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Sue Radford is pregnant....

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MadameFoner · 20/10/2019 20:21

Just seen a post on Facebook...

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Venger · 23/10/2019 07:54

Bear in mind too that some children not only miss out on Kumon maths, they don't even have access to a grammar school as their parents were so selfish they decided to live 80 miles away from the nearest one.

My poor, poor DC.

Pray for them #TheVengerChildren #blessed

NationMcKinley · 23/10/2019 07:57

Horehound

Rominiyi is a strange poster

This is the understatement of the year! Grin. Telling your brother to wear condoms and being furious about Kumon maths?? I’ve heard it all now.

cardamoncoffee · 23/10/2019 07:59

Venger have you considered contacting Banardos? Don't be ashamed, that's what they're there for. When you tell them not only are your dc missing out on Kumon but Latin too, they will surely bump your neglected children up the priority list. That would be enough to squeeze the heart of anyone! Grin

Passthecherrycoke · 23/10/2019 08:00

Oh right sorry joxer. I thought your posts were indicating you’d complained about them

Limer · 23/10/2019 08:08

Thread's taken a strange turn Grin Why do posters always give us their personal stories, which are nothing to do with what's being discussed?

Anyway, let's get back to the fact that most people, especially Rominiyi, recognise that the fewer children there are in a family, the more parental effort/money/time is available to them.

I remember there being another thread on here a while ago, asking for people's experiences as a child in a large family. Nearly all the contributors would have preferred fewer siblings. The Radford children are (I suspect) extensively coached to say the opposite, otherwise the goose will stop laying its golden eggs, and the free holidays/stuff/cashflow will stop.

Tweetingmagpie · 23/10/2019 08:12

Rominyi that’s all well and good butnlarge family or not, not everyone wants to bring up their kids like that. Even if I only had one child I wouldn’t be pressuring them with private tutors, I wouldn’t want them to go to a grammar school and I wouldn’t be ferrying them around to 7+ activities a week, it’s just not the way I want their childhood to be, yes they do their homework and I follow their interests but that kind of tiger parenting is just not my style, or most people’s.

So in answer to your question that isn’t possible in such a large family, and to 90% of people it’s not desirable ( fwiw I am worth a couple of million, my kids go to the local state school!)

sweetkitty · 23/10/2019 08:12

Does she breastfeed? I’m only asking as I’m having breast pain GP says it’s probably wear and tear due to my age 44 same as Sue and that I BF 4 DC for well over a year each.

My body is knackered and I started at 29 stopped at 34. Maybe I’m not a machine like Sue.

Passthecherrycoke · 23/10/2019 08:22

No I don’t think so. They’re on bottles in the xx kids and counting programmes. I don’t expect it’s really possible for her to take sole responsibility for feeding

Tweetingmagpie · 23/10/2019 08:28

I saw a q&a once and she said she breastfed them all at first.

ItIsWhatItIsInnit · 23/10/2019 08:36

Wow.....somehow I managed to get into grammar school, As/A*s in Maths, Further Maths, Physics, Chem without any tutoring or being ferried around to dance lessons. Spent my teens playing Runescape and hanging around Topshop. How awful! And I was only 1 of 2 kids!

I think most people wouldn't do the crazy tiger parenting even with one child. If your kid can't pass GCSE maths without 3 tutors and you helping them every night....maybe they're just not that clever. But god forbid they do an APPRENTICESHIP! 😱

BringMeTea · 23/10/2019 08:52

Can I just say I am LOVING the way the thread turned. I did an actual, literal lol. Special thanks to Rominiyi.

FoldenHoard · 23/10/2019 08:57

Shit, I've never even heard of Kumon maths 😬
I know not to buy too tight condoms though, although my children don't attend a grammar school. Am I a terrible parent?

5zeds · 23/10/2019 09:08

I was disappointed, hurt, furious, and my heart was being squeezed by what had happened to his children's Kumon maths.

*In its own way, this is no less weird than the

I agree the tiger parenting one child in the face of all evidence and set in stone belief that 3 or more children means they will all fail in every way, is just bizarre. I feel a little sad that the first year medic is not seen as brilliant in her own right but as the result of her parenting. I do agree with a previous poster that you really shouldn’t need tutoring to get into grammar school and it is perfectly possible to do very well at a non grammar. I’m amazed that so much input was required. The activities thing is just weird too. We do extra curricular stuff for fun, not as career boosting jobs to be ticked off and added to our halos.

SesameOil · 23/10/2019 09:08

Well this got weird.

MyVisionsComeFromSoup · 23/10/2019 09:49

DD1 managed GCSE Latin despite being at the local comp, and a first in her maths master without Kumon. Not sure where that places us on the scale of successful-rubbish parents Grin.

