Would you judge a mum with a 3 yo in a buggy?

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My 3.5 yo is flagging massively on the 2 mile circuit of a school/nursery run we have. She can't manage to scoot or bike the journey as she isn't great on either.

I've got a 3 month old baby in the pushchair at the moment but could put him in a sling and put her in buggy but I wonder if people would be judgy about an older child in a buggy? Or alternatively I've got a sling I can back carry her in and keep baby in pushchair. Would that be judged even I more? I'm not sure why I care but I do.

No but i was judged and my kid wasnt even big 3 year old. Why is it any different to car journies? They may walk some part of the journey so they still would have had more exercise than from door to door by car.
Some children have additional needs or foot problems etc.

My point is not everyone drives and if foot and public transport is how you get around or you have a long journey how is it not like a car seat?!

I would be thinking what a great mum and feeling a bit envious you have little children. I wish mine were little again.xx

No judgement here. As an aside, i found a buggy board on a single buggy way more difficult to manoeuvre/push than the tandem pushchair.

I think we all live in the bubble of our own experience.

I can't remember the last time I walked past a child in a buggy and thought about their age. I suspect 99.9% of people are the same.

I probably have stared a bit at prams lately but only because I'm wondering how the parents chose their pram, if they would recommend it and if it would fit in the boot of my car.

Do whatever suits you, sod rude people.

This morning going to try to get her to walk most of the way and give her the option to go in the sling if she's not managing.

I think she actually has great endurance as we are always out walking for miles at the weekend but it's different because it's a leisurely pace and she's doing fun things along the way so she finds it easier. We've all got coughs and colds and she's just struggling and I don't want to be dragging a crying 3 year old around on the school run if I can help it. Morning is slightly easier than afternoon too, by 3pm she's exhausted.

This is my situation as well. My son is 3 and can't walk the 2 mile round trip to Nursery every day. I get judged all the time but I really don't care as my son has a few health problems that make walking that far quite hard. I think the other parents are judging him because he is very small, can't communicate very well (12 months behind) and is developmentally delayed so isn't potty trained yet. He also has asthma and is constantly sick over winter so he just can't build the strength up. So he sort of looks, sounds and acts like a 2 year old but is at Nursery and it confuses them

Not at all. We walk everywhere and it's too much for a three year old sometimes.

Judge? Somebody is always judging.

You'd be judged if your 3yr old was walking along, crying, because they were tired.

Always used to pick y 3 yr old up in the buggy after nursery as they'd be KNACKERED.

Is the buggy right for you? Go for it.

I wouldn't judge.

@WrongKindOfFace, I broadly agree with you that exercise is something you build up tolerance for, but FWIW, my dad was very much of your school of thought and got us doing long walks from early on, and definitely walking to school. And TBH, the result is I have very vivid memories of being bloody exhausted after a day at school and having to walk home, and I hated it. I have stamina; as an adult I used to walk 5 miles once or twice a day and it was fine, etc. etc. But I am not sure that very small children have a lot of energy after a long day at school/nursery, and would worry about putting them off the whole idea of walking for pleasure later in life.

Absolutely not. I had one child who hated sitting in a buggy from the time she could toddle - and another who was the complete opposite! Once had to buy a cheap one when on holiday - she was over 3 - it was such a pain trying to do without when there was a lot of walking. Same child at around the same age once told me she'd had a nightmare about a 'witch mummy' who wouldn't let her sit in the buggy!

I used to teach in a school nursery and loads of kids went in buggies on the way home. Usually the ones where they had a long walk or a baby sibling. I wouldn't bat an eyelid.

I wouldn’t bat an eyelid. As parents we have to do whatever makes our lives that little bit easier. Use the pushchair!

Not at all.

With kids, you've gotta do what you've gotta do.
No judgement from me.

No way. Btw well done and thank you for taking an environmentally friendly option.

No, absolutely not.

My DS is nearly 3 and i have him in the pram for the school run. Ive been worried about people judging me for it so yesterday i took him without the pram

Worst mistake of the day, he was like a hooligan in the playground, running riot wouldnt listen 😂😂 safe to say hes back in the pram today

Why would you care what some random non entity judgy person thinks?
That makes zero sense to me. 🤷🏻‍♀️
Let them judge away.
Wanting to feel superior to another human being is entirely their problem to overcome.

Seriously, stop trying to be a people pleaser and focus on living your life any way that makes you happy.
Your stress levels will virtually vanish once you do that.

fuck what people think ,all you need to think about is getting your kids to and from school safely.

It's better for you, the baby and your 3 year old to be walking 2 miles in the fresh air with the baby in the sling and 3 year old in the buggy than it is to drive the 2 miles, put it that way.

I wouldn't even think twice. 2 miles is a trek for little leggies. Use the buggy 🙂

No I wouldn’t judge but I found a buggy board very awkward and wouldn’t recommend it! What about a double buggy or one of those Joovy Caboose buggy’s ?

Nope. This time last year my then 3yo was still in the buggy part time. He used to go down in the buggy for morning drop off, then he’d walk back. In the afternoon he’d walk down & sometimes walk, sometimes ride home. He was 4 late summer & I’ve decided I’m keeping the double buggy for this winter. Although we’re rural a lot of the teacher live in walking distance so if we do get bad snow school tends to stay open, if it does happen I’ll probably stick him in the buggy along with the 2yo as that way I’ll only need to keep myself & the 3 older dc upright .

Currently the 2yo walks home in the morning & down in the afternoon. Then does the rest in the buggy. He’s a late summer baby too & I’m fairly certain we’ll still be using the buggy at times this time next year with him as well.

Wouldn’t judge at all. Plenty of the kids in my DS’s nursery (attached to a school, have to be 3 by September to start) arrive or go home in a buggy. It’s very common especially at pick up when they’re all a bit tired.

Nothing wrong with 3 and 4 year olds,still in buggys, nobody's buisness but youres

I probably wouldn't even notice age of child. I get quite a few stares as my 4 year old still uses a buggy. He has autism and his buggy is like his safe place. He is also not a great walker so it's easier and safer for everyone if he can go in a buggy when he needs to. Waiting for the day someone comments, especially when he is in it with his computer and crisps - last resort when he is having a meltdown when need to leave to pick my other children up!