Ideas for how to explain to DM how facebook works.......or how to build a wall for me to bang my head against which is equally as productive

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Ok, so DM uses facebook. Sort of.

She has a small group of friends and is a member of two groups - both local ones.

To give an idea of her level of technical non-know how - she thinks whatsapp, imessage and facebook message are all the same thing and that all smart phones are iphones.

My problem is, DH and I will put somethings on FB for a laugh. She is our friends.

One of the things we do is put pictures of meals if we've cooked for guests or something special. It is something that a large number of "our friends" do and we have a laugh over it.

All we get from her is "no one else puts pictures of their food on FB" - stop doing it.

She can't seem to grasp that her facebook is different to our facebook.

Its none of her business what we post and I get that, but she's also very opinionated.

She's got a fair point though

Just hide your posts from your mother. Easy

fair play to the lass

Give up trying to explain Facebook.
"No one else puts pictures of their food on FB."
"Don't care, I like doing it. Anyway Mum how's the drama in the local group this week?"

It's really simple to restrict your posts so you mum can't see them.

I feel your pain OP.

My MIL shares an email address with FIL. FIL only ever orders things from Amazon. She keeps asking me how to order from other places.
When I get to the bit where I explain "so you write in your email address" she says

"Oh no. We use that for Amazon. Amazon will be really angry if we use it for other places"

When I try to explain further she just throws her arms up and shouts "ohhhh it's just too complicated!! I'm not doing it"

Then asks all over again next time we see her

This is my mum... she will go to any website and try and log in with her email address and the password for her email account.... I've told her a hundred times that different sites have to be registered for with her email address and then choose a new password for each site... she's just not getting it!

I'm with your mum on this one! Tell her to mute your profile so she doesn't have to see them... as I'd suspect a lot of other people have!

Don't. My mum and dad drive me mad with Facebook, texts, emails.

They seem to think that shared posts on Facebook are like a sort of private message sent only to them and can't fathom that other people can see them or comment on them.

They log out of stuff, can't log back in but swear this is the password and someone must have changed it!!

They think texts and emails work in the same way so they need to be connected to the internet to send texts yet can't work out how they can receive texts but not emails if they aren't connected to the internet.

I can't cope. We send the grandchildren round now to sort it out.

My mum 'liked' the Tom Jones page and went around telling everyone she was friends with Tom Jones on Facebook 😂 persistence is key I think and she'll get it eventually.

You can very easily adjust the audience you share with to exclude your mother. Then everyone but her will see your posts. Or log into her account and make her unfollow you.

Put your mother on your ‘restricted’ list ..that way she wont see any of your posts unless you tag her. The example facebook use is if you don’t want your boss to see your private photos.

I've rarely post on FB now my DM is on it. She's friended all my old friends (which I guess is fine as she's known them since we kids). She comments on things which are posted as humour in a serious way - even though we have a similar sense of humour. But there is a serious side to sucking it up and supporting them - my Mum has been scammed a few times through FB.

So I have a regular chat with her about safety and that she shouldn't accept friends requests from people she's never met - and same for responding to messengers messages she has received. I have the same conversation with her about emails and filling in forms on the internet willy-nilly.

She also writes down her passwords - though she's changed them so many times she's lost track and I end up resetting them for her.

"Oh no. We use that for Amazon. Amazon will be really angry if we use it for other places"

I can imagine how frustrating this is for you, but it did make me laugh - sorry!

I tjink thats the point - a lot of what we put on there is pure tongue in cheek and for a laugh.

e.g. we went away for the weekend and I posted a picture of DH looking passed out drunk on the bed . Completely staged and done for a laugh and the comments.

She could not grasp that it wasn't serious. You see no one else ever does that. Ever, Because its not on her facebook.

I feel your pain. My mum has facebook too, and I regularly hear her complain that a relative shouldnt have posted a photo of her mum who is no longer with us, as my mum keeps seeing it and she wants the relative to stop her keep seeing this photo. I have explained til Im blue in the face that its not the relatives fault that facebook keep showing my mum that photo. But no my mum is convinced its the relatives fault.