I’m so scared I might have been outed!!!

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I posted a couple of threads in the last few weeks under a different username. I’ve been struggling with my mental health and basically I revealed some things I’ve done in the past on the threads because I’m struggling to come to terms with them. I was literally at breaking point (and still sort of am). In a moment of clarity, I realised that there are a number of people who would be able to identify me based on my threads if they read them. And if they did read them, they would then have information that could ruin my marriage. I contacted MNHQ who deleted these threads but the one that exposed me the most had been active for around a week.

I’m so scared and stressed now incase this handful of people could be mumsnetters and could have seen my threads 😩

I had around 100 posts on each thread. Am I panicking unnecessarily do you think? I know no one can tell me for sure but I’m just so worried at the moment.

Relax OP seriously Mumsnet really isn’t as popular as we on it think... no one in my friendship group have even heard of it...

Deny everything. They can't prove anything so deny and rise above it. Chances are they've not read it, and if they have I doubt they'd confront you, and if they do deny it and look at them in utter bafflement.

Okay... I’m feeling a lot less worried about it now. Thanks so much.

The odds are so small. You could always do a Colleen and write a few fake posts under that user name to make it seem less likely to be you. So for example if you are allergic to dogs or hate dogs post on one of the dog threads about a fictional pet.

Definitely, to further reassure yourself, either ask for them to be deleted or muddy the water with some posts that are the opposite to who, what and where you are.

I hope things get easier soon💐

I had a slightly similar situation a couple of years ago and that fear of being known was horrific so I sympathise OP. However, in this case I think you can rest assured that have taken the right steps and the traffic on this site is huge. Look after yourself and try to bring back focus on the bigger picture.