Are any of you a little bit bad?

[Asta19]

Not sure anyone will admit it! But I committed a few very minor crimes when young and stupid. I’ve dodged the odd bill (when I was a broke single mum).Told a few lies here and there. Got very satisfying revenge on an ex. I’ve read a few threads these last few days where these things have been covered and people have been horrified and said how awful the behaviour was or could be for example. Is literally everyone (except me) on MN that honest and straight and “good”? It seems unrealistic somehow! I don’t think I am an exceptionally bad person. I would never knowingly or deliberately cause another person pain (except asshole ex above!). I do actually try and help others when I can. Although I am definitely not a saint and have my flaws. But I think that’s just human nature. I’m just curious to see if anyone will admit to not always being as good as they could be,

By mumsnet Standards I’m satan himself. In real life, I’m no worse than anyone else I know. Well, a bit worse. Quite a bit.

I was fairly awful from 17-19, as a result I have a criminal record, I very narrowly avoided going to prison twice.

Im not just a dodgy character historically, every year I steal a Christmas decoration on purpose. I have quite the collection of hot Christmas ornaments/ decorations/ lights etc and i love them all. I never steal them from small independent shops though, i have morals!!

I shot a man in Reno, just to watch him die.

I am genuinely a goody two shoes! I can't think of anything bad except smoking dope in my teens.

I was into the illegal rave scene in my 20s and did an awful lot of class A drugs (it was really fun).

I’m utterly awful with money and it’s led to things that are more than bad, tbh.

I’ve stolen, including from family, and I’ve actually ‘worked’ as a prostitute in the past (long long time ago now.)

As well as that, I’ve had to resign at work once to cover gross misconduct, and I don’t mention this on my CV.

I once forgot to pay for some paracetamol at a supermarket checkout once. I realised as I was leaving but didn't go back.
Ach, I'm just here for the revenge on the ex story.

God not nowadays no, I’m too truthful.

In my youth I stole an ink eraser once from WHSmith. Broke into Glastonbury by climbing a perimeter fence and drunk drove once. Being bad wasn’t really in my nature though.

I’m pretty straight laced now in a decent enough job but in my past I
Stole one of those little pens from Argos
Took part in too much under age drinking
Regularly watched porn on my parents tv while they were out when I was 14
Gave a co worker a good time in the toilets when I should have been at my desk working
Slept around in my 20s (and enjoyed it!)
Drank wine in the loos at work

I’ll leave it there.

Yeah, I've been in a bit of trouble. Only yesterday i got a penalty charge notice for speeding. Ooops.

I wasn't so bad as a teen, but now in my forties I'm enjoying life. Having the best sex I've ever had with the people i want to. It's great.

I stole a lipbalm from Woolworths. My ne'er do well cousin put my up to it.

I got caught by a shop assistant at M&S yesterday while, ahem, rearranging the Christmas initials baubles to spell 'ARSE'. Total wrong'un, me.

Im ashamed of the younger me, drugs, infidelity bad attitude. Stole a sandwich board type pub sign and sent photos of it on its travels to its owners. It stayed in the boot of my car for ages and probably cost me a fortune in petrol because it was so heavy.

Everyone is a little bit bad, it’s all part of being human. As for me:

Petty theft from supermarket self checkout and the local army base stores

Insurance fraud (a car turned out to be a lemon, it caught fire.

Accidentally carried a gun into a few places I shouldn’t

I was an absolute terror I was paralytic drunk every weekend from I was 13, smoked, truancy, disruption to class when I bothered to turn up. Took speed, coke, cannabis, ecstacy. Stole of my parents and from shops, underage sex, pretty violent fights, staying out all night and disappearing for days. Refused to make eye contact or even speak with my father for 2 years because he dared "trying to tell me how to behave". Even though we lived in the same house.

Meet and fell in love with now DH when I was 17 and completely turned my life around, went back to college and now have a very well paid professional job. I'm dependable and the most reliable person you'll ever meet. I go above and beyond when helping my family and despite my behaviour we are all still very close, I would even count my dad as one of my closet friends.

I made my home unbearable to live in during my teen years and can't really explain why I did what I did, my siblings never behaved like me even though we where raised in the same environment. Hormones have a lot to answer for.

I'm yet to meet somebody quite as pure as snow as the people on Mumsnet mostly claim to be, definitely.

I have a few skeletons in my cupboards for sure. But then so do most people I've met. Even the ones who act like saints.

There are no rewards for being kind, hard-working, selfless. Goodness is a mug's game, people just screw you over. Wish I'd realised that years ago.

I buy clothes (for special occasions, nights out etc) wear them, wash them and return them. Certain stores have labels that are safety pinned or tied on so it’s actually really easy.

I don't see it as being necessarily bad as such, I see my behaviour as being colourful

In sixth form I deliberately set out to seduce my friend's boyfriend because he was so lush. It was easy to do and we went out together for two years after but she never spoke to me again. I used to secretly read his diary when we were together and his Mum's diary, no idea why because they were both dull.

We have caller ID so I never answer the phone when it's my MIL because she's such hardwork to chat with.

I agree that being good doesn't really have a payoff and generally gets you screwed over. And I don't count youthful drinking/drug experimentation as bad.

But it's interesting to me that there are some people who are able to happily admit to theft or fraud, and other people who couldn't begin to contemplate the same acts.

Is it really "goodness" that stops them or maybe anxiety at getting caught?

I'm definitely another runner through wheat !!!

I agree that being good doesn't really have a payoff and generally gets you screwed over.

Whereas I tend to think if it would be pretty miserable expecting to be screwed over and so get your revenge in first. Yes, you might be ahead but you 'pay' for it still.

I used to nick chewing gum from the supermarket when I was 8. I then chewed it in class thus compounding my crime. My walk on the bad side ended when my teacher made me empty my pockets before going into class.