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Are your children in the room with you now?

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tomboytown · 20/10/2019 15:59

Or do they prefer spending time in their room?
Does it depend on their age.
Ds has no interest in doing anything in his room, but my nieces never come downstairs

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Taswama · 20/10/2019 16:01

Dc2 (9) currently in his room talking to his toys.
DS1 - not sure, either in room or in conservatory listening to an audio book.
I’m reading my book in my bedroom

Alittlebitofthis · 20/10/2019 16:01

My son will normally be in the room with me. Although I'm upstairs cleaning and he's downstairs on his computer.
He doesn't play upstairs unless he has friends found or I'm upstairs too.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 20/10/2019 16:01

Mine hung around the lounge until the age of 16ish then became a bit more obsessed with their own rooms/space ... I think that was to do with poor WiFi upstairs which DH was keen to improve and I wasn’t as I don’t like young teens holed up in their rooms 24/7

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Alittlebitofthis · 20/10/2019 16:01

Should have added my son is 7

AlunWynsKnee · 20/10/2019 16:02

One is watching the TV with us. The other is in their room probably doing homework.

autumnboys · 20/10/2019 16:06

It was as though a switch flicked with my two oldest. One day they were hanging around with me downstairs, the next they were holing up in their rooms, one after the other. Ds3 has just turned 10 and isn’t quite there yet, but will disappear if allowed a screen in the hopes we'll forget he's got it.

Currently I am lying on my bed, DS1 (16) is talking about Lego with ds3 and ds2(14) is in his switch. DH is regrouting our shower.

Maryann1975 · 20/10/2019 16:07

Dc are 13, 11 and 9 and we are all sat together watching a film. Younger two are quite often happy to be in the lounge with us, but older one is a bit more 50/50, depending on what we are doing/watching. She has a tv in her room so would rather watch that than watch what we have on sometimes.

I don’t generally heat the whole house during the day though, I light the fire in the lounge, so tend to find they gravitate downstairs to the front room because the fire is on, warmth may have something to do with it! (Free logs for the fire vs paying for the central heating - sorry kids, if you want to sit in a heated room, you will have to sit with me!).

Raindancer411 · 20/10/2019 16:07

I cannot move without my son 7 following me 🙄 Trying to get him to be happy with his own company and confident but wow, he is resisting lol

megletthesecond · 20/10/2019 16:10

No. I'm in the kitchen trying to sort out food.
12yr old DS is hanging washing on the line after 5 hours on fortnite Hmm.
11yr old DD is watching tv.

GrumpiestCat · 20/10/2019 16:12

Mine are buggering about upstairs. I can hear chat. They get on pretty well. I might see them when they get hungry 😊

TreacherousPissFlap · 20/10/2019 16:13

No (but that's because I'm at work!)

DS(15) should just be back from work. He will be mooching around the kitchen while DH prepares dinner, then will retire to his room until feeding time dinner.

He's always been quite attached to his room, but with GCSE revision, guitars and computers up there now, downstairs holds little appeal (apart from the fridge!)

Fuckenstein · 20/10/2019 16:15

DS (7) is with me at the moment. He tends to stay downstairs a fair bit unless watching his TV.

The older two are out but spend lots of time in their rooms otherwise 11 & 14.

areyouafraidofthedark · 20/10/2019 16:16

Eldest two (8,7) are playing out and my daughter (3) is in and out playing in her bedroom.

AudTheDeepMinded · 20/10/2019 16:18

All three are out with their Dad on a bike ride atm. They tend to be wherever is least convenient to me it seems generally. If I start cooking, they all come in the kitchen and get under my feet. If I am cleaning the bathroom, they all feel the need to chat or use the loo (we have another downstairs!!). However, if I need help with anything they've all bogged off to their rooms. If I've asked them to do homework/come and eat etc etc ditto.

QueenWhatevs · 20/10/2019 16:18

I'm at work (on a short break, not skiving). If I weren't, my small children (5&2) would be superglued to me. Unless I call them for a meal or to get teeth brushed or shoes on or something, in which case they demonstrate the ability to magically disapparate.

I will miss their little clingy selves when they are too cool for me.

TreesSandSea · 20/10/2019 16:19

Yup, all 3 😁
About to make an apple pie with DS2, DS1 is peeling spuds for a roast tonight and DS3 is watching Squid play Scrap Mechanic on YouTube. Even the dog is here next to me, chewing her toenails Hmm

TheTurn0fTheScrew · 20/10/2019 16:19

Yes, they are. That's unusual though - the 12yo is more often in her room. We're back from lunch out in town (courtesy of a restaurant voucher from a mate) and both DC decided over lunch that we'd watch My Neighbour Totoro when we got back.

MonChatEstMagnifique · 20/10/2019 16:19

My kids are 15 and 10 and spend a fair bit of time in their room on their PCs. They both come and chat to us throughout the day though about random stuff and they are happy to watch a film with us. I've been helping my eldest with revision today for a couple of hours.

They both spent more time downstairs when they were younger and played with toys as we had a play room downstairs. They probably both started spending more time in their room from about age 8.

Oblomov19 · 20/10/2019 16:20

Ds's always liked their rooms. Always have done.

thismeansnothing · 20/10/2019 16:20

Dd (7) is in her room. Music on and busy colouring/doodling/spirographing

DD (8 month) is in her room having a nap.

TreesSandSea · 20/10/2019 16:21

They’re 10, 10 and 5

UncomfortableSilence · 20/10/2019 16:21

DD14 is in her room doing revision and watching An Inspector Calls as she's just finished the book.

DD9 is in the back room painting at the dining table with DH while I veg in the front room feeling like shit.

They tend to spend evenings in with us but are very independent and just get on with doing their own thing when we are at home.

bloodywhitecat · 20/10/2019 16:21

My two and three quarters year old goes wherever one of us goes (usually me) so yes, my child is in the room with me. Roll on 6.30pm

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 20/10/2019 16:21

Mine are 9 and 7 and currently demolishing the playroom with the kids from across the road, having been out playing on the street with them for the last 4 hours.

Symptomless · 20/10/2019 16:22

My 6 year old has never really enjoyed being by himself in his room. I doubt it will change until in his teens maybe.