Are you and your DH/DP's voting for the same party?

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Interested to see how many people on here will be voting differently from their OH's this election, and if so, how do you handle/deal with it?

I will be voting for Labour, DH is voting for conservative.

I'm having a really hard time wrapping my head around the fact that he'll be voting Tory, but obviously I don't try to press or force my views upon him. On the few occasions we've tried discussing politics, the conversation ultimately turns to him trying to 'educate' me on how awful the Labour Party is, how terrible JC is and that while Boris is a 'bumbling idiot' he's apparently a 'strong leader who will get the job done'.
My wide friendship circle will all be voting labour, so I'm struggling that DH seems to be so different from myself and the other people close to me.

FWIW, when we first got together many years ago, politics was never really spoken about between us, it's only been the last few years that it's been a true point of interest. That's not to say that if I'd learned sooner that we'd be voting for opposing parties down the line, that we wouldn't be together now.. we would be, I'm just struggling a bit.

If you and someone close to you share wildly differing views, what do you do?

I spend my time going back and forth between burying my head in the sand regarding this to spare arguments, but also wanting to heavily debate it.

We are both voting tactically to try and unseat present utterly useless Tory incumbent. So we will end up voting for the same person because of that. We both think that people should generally vote for what they believe in but it won't do us any good this time. We have voted for different parties in the past but neither of us vote Conservative and it would take something major for that to happen.
We discussed politics early on as we are both interested in it.

You have no idea who your DP is voting for. It's between them and the ballot paper. Why do you think opinion polls often differ wildly from exit polls? People can lie to keep the peace, or have a wobble when alone in the little voting booth. YOu just don't know!

I quite often do, as dh travels a lot and appoints me as his proxy, so I put his cross in the box for him.

All my family will vote Lib Dem, me, my DH, my two young adult sons, and, interestingly my single, middle aged, Leave voting DB! 😊

I too would struggle enormously feeling I were married to a selfish, racist, sneery bastard if my DH voted Tory this time around.

We are drawn to Labour's socialist agenda, I'm not that keen on Jo Swinson, or the gender politics of either the LDs or Labour, for that matter; and I'd prefer a confirmatory referendum to Revoke, but in my constituency we're voting to unseat a Tory. United.

I couldnt understand if my dh voted Torie either. I think we are voting differently though.

I thought I'd made my mind up but now dithering.
Dh will def. vote LD, as I was going to - tactical vote - but still can't decide. Dh would never ask how I voted - it is after all supposed to be a private matter - but it wouldn't be a cause for rows if we voted differently.

In any case, if your dp was a militant supporter of any party, and expecting you to be the same, would they be looking over your shoulder while you put your X in the box? I don't think so.
I suspect that quite a few people say they're going to vote one way, to keep the peace, and then actually vote another.

Anyone questioning those of us who are angry at anyone voting Conservative, may I suggest you give Dispatches from this week a watch and then say we have no right to be disgusted in you.

@BiBiBirdie you sound like the Labour campaigner who came to my door the other day and told me all Leave voters are Xenophobes.

Sorry, I'd divorce my husband if he wanted to vote Tory with Boris at the helm. He works for the NHS so knows all too well what a decade of Tory austerity has done for NHS and social care system!

Dh and I are voting Labour, it's a tactical vote to unseat our Tory mp however neither of us expect it will make a difference.

If we weren't voting tactically, I suspect we would vote differently. It's fair to say though neither of us would be voting con.

In the past I would say I would respect dh right to vote for whoever he chooses, however I really feel this election is different and if he voted conservative I dont think I could easily get past it (I have extremely strong feelings about our recent shitshow of a government). Luckily he would never vote conservative.

My dad is a con voter (although he says he cant vote for anyone at this election, I think they have gone too far right even for him)
and we cant talk politics without it decending into an argument. It's so bad my mum has asked us both to avoid the subject to preserve family peace. I love talking politics with dh and I would be so sad if we had to avoid it altogether.

I'm voting Labour and he's voting Tory because 'he trusts Boris'! 🤔 It's our own opinion so we've not really discussed it.

DH will vote LibDem I think. I'm voting None of the Above.

My DH is voting Lib Dem at this election. Our political beliefs are closely aligned but it is more important to me to keep the Tories out so I will probably be voting Labour as in my constituency it's a two horse race between labour and conservatives.
I would have real trouble accepting it if my DH voted for the conservatives so I am thankful that are views are mostly aligned.

When I met my DH one of the things that drew me to him was we voted for the same party - Labour - because I knew then that our fundamental values and feelings about things would be the same, which was important to me. Our similar world view underpins our marriage. I can't imagine not talking politics with the person I was in a relationship with but I was brought up in a a very political family. Our home is a safe space from the avalanche of Tory and Brexit supporting shit that we are surrounded by - we live in a True Blue constituency. I just couldn't live with someone who closed their eyes to foodbanks or the way that disabled people have been treated etc. We both run successful businesses and are, on the surface, obvious Tory voters, but we both feel that as much as we have got where we are by hard work, we have also been very lucky and many people work just as hard with not as much reward. I would have been disappointed in DH if he had changed political views as his financial circumstances changed but, if anything, it has made him more aware of how fortunate we are.

I'm pretty sure we'll vote differently. We both distrust and despise the Tories so I know dh won't be voting for them at any rate. I think he's going Green; I'm still vacillating between Labour and NONE. Dd is definitely voting Labour (we're very proud of her!).

If we lived one constituency over, we'd have a fabulous independent to vote for. I'm really hoping she wins as she's great, but alas, not standing here - very jealous of my friends over there who can, and will, vote for her.

We don't really fight about politics. I'm glad I'm not married to a Tory, but then if he had been, I wouldn't have married him would I? These days, NOT being a Tory is enough for me!

My boyfriend and I both vote Labour (he comes from a Tory voting family and voted Tory in the 2015 election - caused a huge issue in relationship at the time). He’s very much voting Labour in this election and has in fact turned into quite the socialist! Both finding it really hard to deal with his family atm who talk about how we’re both brainwashed 🙄 his parents vote Conservative despite both being unemployed and going through financial hardship at the moment. So frustrating.

Yes my OH and I are voting for the same party

We're both voting Labour, as a) the Tories will destroy the NHS b) because our local Tory candidate is overtly cruel in her voting patterns and threatened civil war if we didn't get a hard Brexit. I don't like Corbyn, I think he's stuck in student politics, but he'll do far less damage than than Boris, the most incompetent PM since the 19th century.