Are any of you a little bit bad?

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Not sure anyone will admit it! But I committed a few very minor crimes when young and stupid. I’ve dodged the odd bill (when I was a broke single mum).Told a few lies here and there. Got very satisfying revenge on an ex. I’ve read a few threads these last few days where these things have been covered and people have been horrified and said how awful the behaviour was or could be for example. Is literally everyone (except me) on MN that honest and straight and “good”? It seems unrealistic somehow! I don’t think I am an exceptionally bad person. I would never knowingly or deliberately cause another person pain (except asshole ex above!). I do actually try and help others when I can. Although I am definitely not a saint and have my flaws. But I think that’s just human nature. I’m just curious to see if anyone will admit to not always being as good as they could be,

Not anymore but I was quite a bitch through high school. One of those nasty girls that are mean to people for no reason other than popularity. I try to be super nice to everyone now and raise my kids to be kind to everyone. I'm pretty ashamed of my teenage behaviour...

Trying to wrack my brains for something....

Probably pinching a milk jug from a cafe once on holiday as a child cus my dad thought it was funny and my mum mentioned she liked it ...

Oh and I liberated the odd beer glass from a pub as a student

Yes I've done bad things, some of which I'm sorry for and some I'm not. I don't think there's a person on the planet who's 100% good. I don't do anything wrong these days but it doesn't stop the odd bitcht thought about someone. As long as you're not hurting anyone, it's fine.

Petty theft many years ago when working in retail (weekend job), I liberated rather a lot of chocolate bars over the course of two years.

Underage drinking in the park when I should have been at school.

Affairs. But not any more.

Occasional glasses taken from pubs at the end of the evening to boost the collection at home.

Very light very small items might not get scanned at the supermarket self-checkout ...

Oh, when I said that people who are good get screwed over, I didn't mean that I try to get revenge first!

I just mean that I'm becoming more and more aware that the people who get ahead in life are the people who put themselves first and often who bend rules to suit themselves.

People who focus their energy on "the greater good" or try to help less fortunate people, can naturally end up less well off.

It's weird, but say for example you could take an item from a big shop and somehow know that no one would ever find out... I'm not sure if I could do it.

@ledkr You sound like fun. Can I please be your friend. I am fab at screeching and cackling

I took lots of illegal drugs when I was into the rave scene circa 1996 to 1998.

I stole a carrot when I was pregnant from Safeway because I was too embarrassed to pay for 1 carrot. I didn't consider it would be more embarrassing to be caught stealing a single carrot.

When I was really skint I sometimes used to forget items in my trolley at Tesco. Never the really expensive stuff but midrange type things.

When I was at primary school my best friend and I made a "stew" out of mud, leaves, puddle water etc. We convinced one of the younger girls to eat it but she didn't come to School after for 2 weeks and we were terrified we had killed her. She was actually on holiday but those 2 weeks of torment were punishment enough.

From 14 to 19 i was awful.

Drink. Drugs. ONS. Stealing money. Nightmare at school. Lies lies lies. Couple of nights in the cells. Vandalism.

I also taught one girl from our group of 'friends' a lesson by sleeping with her boyfriend after she did the same to another of the girls

In more recent years i have accidentally stolen some pjs and a chicken

Witchofzog. Yes you can join my gang but you need the password 😂

@DDIJ your mum sounds like a truly horrible person. I can’t imagine saying that to my own children. And also completely false - you can’t tell who’s bad from looking at them (otherwise the police would have an easy job!). If you have done bad things, that’s probably just because if you’re told how awful you are then you just admit defeat sometimes and become it.
You’re not a bad person

I was a right goody two shoes in my teens. In my twenties I behaved pretty badly over the course of about 5 years and I'm not proud of that at all.

I'm pretty nice now but far from perfect and I'm definitely not MN standard.

Sex and drugs and rock and roll.

With all the right people and some of the wrong ones. I did have an inbuilt alert that stopped me from some of the decisions that would have caused maximum danger to myself (e.g. going home with a group of men. Or some of the harder drugs) and I didn't give in to peer pressure.

I don't think I ever stole anything. From a shop. Fixtures and fittings yes, actual stuff you buy from a shop then no.

