Would you let you DS 14 nearly 15 take alcohol to a friends?

[Overseasmom100]

So DS is going to a party/hang out at a friends tonight. The friend is a girl wgo is part of his social circle...parents there and it's from 7pm and they said everyone to go home by -11.30pm. He has asked if can take a pizza, some capri suns AND 2 cans of dark fruits.

I was surprised. He has told me he has tried the cider before and doesnt really like it so I said well why then. He said he doesnt mind one.

I know alot of my friebds ler their kids dtonk the odd one at parties, in the summer. He is a sensible boy and does a competitative sport so know he wouldnt be stupid.

Just wanted to know a few peoples views.

No until year 11 ... 16th birthday parties basically

I have a 15 year old and a 14 year old

Absolutely not

Yes I would if the parents didn't mind (I would find out from them)

Stucknoue
That was a similar principle to what my parents had. Because I had a circle of friends across the y10/11 age group, I had supervised drinks from 15 in year 10.

Whether at family events or social things, alcohol was something I was brough up to know that some people might enjoy socially, others don't, and some drink too much to excess.

I rarely drink now, didn't get into binge drinking culture either, and I'd say out of mine and DH's close friendship groups, nobody goes out out to get drunk, half the people are teatotal or very rarely drink and the others enjoy two or three over an evening. We all had similar approaches to alcohol from our parents.

My DD is 15, she knows she is not allowed to drink alcohol at house parties or whilst out with mates etc. But I do allow her to have one or two at home with her friends under my supervision and with the full knowledge and consent of her friends parents.

It's an added bonus that she has discovered that alcohol does not help her acne in the slightest, so now chooses not to drink it. I've always been open about it with her and given her the choice, and 9/10 she has been sensible and has chosen not to go behind my back.

None of mine were interested in alcohol at 14. They were all super sporty. The two older ones drink now but aren't massive caners.

I have zero interest in supervising other peoples kids so that they can "learn responsible drinking". Do that at home with your own kids. Don't send them round to mine at 14 with cans of booze and expect me to supervise them. What a cheek!

I have zero interest in supervising other peoples kids so that they can "learn responsible drinking". Do that at home with your own kids. Don't send them round to mine at 14 with cans of booze and expect me to supervise them. What a cheek!
Except nobody is expecting you to do what's the issue?

If another parent is happy to supervise teens consuming a couple of drinks that their parents have consented to then that's an arrangement they are happy with.

If another parent doesn't want to have alcohol at a gathering they're supervising then it's simple, there's no alcohol.

I don't get the aggro or drama.

No. 16 I probably would, 17 I would. Agree with pp that it's good he told you. You want that dialogue to continue.

Mine is 15. I'd let him take one can, two is too much.
I know he has the odd drink occasionally when his friends have some bottles of cider. He always tells me and usually asks me in advance. They are trying it out, in moderation. It's fine with me.

@Trewser how ridiculous- students don't brag to us about their bad behaviour. Why would they- they will just get in trouble. They or their friends come and tell us if it has all gone wrong. That's when we find out that the big pastoral issue has blown up while they were drinking 'supervised by someone's parents.' In fact, I've had other parents come and complain to me about it as well.

As @LolaSmiles states, you know your own child best of course, but we have seen hundreds, actually thousands by now, of children through the teen years into adulthood and there are recurring patterns!