Insta-Mum Drama

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Is there already a thread about the instamum dramas involving MoD today?

Tattle sounds like poison.

And there it goes again, house, parenting, relationship......

I do wonder if jealousy is the root cause of much of this pouring over of details.

Not sure anyone would want to be in their shoes.

There is discussing SM issues and there is ripping a family to shreds obsessively whilst claiming to have the moral high ground- in the name of the children.

Sounds like you might err..... be them know them Bl00mingCactus??

Oh, and Bl00mingCactus I only spend the same amount of “hours” slating them, which is not hours at all, as I do coming onto other threads and saying things like “tell your MIL she’s out of order”, “you’ve got a DH problem”, or “here’s what I do for Christmas dinner”. It’s just chatter, on my part, I would say I try to be well balanced and reasonably informed before throwing out an opinion, but it’s still only just talk. Why are you here? Why am I here? Why does mumsnet exist if not to quench our thirst for discussion?

I certainly have no spite towards the ODs, and absolutely nothing on earth against their poor children. I think that MOD and FOD are vile, and am happy to contribute to the voices saying to them to get the hell offline and start being a real life family, stop filming every minute of your children’s lives and editing it all to sell people crap (via undisclosed ads!). Stop exposing your children’s private lives and putting them at risk, just bloody stop! They’re both professionals, they can afford to live without Instagram, but the sad truth is that they can’t and won’t. They’re addicted to the validation and adoration that it all brings, and to hell with their x4 girls.

Well people post differently I suppose. Even people who are hugely against places like tattle can get sucked in - which started this current saga off

Why because I’m highlighting unpleasant behaviour and hypocrisy.

I can assure you I don’t know them.

But they don’t spend hours judging Eastenders being in existence; slating and surmising about real people. They watch and go.

That’s not true. There are loads of threads devoted to Eastenders on Digital Spy. You just don’t go on them because you aren’t interested so you aren’t aware of them. You are on this thread/forum because presumably you are interested in social media/parenting issues.

I do wonder if jealousy is the root cause of much of this pouring over of details.

Jealous of what exactly? Pretending 24/7 to a bunch of strangers that you have a perfect family while monitising your children in the process?

Or maybe you just like to go around feeling morally superior to everyone else? 🤔

*Tattle sounds like poison.

And there it goes again, house, parenting, relationship......

I do wonder if jealousy is the root cause of much of this pouring over of details.*

Key word there “sounds like”. So you don’t know for sure?

As for their “house, parenting, relationship”, I hope you’re not implying that I’m jealous of any of that? Their house is a grey trend-hole full of gifted items that they’ve only got by selling their kids - I’d rather stick to my beautiful house that we’ve worked hard on ourselves, and kept our kids privacy intact. Their parenting is all schtick that is endlessly filmed for likes and ads, those kids have cameras in their bedrooms and bathrooms and the car. Everything they do is turned into content. They’re fucking horrendous parents! Their relationship is not something I aspire to either! She’s been calling him a gimp, a grad A twat, and nothing without the kids for content, behind his back. She is constantly looking for a break from him and the kids despite him holding down a full time job, keeping the insta-money flowing, and doing the bulk of the parenting. Their relationship is bollocks and they’re as bad as each other.

Is everyone posting about Eastenders on Digital Spy jealous that Ian Beale runs a cafe? Or do they just like to gossip about what they see in front of them? Trying to analyse why people use forums is a pointless exercise.

I don't use instagram anymore as can't stand the ads & influencers & know of Tattle because of here, never posted on it. Regardless of the fact that I don't use much SM & can see through fake ness/ads I still have siblings, nieces & nephews & children. It's important to teach them about the dangers of social media & that ranges from grooming to mental health issues. If you want to make money out of social media then fine but be honest & have integrity & if you don't then you should be expected to be called out on it.

Tattle sounds like poison.

Oh, please. It's no worse than MN is. This is hardly the place to be taking the moral high ground about content.

There is discussing SM issues and there is ripping a family to shreds obsessively whilst claiming to have the moral high ground- in the name of the children.

Meh. You live by the sword, you die by it, too. They've chosen to monetise their children's' lives for freebies (4K sink, anyone?) they don't then get to turn around and shriek "troll" and "bullying" when someone comments that actually, what they're doing might not be in their best interests. Who in their right minds thinks showing toddlers on the potty to a total of a million strangers (and god knows who else) is a good idea?

