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Are any of you a little bit bad?

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Asta19 · 26/10/2019 00:04

Not sure anyone will admit it! But I committed a few very minor crimes when young and stupid. I’ve dodged the odd bill (when I was a broke single mum).Told a few lies here and there. Got very satisfying revenge on an ex. I’ve read a few threads these last few days where these things have been covered and people have been horrified and said how awful the behaviour was or could be for example. Is literally everyone (except me) on MN that honest and straight and “good”? It seems unrealistic somehow! I don’t think I am an exceptionally bad person. I would never knowingly or deliberately cause another person pain (except asshole ex above!). I do actually try and help others when I can. Although I am definitely not a saint and have my flaws. But I think that’s just human nature. I’m just curious to see if anyone will admit to not always being as good as they could be,

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TheQueef · 26/10/2019 12:53

Too much historical badness to mention but my current vice is weed.
I'm too old to give a shite what people think now.

motorcyclenumptiness · 26/10/2019 12:56

Is it really "goodness" that stops them or maybe anxiety at getting caught?
That's a v interesting point. I think too that altruism is as rare as hens' teeth and 'good' people get the same kick out of being good as 'bad' people get from being bad. The material rewards are definitely better if you're bad but it takes balls and brass neck. Think my New Year's resolution will be to Be More Bastard!

OpheliaBee · 26/10/2019 12:57

Aside from the drugs, sex and rock and roll as a teen, which apparently is really shocking on here but was just totally normal in my circles

OpheliaBee · 26/10/2019 13:01

Sorry posted too soon!

I guess the main thing is that I was the OW for several years. We’ve since been together for years, are very happily married, and it seems like a whole other lifetime now. I don’t even feel that bad about it tbh.

Wellmet · 26/10/2019 13:11

I love getting something accidentally for free. Like when you get 2 of the same product, or something goes through at £1.20 instead of £120. I feel absolutely no guilt, and am aghast when people on here consider it stealing. I have worked in many different retail establishments (as have family members) and I have never, ever heard of the shop assistant being made to pay out of their own pocket. In fact I'm sure it would be illegal. I've also never met anyone irl who is not chuffed with a freebie either.
I honestly think a large chunk of posters on here are very unusual in their thinking.

56Marshmallow · 26/10/2019 13:13

I sometimes bend the rules like if soft play says age 10 and under then I'd tell my 11 year old to they are 10. If someone tells me that I can't take a photo of my own kid (ie visiting Santa Claus because they've got a teenager pretending to be a "professional" photographer so they can charge me a tenner for the photo) then it makes me more determined to take a photo of my kid.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 26/10/2019 13:16

I've shoplifted from boots as a teen.
Had a wee in someone's drive on n y eve.
Taken drugs in my youth.
I've never done anything to hurt anyone or been spiteful though.

EssentialHummus · 26/10/2019 13:21

Not really, but thank fuck thought crime isn’t a thing.

Badbilly · 26/10/2019 13:26

I shot a man in Reno, just to watch him die.

You know you had it coming, and know you can't be free...

wanderings · 26/10/2019 13:26

I regularly fill in on netball teams, so I get lots of free games. Perfectly legit to do so, but it feels as if I am getting something for nothing. I don't always obey the rule about not playing in my usual position though!

I often wear trainers without socks, and have been known to try them on in shops on my bare feet. (I do wear socks to play netball though!)

Fuckenstein · 26/10/2019 13:30

I totally agree OP, me nor anyone I know are as good at all times as people on here make put they are.

I have done lots of things I havent been proud of but circumstances can push people into desperate decisions sometimes.

billandbenflowerpotmen1 · 26/10/2019 13:31

I'm so good that I found an extra cucumber in my shopping trolley recent,y. I'd spent around £80 in Sainsbury's and had loaded the bags into the car on the pouring rain. I had a fear that someone would know I'd not paid for the cucumber so I took it back to customer services and explained. They looked at me as if I was bonkers

TheQueef · 26/10/2019 13:33

I do do more good things now, I make regular donations to a food bank and give dd to a couple of charities but if I lived next door to a mnetter you can guarantee there would be a bad neighbour thread about me.

cushioncovers · 26/10/2019 13:47

Not really. Stole a few sweets from the local sweet shop as a kid. Not bothered to correct the odd restaurant if they e missed something off of the bill but apart from that I've always played by the rules.

