Would your dh appreciate this

[YorkieTheRabbit]

I’m thinking of getting dp’s daughter and partner a spa evening as a surprise . Dinks and nibbles on arrival, usual stuff of swimming pool, outdoor hot tub, saunas steam rooms, ice room and cold plunge pool. I’d also book the mud chamber. She will definitely love it and I think he’d enjoy it too. They’re mid 30’s. DP is in his 60’s and doesn’t think men like that type of stuff but when I’ve been for a day with a friend there have been couples there. Would your DP be happy to go?

My DP would refuse. I've tried many a time to get him to come along.
I did get him to have a couple's back and shoulder massage on holiday once, which he said he enjoyed, but that is as close as I have got.

Mine would since in his culture it’s normal to go to public baths and have massages (without happy ending).

Mine would (manly police officer, late 30s).

It’s completely not the sort of thing my DH usually does (he’s had one massage in his life when we got it as part of a hotel package) but I reckon he’d come and would enjoy it if we were bought it as a gift.

Nope, he'd utterly hate it

DH wouldn't be keen but neither of us are fans of spas days. They always sound like a form of torture to me.

My DP probably wouldn’t be fussed to do something like that (he loves a massage but the other stuff wouldn’t really appeal) but he would come along with me and probably enjoy it once he was there. I would love it though!!

No

My ex would have loved it but current partner wouldn't be so keen (both 30ish).

What's it in aid of - a present or "just because"/a treat? Could you just give it to her then she could choose who to take, or is it for both of them for Christmas or similar?

I've been with DH a couple of times. He doesn't like treatments but neither do I really. We both enjoy food and a chilled day together in the pool and sauna, usually take books. It's nice to relax together.

My DP didn't think it would be for him but came anyway. He loved it!

Mine would be fine with it. He is 40 if relevant

My dads been with me before, he loves a spa but is a progressive man

As in, he doesn't give a shit about seeming masculine and is a raging leftie

My DH wouldn't go

My DH would think I'd lost the plot. He'd hate it. But then so would I.

Thanks everyone, mixed views really. It’s a joint gift, so I’d have to look at something different for him if it wasn’t suitable for both of them.
olderthen he’s a policeman too

My husband loves a spa day and we often do a spa together with hotel for a treat!

Mine would bite my arm off for a day out like that. He's 25 soon to be 26 electrician who isn't into grooming and fancy hair cuts etc. Just wash shave shower and number 3 all over 😂

My partner would love this, we're always talking about spa days! I'd love it even more. It's time spent together relaxing what's not to love?!

Mine would love it as it’s a date day / afternoon. I think a lot of blokes secretly would do! He’s also emergency services

It would be OH idea of absolute hell he’d encourage me to take a friend

I’m tempted to get it booked. They went away last year on her birthday and the hotel gave them a voucher for free entry to the spa there. Apparently it wasn’t that good a spa but she had said they liked it.
It was DP putting me off, I know they both love swimming and would be in the hot tub like a shot. I think the steam rooms and sauna would be ok for them but I might swap the mud chamber to a meal in the restaurant

My partner is in his late 20s and would love this.

My DH would go in the steam room for a few minutes, get a massage then want to leave. He wouldn’t want to hang around in a spa or cover himself in mud. Then again I’m not massively into spa days either. I don’t think it’s so much a man thing as an individual thing so it’s a tough one. If they’ve never done anything like that before then perhaps there’s a reason why?