Why is saying influencers should stop hiding adverts because it makes those that can't afford new trainers every week feel inadequate or saying they shouldn't promote laxative weight loss tea when they have had lipo or promote dodgy lip filler companies worse than what the influencers are actually doing in the first place?

If there is nothing wrong with advertising/using your platform for money why all the shadiness & sneakiness then?

I just don't get it, is it because so many of their supporters want the opportunity to shill anything for £££?

You know fine @Bl00mingCactus that the Internet is a wild and unregulated place, and the fact that MOD and FOD have willingly opened their doors to that world and that of their children who do not yet have the agency to say otherwise makes them - to be frank - fair game.

Of course it’s a race to the bottom where there are people wishing divorce on them or advocating she’s struck off but this is the risk you take when you FIRSTLY position yourself as some aspirational perfect family and SECONDLY do it as a vehicle for free stuff.

When hypocrisy at this level is exposed regardless of the medium everyone has an opinion. EVERYONE.

That’s not trolling. It’s just nature.

There is hilarious footage on youtube of her on the fool around with my girlfriend show!!

This is why the only account I follow is Man Behaving Dadly. None of this bullshit and he is honest if he advertises anything. Generally it’s a family day out and he gives it an honest review. What’s there for children, facilities etc

Tattle isn’t that bad...people are honest and they don’t like manipulation.

If you’re being gifted something to advertise it say so. I get free stuff from Amazon as part of a customer review programme but my reviews are headed “Customer review of a free product”. It’s up front and honest even if all I am reviewing is a pencil sharpener.

I think there are some very serious questions to be asked about the ethics of individual “influencers” and the influencer social media culture as a whole. I worry about anyone who thinks it shouldn’t be a topic of discussion.

I get free stuff from Amazon as part of a customer review programme but my reviews are headed “Customer review of a free product”. It’s up front and honest even if all I am reviewing is a pencil sharpener.

But that's a relatively new thing isn't it? I've only noticed it fairly recently, and on the John Lewis website too I think. I had no idea before that some people may get incentivised with freebies on Amazon or JL to post positive reviews! This is why the whole industry needs looking at and regulating properly.

FOD knows that his popularity depends on people not realising he is sneaking ads in. The likes plummet when he posts an ad that is properly disclosed. He has dipped his toe in the water to disclosing properly (prompted by a couple of brave followers pointing out the rules that he knows full well) realised it has a negative effect on his likes and reach and has gone back to hiding ad at the end of long captions. The cuddly poor fod act doesn't wash with me, I think Alice was completely honest when she said his online persona is very different from the one he projects on his feed. She sought fame initially and he rode on her coat tails and overtook her. He is a Grade A Twat, she was quite right.

Sorry, meant offline persona being different to the one on his feed, obviously...

Couple of thoughts 1) I wish people would be more nuanced about tattle. Yes there are some vicious comments granted, but it's also a space for discussion about the ethics of Instagram and influencers which tend to get blocked on here and on Instagram. That discussion needs to happen and people need to wake up to the fact that influencers are business people and also peddling their kids for cash. It needs to happen somewhere. 2) That not many other instamums have stepped up to comment on this saga speaks volumes to me about how this industry world ;with the exception of a few) They spend their lives in public giving opinions and sharing their life yet it all goes silent when this happens. THIS is the time for them to be vocal. They are all a bunch of idiots in my opinion and I'm pleased this has opened some peoples eyes to the fakery and greed of it all.

It’s the racism that is unforgivable. And for FOD to not know, and her comments about him? There will be truth in what she says about how she actually feels...

I just saw a post under one of her aliases saying something about the sheep. She can't feign innocence & pretend she's not relying on those sheep to buy what she's selling.

I've just wasted an hour of my life reading tattle life (kinda wished I hadn't but got sucked into all the drama). So there are people who post on tattlelife who post with the same usernames as on here? Same people?
I recognised quite a few of the usernames there from here. It's all so bizarre, totally bizarre that MOD should get so involved in it all and is so far up her own arse she has to go to such lengths to ' defend' her reputation.