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Are your children in the room with you now?

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tomboytown · 20/10/2019 15:59

Or do they prefer spending time in their room?
Does it depend on their age.
Ds has no interest in doing anything in his room, but my nieces never come downstairs

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Sweetpeach3 · 20/10/2019 16:24

I have DD-2 sat on my knee and DS-3 sat next to me. Can't get rid of them. Specially whilst we're all I'll neither will leave my side. Literally glued an scream the house down If I move ! I'm desperate for the loo as she's squishing my huge bump and she isn't a little 2 year old. She's bigger then my Ds 😂 help mums

Mitebiteatnite · 20/10/2019 16:25

DD 12 is out on her bike with friends and has been since 9am, apart from the 10 minutes it took her to inhale a sandwich at about 1. I won't see her now until it's starting to get dark, I always feel really sad around this time of year because she loves being outdoors and as the days get shorter, she gets less time outside.

DS 10 is flitting between the living room and his bedroom. He's building something huge with lego, but I'm a cruel mother and won't allow the entire chest of drawers full of bricks downstairs, so he keeps nipping back up every so often with a tub and returning after 15 minutes of sorting through the mountain that's currently on his bedroom floor.

lucysmam · 20/10/2019 16:25

No, they're upstairs...I'm cooking a roast. Being in the room would end up with bickering because I gave out small jobs to be done so they can stay up there (together, in dd1's bedroom at the mo) until tea is served, then help tidy and get things ready for tomorrow afterwards.

They usually disappear upstairs for an hour or two on an evening, watching Youtube/reading/colouring or whatever they decide to do. So long as they don't stay up there forever I don't mind sometimes :)

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Bluntness100 · 20/10/2019 16:26

My 22 year old is home and sitting opposite me.

She never ever spent time in her room. Ever. We always have had a second living room, she would use that to study, or she will even now play play station in there, but other than that she always sat and still sits with us, unless she had friends round,

nogooddeedgoesunpunished · 20/10/2019 16:26

I hear you @bloodywhitecat my 3 1/2 yr old is glued to me but will magically disappear when I want him in the bath in 2 hours time

ploofyorangebats · 20/10/2019 16:29

Adult(just) ds in his room on his PlayStation. I can hear him chatting to friends online.

Dd1 with me watching tv and dd2 upstairs FaceTiming friends. It depends on the time. Both dds like to spend time in their room in the mornings/holidays then appear foraging for food. All of them spend time together throughout the day just hanging out.

Ds also comes down late in the evening to sit with me and chat which is lovely as it means we get 1:1 time to find out how each other's day has gone without the younger ones jumping about.

EmmiJay · 20/10/2019 16:31

I'm on the bed 'relaxing'. DD (5) is on floor between the bed and the radiator on her tablet sqwaking to some vampire song. HALPME!

BikeRunSki · 20/10/2019 16:31

DS(11) is watching TV with me.
DD(8) is doing Lego in her room.

Elbowedout · 20/10/2019 16:33

All currently outside helping their Dad in the garden but as a general rule they spend a fair bit of time downstairs and a fair bit upstairs. We have a strict no TV and no games consoles upstairs rule though so if they want to play any computer games they have to come down.

gingercat02 · 20/10/2019 16:33

DS (11) is watching Man U v Liverpool. I'm in the comfy chair where you can't see the telly reading. So yes in the same room but not really together. He is spending more time away from us but mainly because his PS4 is now in the spare room

bobstersmum · 20/10/2019 16:33

Dd 2, ds5 ds6 and dsd15 all in the living area. Rarely not.

LBOCS2 · 20/10/2019 16:34

Yes. DD2 is snuggled up on my lap under a blanket while we watch a film (she's 3) and DD1 is playing minecraft on the iPad at the other end of the sofa.

They are also quite happy for me to wander off and do things, and not infrequently take themselves off upstairs to their bedroom to play. I hear them giggling together and it melts my heart.

CakeNinja · 20/10/2019 16:35

No, I’m hiding in the bath door very firmly locked.
The 2 teens are currently in their room doing their homework and sorting out their washing but have spent most of the time they’ve been at home today downstairs.
They spend pretty much an equal split of time in their rooms or down with us.
Ds is 8, he’s probably the same. No tech in his room but he plays quite a lot with his toys. He brings them to me when he wants company and talks nonstop about his latest Lego construction or action figure battle.
The teenagers are quite sociable, if we have friends round they will usually come and say hello and chat for half an hour or so until they get bored and then drift off.

subwaysaladfan · 20/10/2019 16:38

My eldest 17 is always downstairs unless she wants to watch something different and goes up to her room.
Ds17 is either out or in his room.
Dd15 is the same and loves her room and space.
My two youngest 5&3 are always downstairs, unless dc5 wants to play with her toys upstairs away from her naughty sister

67bird · 20/10/2019 16:47

DS1 17 next week in his room looking at his phone, only time he’s in the same room as us is breakfast and dinner time

iamabox · 20/10/2019 16:49

Dd 13 is in her room, she wont emerge until there is food on the table. Ds 5 is rolling around the living room floor yabbering on, and DH is in the living room trying to watch Lawrence of Arabia....🙄 and I am in the kitchen making dinner and listening to Radio 2.

NorthEndGal · 20/10/2019 16:52

Ds, 20, is downstairs making us bacon bowls with sliced cucumbers and green goddess dressing.
Dd, 22, is somewhere 2000 km away, helping my mum bring in the last of the garden.

Drabarni · 20/10/2019 16:53

Ours are older now, grown ups but one dd 15 still at home.
Bedrooms are for bed, other times are family times downstairs. I couldn't do with kids in bedrooms you might as well not have any especially if both parents work during the week.
Some families spend 10 mins here, the odd meal there, it's so sad.

Starlight456 · 20/10/2019 16:53

Yep Time on fortnite is the only time he has not followed me round (12) even wanting to help with lunch . Oh and was on his own whilst he had a bath.

We have played games, watched a film so not all bad

Stravapalava · 20/10/2019 16:53

DD1 has just started spending more time in her room now at nearly 9. She reads, write notes and plans for her secret gang at school or plays on her tablet. She sometimes does her hair and tries on different outfits and comes to show us.

DD2 likes to play on her own in the playroom or with her sister. She sometimes comes to us for help or to ask us to play a board or card game with her. She's nearly 5.

spice3 · 20/10/2019 16:55

My DS (2) is currently climbing all over me while I'm taking 5 mins to lie on the bed.

50% of the time he'll sit and watch something or play by himself and be unbothered.
50% of the time he'll be 3 steps behind me everywhere I go

DramaAlpaca · 20/10/2019 16:56

My 22 year old is watching the rugby which was recorded this morning with DH & me. He's usually either in his room or the den, doing his own thing, but pops in & out for a chat regularly. He's never been a hide in his room type.

Beechview · 20/10/2019 16:56

Yes they are even though we’re all doing our own thing. Xbox, Nintendo switch, reading/mumsnet.

Ithinkwerealonenowtiffany · 20/10/2019 16:56

17/15/11. Hate being with us unless there is football on the TV. Which does happen often but otherwise they are in their rooms.

Its what they do.

itsanamechangeone · 20/10/2019 16:58

DS2 is my shadow, he's 7, he doesn't like to be alone for a moment. He's sat next to me watching tv right now, I'm about to make dinner and I guarantee he will stop what he's watching follow me and sit at the kitchen table to colour or something. DS1 is 9 and is outside playing with friends, he watches TV with us but other than that is happy to be off playing on his own.

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