very silly dating question

[waytheleaveswork]

Met a guy through OD yesterday, arranged to meet for a drink on Sunday.
He's been very chatty over text, calling me beautiful and very attractive.
It just makes me feel a bit odd.
Is this just me?

I left a very unhealthy relationship 18 months ago and worried I am now incapable of accepting compliments without reaching for my coercive control checklist and being paranoid...

I think beautiful is a nice compliment. I had a guy telling me I was beautiful and he wanted to marry me and he could see us growing old together - over text!! Then he sent me a voice recording of him singing for me. That was odd. But just a simple "you're pretty/ beautiful /attractive" is nice and shows he's interested?

With online dating all you have to start with is pictures, so they have to find you beautiful/ attractive to want to meet you imo.

Take the compliment!

I do know what you mean though, even when DH tells me I’m beautiful I struggle to accept the compliment I think because I’ve never felt beautiful.

Hope your date goes well 😃

Thanks all.
It does make me sad to think how bloody damaged I am that I can't take a compliment without over analysing it. Good to know I'm not alone.