards conservative. We may have to disown him
We live in a labour strong hold constituency always has been.

We'll vote differently but not too polarised - I'll vote Green and he'll vote Labour. I think it would be a huge issue for both of us if the other were to vote Tory!

I'm voting Labour and DH would vote Lib Dem's but he's not in the country and didn't organise postal vote. He's not that interested in politics but says he doesn't like Corbyn.

We will be voting differently in this election, but not because of wildly different political views.

DH is going to vote Green. I will be voting Labour. However, my vote is purely tactical to keep the Tories out. I'd love to vote Green but feel my vote would be wasted because we live in a Tory/Labour marginal. DH would love to keep the Tories out but can't bring himself to vote Labour. I do understand why, but for me, it's the lesser of two evils.

I have voted for him by proxy before and have respected his choice even when it has been different from mine. However, I wouldn't have been willing to vote on his behalf if he had wanted to vote for the Tories/Brexit party etc. To be honest, I doubt we could stay married if he had these views. For me, it's a matter of basic values and morality.

I will vote Labour but my DH is voting Lib Dem. Pretty much purely based on his Brexit opinion as he's voted labour the past few elections but he is doing it as a kind of protest vote.

I would genuinely struggle if my DH was a tory voter.
It's not just about policies of the day, but a whole perspective on life and other people IMO. It would probably be a red line for me in a relationship - friendships I can cope with, but not my nearest and dearest.

In our house we're currently flipping between Lab/LD/Green - in a safe tory seat so tactical voting seems pointless.

Whereas I would be totally horrified by a partner voting for an institutionally antisemitic party.

I am usually quite relaxed about different opinions about how to reach a goal, as long as we have the same idea of what the end should look like - but being with someone who either doesn't care about minorities, makes excuses and indulges in whatabouttery, or is just too fucking thick to realise that if 93% of Jews say there's a problem, there's a problem - nah. I don't mind uninformed, or, at a pinch, not very bright-but I can't do monumentally moronic.

My usual party isn't mainstream and is ordinarily to the left of Labour - but it's not antisemitic. I have no issues with having Conservatives, LibDems, anyone as friendsbut Labour voters right now? Admittedly, I don't know anyone planning to vote for them this electionbut those who do are no better than the the 1/3 of the French public who voted FN in their last election. Utter, utter, ignorant scumbags, too selfish or too stupid to understand the implications.

Funny how we are all different, eh

Dh votes Lib Dem and always has. I have pretty much always voted Labour with a couple of forays into LiDem and Green. Both DH and I would seriously struggle with a partner who voted Tory I think.

TBH I pretty much have never been in a long term relationship with anyone who votes Tory as I think someone's political opinions tells you a lot about them so I pretty much cover it very early on in a a relationship.

I know people will say that judging someone on their poiltics is shallow. I say the same about people who say they don't fancy their partner when they have put on a bit of weight, everyone is different. I pretty much go off anyone, however gorgeous they are or however much chemistry their is if I know they are a Conservative voter. The odd time as a result of tactical voting is just about OK but not if they always tend towards Tory.

I am happy to be friends and colleagues with them, close friends sometimes . I think you learn a lot from people who think otherwise to you but in a long term life relationship, I want someone who shares my values, and that includes in politics.

As so many people say, I can't help who I find attractive/fancy, and up until now, Tory voters have not been in that group.

We are OS and only I'm able to vote (which I did yesterday 😇) so we shared my vote.

I wanted LibDem and dh wanted labour.

I'm very concerned about Labour's failure to address the problem of antisemitism, and I have made that abundantly clear to our local candidate. I believe that he shares those concerns. However, for me, it's still about the lesser of two evils. Boris has been openly very racist, so it isn't exactly as if the Tories have a clean slate with regard to this issue.

Usually we’re pretty much in sync with politics but DH has so much antipathy towards all political parties that hes threatening to not vote at all! He thinks JC is disingenuous given the decades he spent campaigning against the EU and his current fence sitting stance and BJ and the Lib Dem’s are a bunch of lying useless twunts. I think he’s leaning towards spoiling his ballot paper.

Yes we both will vote Conservative. We've got an amazing local MP who is a massive asset to the area and hugely pro-active for local businesses like ours. I don't ever remember the seat not being Conservative tbh.

DH was also a leaver, whereas I voted remain. Again, a vote neither one of us truly discussed with the other because I feared a fall out would happen if we did.

I am really struggling with his decision to vote Tory, and tbh, I don't even know why he is. It won't benefit him, or us as a family, or anyone we personally know.

I feel very torn and don't know how to address this 'issue' between us!

On the racism issue, I accept that Labour may well have a problem with anti-semitism, as the Tories have a problem with islamaphobia.
But I also believe the Conservatives are closer to the white supremacist movement in the US which has a far greater problem with anti-semitism, and that for me seems to pose a greater threat.
Lesser of two evils?

Yes both Tory. As I'm sensible and not militant, if he wanted to vote labour that's up to him and I would leave him because of it.

No - we're actually not voting.

He, irrationally in my view, would vote Labour. Based solely on being Scottish and working for the railways. He admits he doesn't agree with almost any of Labours policies but he votes labour.

I would vote Tory.

We live in a relatively safe Tory seat where the second party is Labour.

Our votes would cancel each other out so we've paired up and agreed we wont vote which means we have time to travel to make a very long journey and set out at 4am when otherwise we'd have to wait until the polls open.

If vote pairing is good enough for MP's its good enough for us.