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Would you judge a mum with a 3 yo in a buggy?

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itseasybeingcheesy · 15/10/2019 17:37

My 3.5 yo is flagging massively on the 2 mile circuit of a school/nursery run we have. She can't manage to scoot or bike the journey as she isn't great on either.

I've got a 3 month old baby in the pushchair at the moment but could put him in a sling and put her in buggy but I wonder if people would be judgy about an older child in a buggy? Or alternatively I've got a sling I can back carry her in and keep baby in pushchair. Would that be judged even I more? I'm not sure why I care but I do.

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TheTurn0fTheScrew · 15/10/2019 17:47

i had a 4yo in a buggy on odd occasions
I could never work out why it's social more acceptable to drive a mile and a half than have a pushchair on standby

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 15/10/2019 17:48

I'm judgyAF and I wouldn't think twice about this.
As long as you're not smoking and blowing the smoke in her face whilst force feeding her quavers you're good Wink

BeanBag7 · 15/10/2019 17:48

It's a long walk and shes tired after a day at nursery. Who cares what other people think, you know she needs it and it will make all your lives easier. If anyone questions it (why would they) tell them your reasoning which is perfectly sound

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Ohilovedinosaurs · 15/10/2019 17:50

I wouldn't judge you buuuuut I had to stop using the pushchair for my dd at that age as I was suffering with pelvic girdle pain and I physically couldn't push her anymore. My dd was having to walk that distance a few times a week as she had no choice and it didn't take long for her to get use to it. She's in reception now and walks 1.5 miles each way every day plus being at school full time and is absolutely fine to do so without meltdowns.

53rdWay · 15/10/2019 17:53

No, wouldn't bat an eyelid. Do what you need to do. In my experience people who are judgy about 3-year-olds in buggies are people who are totally fine with 3-year-olds in cars for half-mile journeys, so don't need to be taken all that seriously.

Deadringer · 15/10/2019 17:55

I wouldn't notice either. I parent my way and I don't give a shiney shit what other parents think as long as my DC are safe and happy. Do whatever suits you.

Doyoumind · 15/10/2019 17:55

What does it matter if they judge? The child's happiness is more important than pleasing other people. 3 isn't even old to be in a pushchair for a long walk.

Greedytiger · 15/10/2019 17:56

My almost

SusieSusieSoo · 15/10/2019 17:57

If she's tired let her have a ride in the buggy. If people judge you shame on them! Please judge the situation by what's best for the lo not what other people think!

I was judged majorly by someone close to me because I still used my buggy when ds was 4 on holiday. We had lovely long lunchtime walks, ds had a lovely lunchtime holiday nap out of the sun. Lovely lovely holiday. Do what works for your family xx

Greedytiger · 15/10/2019 17:57

Sorry little hands grabbed phone!

My almost 3 year old often uses a buggy for the preschool run. I have a 7 month old and got a double for long days out and big walks.

Drogonssmile · 15/10/2019 17:58

Not for one minute!

mbosnz · 15/10/2019 17:58

Once I would have. Now I think of my niece, terminally ill with brain cancer, just five years old, and to add to their grief, total strangers would smash on up to them to hassle them about this big girl being in a buggy.

Now I do not judge. And even if I do, I STFU. Stuff them. Do what's right for you and your little ones.

PinkCrayon · 15/10/2019 17:59

Definitely not.

Letthemysterybe · 15/10/2019 18:00

Nope. I pick my 3.5 year old up
from nursery with the buggy, as she is often exhausted and walking home was hard bloody work. When I had a baby and a 3 year old I got a buggy board that was brilliant. But I also often took the sling too for the baby, as sometimes a tired 3 year old just wants to sit down.

Bluerussian · 15/10/2019 18:02

I certainly wouldn't judge, it would not be my business.

SpiderCharlotte · 15/10/2019 18:03

Nope, I wouldn't notice.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 15/10/2019 18:05

I’d go with a buggy board too at that age or a scooter.

NataliaOsipova · 15/10/2019 18:05

Yes they’ve been out of the buggy since they were one, but they’ve never walked more than 30 feet.

I’ve met a few types like this! Do whatever makes your life easier, OP!

shrunkenhead · 15/10/2019 18:06

Yup. See other similar thread...

TheRobinIsBobbingAlong · 15/10/2019 18:10

Do whatever is easiest. I tried a buggy board but because you have to stand a bit further away from the buggy to give space I didn't find it that comfortable and preferred to have the baby in a sling and the toddler in the buggy. Just go with whatever is easiest for you. Two miles is a long way for a 3yr old and it's great that you're out walking yourself and not driving there and back.

ALongHardWinter · 15/10/2019 18:11

No,I wouldn't. Three is very young to be walking that sort of distance. However,over the last few years I've seen increasingly older children in buggies,either that or they're big for their age. I must admit I get a bit judgemental when I see what looks like a child of about 6 in a buggy.

Trialanderror46 · 15/10/2019 18:12

My little girl was born prematurely, which meant she started school a year earlier than she would have done had she been full term, due to dob.
First term, the tiny ones went part time, and I always let her go in the pushchair on the way home. She was just 4.
Don't worry, and do what works for you and your little one.

SpiderCharlotte · 15/10/2019 18:13

I didn't like the buggy board either Robin, I'm short and found it really hurt my back.

AutumnCrow · 15/10/2019 18:14

No

HEMammajamma · 15/10/2019 18:16

It's absolutely nobody's business. No one knows why and whomever judges you has a personal problem, not you. Do what is convenient for you and your DCs. x

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