Are you and your DH/DP's voting for the same party?

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Interested to see how many people on here will be voting differently from their OH's this election, and if so, how do you handle/deal with it?

I will be voting for Labour, DH is voting for conservative.

I'm having a really hard time wrapping my head around the fact that he'll be voting Tory, but obviously I don't try to press or force my views upon him. On the few occasions we've tried discussing politics, the conversation ultimately turns to him trying to 'educate' me on how awful the Labour Party is, how terrible JC is and that while Boris is a 'bumbling idiot' he's apparently a 'strong leader who will get the job done'.
My wide friendship circle will all be voting labour, so I'm struggling that DH seems to be so different from myself and the other people close to me.

FWIW, when we first got together many years ago, politics was never really spoken about between us, it's only been the last few years that it's been a true point of interest. That's not to say that if I'd learned sooner that we'd be voting for opposing parties down the line, that we wouldn't be together now.. we would be, I'm just struggling a bit.

If you and someone close to you share wildly differing views, what do you do?

I spend my time going back and forth between burying my head in the sand regarding this to spare arguments, but also wanting to heavily debate it.

Yes, both Conservative. Good local MP where we are so it's a fairly safe Tory seat in any case.

To me politics is about core values. I believe in a fair society where people are given opportunity to do well in life, whether their path be a solicitor or a care worker or a tradesman. I can't imagine being with someone who is so self centred as to overlook all the harm and inequality done by the Tories, to be willing to vote for them.

As for anti semitism, look into the actual figures rather than the vast amount of media reporting it gets. You'll see that the issue is far far smaller than some would have us believe, and that in reality anti semitic views are more prevalent in those on the right. There's also a widescale problem on the right with Islamophobia, but the media barely mention it. Neither are acceptable, but so much focus on one and not the other. It has really opened my eyes to the media bias in this country.

(Both need to be tackled by every party, without question.)

TBH I find it quite weird when people act as if Tory voters are Nazis or something. They don't all automatically hate poor people or something, they just have a different way of thinking about solving problems compared to the left. Some of you really live in a bubble, I think. Do you never talk to anyone who thinks differently to you or comes from a different, more conservative culture or something?

I am very left wing, way to the left of Labour, but I can still see that Tories are, you know, human beings. We're not talking about voting for the BNP here, that's obviously a different kettle of fish.

Maybe I was the same way when I was very young but you grow up and realise that people have reasons for their views and as long as their views are not actually 'I hate poor people and I wish they were all dead' (which very few people actually think, can't speak for Jacob Rees-Mogg though) then I don't really have an issue with anyone voting however they like.

I'd vote Conservative over the Green party these days due to their non-man bullshit.

As it is, I'm voting Labour, we live abroad and husband isn't British so he can't vote, but I guess he'd vote Labour too. He's voted across the entire spectrum in his own country from centre-right to socialist and I think he's definitely more lefty these days.

I think so. I know who DH is voting for because he is a member of the Party and rants at length on politics. I am not convinced by any of the parties, but his preferred party is the one that fits best with my views and concerns even if I don't believe that any of the parties will actually follow through on the promises they are making now.

I honestly don't know. I always vote Labour and he previously voted Tory but as our area is close between SNP and Labour I suspect he'll vote Labour as he's not keen on the SNP at all.

Yes both Labour
Good job really as Tory voters smell of wee and I wouldn’t want to be near him

@porridging that made me laugh!

I don't think so, but neither of us are voting tory.

In this election we will vote for the same party however in the referendum we voted different and just agreed not to discuss it because I was obviously right and he was obviously wrong

I don't know.

I have no idea what my DH is voting and I don't want to know. We can't talk politics. Mainly because I am very very politically engaged, and he isn't. He's not interested, doesn't want to know and I'm not going to try and talk him into anything after 35 years of knowing him!

Does he force and press his views on you?

I don't know how my dh will vote and I don't care although it's amusing if he does vote for a different party it cancels out my vote.

My dh is an extremely Human, kind man who has actively supported many people with disabilities and gone way above and beyond the call of duty. He has a good heart and has added to people's lives.

So I care not one jot who he votes for.

I haven’t asked who he’s voting for, that’s his business and his right. I wouldn’t be annoyed with him though, he’ll have his reasons I’ll have mine.

No both Labour here.
His sister is Tory though and I will find it very hard to speak to such a selfish twat afterwards if they win again and sink more children into poverty. Shes already hard to tolerate due to previously bigging up bastard Farage so won't be hard to blank her

We are but for slightly different reasons
And both with some reluctance as it's a compromise but both think it's the best choice within those available for our family and where we live.

My dh is an extremely Human, kind man

Glad to hear it

Both will vote Conservative. Hilarious that people see us as hateful individuals obsessed by wreaking revenge on the poor. Most people who I know who vote Tory happily pay large amounts of tax and are family oriented,law abiding professionals.

DH and I have very similar political views these days.

We did used to vote differently (me Lib Dem him Conservative). We both went Conservative in the last two and this time he is moving with me back to Lib Dem. We are both slightly conservative remainers.

I was always Lib Dem, but had to go Conservative to keep out Labour because they are now too far to the left for my liking. We have turned against Conservative as they are now too far to the right.

I am not against Labour completely, but if Labour were a little more central in their views (and likewise if Tories were now a little more central) I could go either way, but they have both gone to extremes.

I think we will probably vote the same way.

My husband will probably vote conservative. He is keen on a free market economy and thinks it makes everyone better off. He comes from a very poverty stricken background and saw work as a way out. He thinks that all of his family even those who have been on minimum wage or 100% reliant on benefits as being better off than they were growing up because of the trickle down effect. This is so even though he voted remain.

I am undecided. I am mostly concerned about the climate and then the economy. I can't really distinguish between the parties significantly on climate change. Any difference will come at international level.

I think that Labour will spend vast amounts and substantially increase borrowing and ignoring Brexit will shrink the economy. That will be bad for all public services and bad for individuals.

That said I think that Brexit is bad for climate change and bad for the economy. I definitely will not vote labour. I don't have a party that I broadly agree with and just want the least worst option. At the moment that is probably the conservatives.

We both vote conservative, people are very naive if the terrorist loving Marxist is going to make things better. Borrow tens of billions and make the country bankrupt, as labour always does

Dh & I are both voting Labour because around here they are the most likely party to keep out either the Cons or the Brexit party.

Yes. Both Tory.

We will vote the same this time, as I am voting tactically. However, we have polarised views on Scottish independence that usually leads to us voting for different parties. We never argue about it - people are allowed to hold their own political views, even if they are different to mine.

Yes, we’re both staunch SNP voters.

You have no idea who your DP is voting for. It's between them and the ballot paper. Why do you think opinion polls often differ wildly from exit polls? People can lie to keep the peace, or have a wobble when alone in the little voting booth. YOu just don't know!

DH and I have both voted Labour (postal votes) and I expect DD to as well. We're all voting tactically to unseat our local Tory MP!