I wasn t bad though - bit of a bitch like most teenage girls can be. I could be a fucking nightmare if the mood took me but generally was happy go lucky and good to my friends.

Right now in life I'm good. Still like a bit of divvilment but no law breaking.

I was absolutely grim as a teen but now am a genuine goodie two shoes, desperately honest. It always gives me hope when friends despair over their teens behaviour.

@FilthyBiscuit 🤣 total badass!!

I have done some terrible things in the past but my job now (along with having a family and responsibility etc) mean I now live a very straight and sensible life.
Which is good, I sleep a lot easier now than I used to!!

I've been in fights,but to be fair the dick heads I hit deserved it,some of it was self defensce and any other time I was defending someone who couldn't defend themselves.

I went clubbing alot when I was underage(I was 13)but to be fair lots of the people in the clubs and pubs were underage at the time because they didn't ask for ID back then.

I bunked from school tons.

i regret none of it

I've never had an actual fight OTH I'm surprisingly swift when the windmilling starts.
A runner not a scrapper
Been swung at more than enough times mind

I used to be broke and i shoplifted quite a lot, moved addresses to avoid paying bills and stole tips and stock from hotels and bars I used to work in. I once got fired for it and once I let someone else take the blame for it so I didn't lose my job. I cheated on my ex husband. I have slept with a lot of people I shouldn't have, including a married man, I have done illegal drugs. I have done online sex work. I have told lies. But I have also dropped everything for and given everything to friends and family who need help. I am unwavering in my loyalty to them no matter what. I give a lot to charity and spend a lot of time volunteering. I love my now husband fiercely and put him first. I am kind to people and have a big heart. No one is all good or all bad, life is grey. I also have a hard time believing all of the very pious and judgemental posters on MN are as lily white as they make out.

Lots of things, when I think back. Including having to be brought home early from a school trip when I was about 14.

Another poster has reminded me of this. When my eldest was 6, I was good friends with another school mum, but everything so did, or bought, or thought, she’d outdo me. It got a bit wearing. She asked what I’d bought my daughters for Christmas and I said I’d bought this really expensive puppet theatre, and lots of puppets (the puppets alone were about £20 each and this was 16 years ago). Sure enough, she bought her children the same, spending hundreds of pounds. I bought my daughter the Sylvanian Family house that she'd been desperate for. I don’t know why I did it, or what it achieved, but I was just fed up.

Stole a sandwich board type pub sign and sent photos of it on its travels to its owners.

^

Sick. Utterly Sick

I accidentally stole a copy of the Sunday Times from Waitrose a few months ago. I’m so used to picking up a free newspaper when I spend £10 that I forgot to scan this particular copy when I only bought milk.

That’s quite bad, isn’t it?

There's no point without details! I feel the need to confess but don't know how to change my name!

@WhoWants2Know
It's weird, but say for example you could take an item from a big shop and somehow know that no one would ever find out... I'm not sure if I could do it
I have never stolen anything in my life and never would even if I knew I wouldn't get caught. For me, I think it boils down to the fact that the guilt I would feel as a result of stealing the item would completely overshadow any joy I would derive from owning it so it would all be a pointless exercise as I know I ultimately wouldn't be happier.

I often find that doing the morally wrong thing often tarnishes an experience or object so much that it's just not worth it. I simply can't rest easy and forget about the origins of any gain that I've made through behaving badly. I don't think this makes me a better person than anyone else, because ultimately I am choosing the course of action that makes me feel best so it is still ultimately selfish in nature. I also of course still do bad things on occasion and would never claim to be perfect.

Even now, if I can get away with it I will arrange lettered items in the supermarket to spell twat usually!

I feel as though I missed out! I've never smoked a cigarette or taken any illegal drugs. And as a teen I would never drink alcohol with my friends. I was always terrified of negative consequences, I bunked off school once and I was so scared my parents would find out I went home and told my dad straight away, he gave me the bollocking of all bollockings right in front of my friend!! I've no idea why I told him but I was terrified of being caught out.

I will arrange lettered items in the supermarket to spell twat
I would class that as a civic duty rather than a transgression