Back to the Radfords though, the last couple of programmes and a very different feel to the earlier ones, there seemed to be much more sniggering about sex, which came across really weirdly. Also the editing was much less favourable, we had direct cuts from Sue saying the kids all loved a new baby, to one of them saying that they wished she would stop, which was a lot more overt than previous editing I felt.

cardamoncoffee · 23/10/2019 10:04

Back to the Radfords though, the last couple of programmes and a very different feel to the earlier ones, there seemed to be much more sniggering about sex, which came across really weirdly

I really went off them at this point. Rather than get more mature, handing down valuable sage parenting advice she seems to have reverted into a young teen. I saw it on the last vlog too. No one would ever believe that she has 30 years parenting experience the way she gets on. I lost massive respect for them the way they were going on about sex like horny teenagers, their dc have suffered enough criticism from being subjected to the media. Not a single child on the face of this earth wants their parents to broadcast their sex lives on national tv.

Ginnymweasley · 23/10/2019 10:22

This thread got strange... 2 questions: 1. What is kumon maths? And 2. What does it have to do with the size of a family?

cardamoncoffee · 23/10/2019 10:33

For the plebs uninitiated:

  1. Kumon is a franchised after school supplementary quasi tutoring service in English or maths. Children must work their way through a book and complete timed exercises. It is absolutely not MC in any way (the 'tutors' are usually A Level students and you can buy the books on Amazon) and not on par with learning Latin in primary school, so I have no idea why that poster was simply devastated for her nephew.
  2. Kumon is expensive for what you get, hence if you have 22 children it is highly unlikely that it will be your priority.
Passthecherrycoke · 23/10/2019 10:33

Kumon is a repetitive system of learning maths to a high level (for a child) it does have plenty of criticism of drilling without understanding as well as people who believe they’ve borne maths genius’ using it.

It’s expensive, and quite secretive otherwise the worksheets would be available freely online and they’d lose their revenue.

Passthecherrycoke · 23/10/2019 10:35

Oh er well things have changed if you can buy the work books on amazon. Boom.

As sort of illustrated by the above it’s become quite old hat now with sites like khan and online tutoring. But if slightly mad woman’s daughter is at uni now it would’ve been a bit more exclusive in the days she did it

cardamoncoffee · 23/10/2019 10:35

Passthecherry the workbooks are all on Amazon.

Rominiyi · 23/10/2019 10:38

@cardamoncoffee Weeeell ... I told them that loose fitting condoms are available online. They did not listen. They reacted as if was intruding on their deep privacy.

This is what happened next ... on the day my first brother's third child was born ... The obstetrician gave him a big box of condoms in the maternity ward. I think he was slightly taken aback by the situation he and his wife had created, as ... shortly afterwards ... he went and accomplished a vasectomy.

As for my second brother ... they have not had a fourth in the last 11 years or so, ... so I think that he has since discovered the loose fitting condoms section on Amazon.

My heart has never stopped being squeezed ever since.

As for my Dad, several decades ago, I told him directly. You are making a "fool of yourself with that woman". He just stared at me blankly.

On another occasion under trully horrendous circumstances that I will not go into here. I was very upset. He mentioned some people who had married other women. So why does my Mum not want him to marry another woman. I had not even mentioned My Mum. It was me and him, at the other woman's house.

To which the the company driver had driven me, without my knowledge of where the driver was driving me too. I had gone to get some money from him on the way back to my university. But I had no idea that's where he was. I had never been there before.

When he saw that I was not at all impressed with the calibre of said people. He said that even Abraham, Joshua, Jacob, Solomon, etc

(these characters are from the Old Testament for those who may not be aware) had many wives. So why could he not marry another woman?! I was gobsmacked and flabbergasted, I did not even know what to say. I could not believe that these words were coming out of my Dad's mouth. I still liked my Dad back then.

In due course two extra children arrived. Sooner rather than later, my dad said he felt like running out of the country ...

My heart has never stopped being squeezed ever since ...

Ginnymweasley · 23/10/2019 10:41

Ahhh ok. I think I'll give it a miss tbh. Sounds like a lot of money for very little gain. I managed to get into university to do a science degree with A levels from my local state school so I obv didn't run in the right circles for kumon maths.

cardamoncoffee · 23/10/2019 10:41

Rominyi you are not the PBP Crumbs by any chance? Do your children have soup and sup down by the boat house of which your neighbours are seethingly jealous, per chance? Grin

IVEgottheDECAF · 23/10/2019 10:42

I am so lost Confused

Anyway. Re the Radfords, i think if the media etc ignored them, if there were no more tv programmes etc then they would stop