TipseyTorvey · 26/10/2019 13:52

I too feel like MN is populated by angels. Then again I feel like most people in my little surburban life are whiter than white too. I had a fairly wild youth, clubbing, drugs, sex then grew up, settled down, sensible office job, mortgage and kids. I never mention my bonkers youth to anyone in RL as there would be too much pearl clutching.

Threedaysaweek2019 · 26/10/2019 14:44

Stole a packet of marshmallows from Tesco aged about 13.

I accidentally stole a spirits measure from Tesco (much older), but it was stainless steel and in the corner of the stainless steel trolley, so I didn’t see it at the till and neither did the member of staff scanning my stuff. I only saw it after taking the trolley back after putting my shopping in the car.

I never answer the house phone when MIL rings (when dh isn’t around), as she is a narc. I let the phone go on to answer machine as she doesn’t like to leave messages. She just sighs and puts her receiver down. That bit alone makes me smile.

Then moans to dh as she thinks we should just sit and wait like an obedient dog for her to ring, like we have nothing else better to do....grrrr. Ahem, sorry.

Threedaysaweek2019 · 26/10/2019 14:47

it was a different Tesco on each occasion, not that it makes any difference.

lazylinguist · 26/10/2019 14:52

Hmmm... never once smoked a cigarette, took an illegal drug or stole anything. Used to be fairly lairy and disreputable when (frequently) drunk. Did one properly bad thing which often still preys on my mind, but I'm not saying what!

charliiiii · 26/10/2019 14:53

I got arrested this weekend

Threedaysaweek2019 · 26/10/2019 14:55

...oh, and I told a very competitive co worker that we had just taken delivery of a very expensive oven and hob set knowing she couldn’t be outdone, and would buy one herself. And she did. And we hadn’t.

sawyersfishbiscuits · 26/10/2019 14:55

I've never stolen apart from 20p from my Mum's purse however;

I was a right girl in my late teens and early twenties and had rather a bit too much action! Blush

More recently I snuck my friend and son into Legoland! Have also rearranged the spices in Tesco to spell out rude words in the past.

Trufflegirl · 26/10/2019 14:57

Most of my 'badness' has been more in the form of naughtiness/practical jokes.

A friend and I once, on holiday, went skinny dipping with our boyfriends, and managed to steal their clothes, leaving them to walk back home naked, only for us to lock them out for a bit, to prolong the agony. Shame there were no smart phones and YouTube back then, so we couldn't make particularly-reluctant stars of them!

I've waxed my partner several times, loving the pain infliction, and intensifying it as much as possible!

That sort of thing..........

FizzFizzPlinkPlink · 26/10/2019 14:59

There are people on here who contort themselves into a coma trying to virtue signal what pure and honourable spirits they have.

SunshineAngel · 26/10/2019 15:03

The only thing I can think of (I am a goody goody) is that I told a lie - a really, really stupid lie - when I was a teenager, and had to then remember it for a long time.

It wasn't particularly bad, and I haven't the foggiest why I even did it.. but it got difficult to keep up with, and I was VERY glad when we left school to go to college, as it gave me a fresh start!

Deathraystare · 26/10/2019 15:11

Nothing too bad....... Though I did (when using those swipe machines in Lidl - after a frustrating wait etc) I put in for two plain rolls instead of the two cheese ones - thus saving myself about 20p i think. I just thought sod it. Yes I know it is up there with stealing etc etc

I also marched out a shop with a roll of wrapping paper under my arm. This was not deliberate. I was too embarrassed to go back.

Decades ago when still a young girl I did steal some juicy fruit gum (can't even look at the packets now!). Mum found the packaging in the loo bin. Later I went to a friends house and watched in horror as a policeman came to our door. At first mum said it was about me but then admitted someone had noticed something fall off Dad's bike. It must have had his details on it for the police to track him. I was terrified that when I got back home mum would hand me over to the old Bill!!!