My fiance and I are considering a few options regarding our wedding/marriage including getting married before the wedding. Our religion prevents us from living together before marriage and this is something that he and I as well as our families and church plan to follow. However, there are several out of state job opportunities for him and we would like to go together to start our lives there. Unfortunately, we both have student loans we are currently working toward paying off and we believe that having the type of wedding we want wouldn't be a wise financial decision. We want to get legally married and then a year or so later have the actual wedding with the bridal shower, bachleor/bachelorette parties and so on. I have seen online many different opinions including some calling this selfish. We are more concerned with starting our life together without having such a financial burden preventing us from doing so. Is this a good option to further reconsider? Do you have any advice?