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Are your children in the room with you now?

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tomboytown · 20/10/2019 15:59

Or do they prefer spending time in their room?
Does it depend on their age.
Ds has no interest in doing anything in his room, but my nieces never come downstairs

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AChickenCalledDaal · 20/10/2019 16:58

14yo is in the next room watching old bake off episodes. 17yo is out (working). DH is in his "study" playing a computer game.

We are mostly a "get together at mealtimes" variety of family but we are all quite introverted so it works for us.

Threa · 20/10/2019 16:58

Both are in the living room with me. The 3 and a half years old is playing with a train track. The 1 and a half years old is playing with a toy but more keen to climb on the table.

Mummyoflittledragon · 20/10/2019 17:00

My 11 yo dd doesn’t spend time in her room unless she’s with friends. We are getting her a tv idk if that will change it a bit.

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Threa · 20/10/2019 17:00

My daughter who’s the one and a half years old one is my son’s shadow. He’s her whole world. Wherever he goes, she goes. I am mostly invisible to her unless she needs feeding!

PrincessHoneysuckle · 20/10/2019 17:01

Ds is in room with us now,hes 5.5 years.A lot of his time is spent doing his own thing in his room,playing etc.He just drifts about doing whatever he wants to do.

Namechange8471 · 20/10/2019 17:02

DD (age 10) is upstairs watching tv and playing it’s toys after just coming back from a weekend at grandmas .

I’ve just finished work (14 hour shift) so am watching crap and eating crap

BrieAndChilli · 20/10/2019 17:03

I’m in my bedroom sorting washing. DH is out.
DS1 age 12 is playing on the wii in the lounge.
DD age 11 is in her bedroom, probably drawing
DS2 age 9 is on the PC.

DS2 never spends time in his room. Is normally in the study which has PC as well as a tv and games console in or in the lounge.
DS1 does tend to go up to his room (which he shares with DS2) and read
DD spends a lot more time in her room since we redid it. She no longer has a mid sleeper bed and also no has a desk so likes to disappear up there although she often does craft stuff on the dining room table.

HakunaM · 20/10/2019 17:07

I'm in the kitchen on the sofa.

DCs (7 and 5) are in the sitting room next door where they're built a den.

It's only a matter of time before my peace is interrupted by some sort of perceived injustice / falling out..

ilovetofu · 20/10/2019 17:11

I'm in my room trying to nap!
Kids watching telly in the living room.
We are all tired and have been out all day 🤷‍♀️

ThreeLittleDinos · 20/10/2019 17:19

Yes. Elder 2 are almost 4&3, but all their toys are downstairs. In the new year we'll be shuffling their room about and moving some of their toys upstairs as the baby will likely be crawling around then. I suspect they'll want to play there sometimes too once there's toys in there. My friend has an almost 5&3 year old. All their toys are upstairs and they spend a lot of time in their rooms. I think it depends on how many toys there are in their rooms or living room.

BrokenWing · 20/10/2019 18:05

Ds(15) was always downstairs with us until his games console was moved to his room when he was 12. Now I only see him when he needs fed!

BuzzingtheBee · 20/10/2019 18:07

Dds 1 and 2, are teenagers, generally out or in their rooms. Dd3, 10 is here and DS 6 is always here, but not now as DH is bathing him.

OddBoots · 20/10/2019 18:10

The 16 year old is in thish room playing a DIY based game called House Flipper on her computer (while watching a French Anime about a ladybird girl on her second screen). The 20 year old is upstairs in his room studying but will be coming down when he has finished and we will all watch Taskmaster together.

Susiesue61 · 20/10/2019 18:21

I've been at work most of the weekend so am chilling on our bed, DS 2 who is 14 is with me revising for a test in front of the football 😊 He's very chilled and nice company!! DD is 18, she's in bed having played football earlier. DH is downstairs in a bad mood, also watching football

Anothernotherone · 20/10/2019 18:22

At the moment all the kids are in the same room as us, but have been migrating between the downstairs rooms for the last couple of hours. DC1 and 2 were in the kitchen drawing characters from Futurama until a few minutes ago.

14 year old is mostly in the same room or the interconnected one, often drawing or reading or watching something on her phone with headphones, so not necessarily doing the same activity but she doesn't shit herself in her room much except to do homework or if her little brothers have noisy or annoying friends over, or equally if she herself has a friend over they tend to be in her room most of but not all the time.

12 year old goes to his room to game (Minecraft or fortnight) but has a timer and comes downstairs again when his time's up. Unlike 14 year old he does his homework downstairs by preference.

8 year old is mostly in the same room but doesn't have a problem being on a different floor (at 8 the oldest didn't like going upstairs alone and used to take a brother along for company if she needed to get h something). He went upstairs and ran his bath earlier while I finished off a section I was in the middle of on a report, and was singing away in the bath when I went up. He likes to play in the same room as other people although doesn't need constant interaction. He and his brother still play together. He'd stay in another room / house/ country watching or playing on screens for as long as he was allowed... He and dc2 go outside to play together though too.

I think dc2 would possibly shut himself in his room if he had unlimited internet access and computer time, but he has an hour on school days and 2 on weekend days which is more than enough and never makes a fuss when his time's up.

Anothernotherone · 20/10/2019 18:23

Shut not shit

Welliesandpyjamas · 20/10/2019 18:27

7 yrd old DD - here with me now but always happy to play elaborate soft toy and doll dramas in her room
10 yr old DS - here with me now and the most likely to be hanging around staying involved in whatever is going kn downstairs or sharing his latest brainwaves, doesn’t spend much time alone in his room.
16 yr old DS - has been prone to spending too much time in his room inrecent months, doing the typical teenage thing of chatting to girls or watching films. Has got a bit better at emerging to soend time with the whole famly lately so hopefully coming out the other side of the phase.

Welliesandpyjamas · 20/10/2019 18:29

To add to that, they all are allowed limited time on wii, xbox, or computer but it is in a room off the living room with the door open. I’ve seen the damage in other families that unlimited out of sight screen time can have ☹️

ShitUsername · 20/10/2019 18:30

Yes, I don’t get a minutes peace until they’re in bed 😂 they’re only 6 and 3 though

SimonJT · 20/10/2019 18:30

Yes, but we’re in a hotel and it’s 2:30am here, sadly my body thinks it’s 6:30pm.

Even at home though my son is very much joined to my hip, which is generally nice, sometimes infuriating

Candle1000 · 20/10/2019 18:32

Dd is in her bedroom with her boyfriend, the door is shut .

She is 21 .

Ragwort · 20/10/2019 18:36

No because he’s now at uni but in general terms he would spend quite a lot of time in his own room or if he was watching tv he would prefer to be on his own in the sitting room , we would rarely want to watch the same thing on tv so we would have to ‘negotiate’ ... before it got easier to watch tv on a lap top or whatever. I can’t say I blame him as I really dislike watching tv with anyone else, can’t concentrate & cant stand other people’s comments.

I quite envy families who say they can all enjoy watching tv or a film together, that would just never happen in our house, even DH & I struggle to find something we both enjoy.

SoundofSilence · 20/10/2019 18:46

DS1 retreated to his room at age 11 when DS2 was 1 and mobile. He comes out to talk to me if DS2 is in bed and DP is out. It makes me a little sad but at least I get some quality time with him. DS2 is now 7 and likes to be on the same floor of the house as me but doesn't mind being in a different room so much any more.

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