Come celebrate your ONLY CHILD

[MarthasGinYard]

Apparently

They can be....

'Rude'

'Lack awareness'

'Spoilt'

'Unable to share'

'Lack manners'

'Lack stimulation'

'Socially reclusive'

And funniest of all they lead some kind of Mr Bean existence, sitting on a crate eating supper alone every night crying and neglected 😉

In reality my DC in fucking awesome in every way shape and form....

What about yours?

Thanks for all the wonderful additions

Making for a heart warming read

I have 2 older siblings and Dp has 4 we barely see them.

Dd is an amazing girl, we are incredibly lucky to have her. I never wanted dc and she came along in my late 30's as a big surprise and being completely unmaternal I did have fears.

She sat in the car today with her friend who is a little older and asked all about her week and congratulated her friend on a swimming award they were chatting about. So warms my cockles, she really does....Hard sometimes to remember she's 9.

She has a far better social life than me

Elderflower

Amazing

I've just thought - BIL1 has one daughter, BIL2 has one son, BIL3 has one daughter. Seems they're all keen on keeping it to onlies

Lovely to hear all of this positively about onlies! My DD is an only (not through choice, all other IVF attempts failed) and I think she's perfect. I've always been told how polite and caring she is.

My lovely kind, generous, easy going DD is a single child.
She is very good about sharing - unlike myself and my 6 siblings! I don’t think kids in large families do share well. When I grew up there was lots of large families about. We were all obsessed with what we got and making sure we got EXACTLY what others good and we would not share what we had at all.

My only is genuinely caring and kind. So loving, absolutely hilarious, and has a massive heart. She is happy to be an only.

These negative myths about only children are at best absolute nonsense, and at worst damaging and offensive. People need to fuck right off with their anti-one child views! There are a million reasons why a child may be an only. And none of them are any of your business!

Can we bump this thread? More shit is being spouted on the other one.

Bookworm

Honestly there are some real idiots over there.

Ignore and pity

Love this thread! DS is an only, although we've only just decided that would be the case after a difficult journey. I have worried about it but reading all of these amazing comments and stories has really helped.

He is incredibly loving, funny, kind, polite, sociable and (I think!) bright. His life is full of wonder, joy and love, what more can we hope for!

Am so delighted to find this thread. The other was so annoying. In particular I found grating the comments about parents of ‘onlies’ always trying to set up play dates or holidays. Jesus, no- it’s the other way round. We love our dd’s company and everyone wants my kind, caring, funny, beautiful, clever and well adjusted child over to play with their fighting siblings (so they have a friend of their age, or to maybe teach their kids some fucking manners) and I guess by inviting her they don’t have to have that annoying thing of someone turning up with a sibling in tow.

Anyhow, as I said she’s a total delight, and just a joy to be around.

In DS' class of 22, there are 8 children without siblings. In the playground you couldn't tell who has a sibling and who doesn't. They're all just children.

DS shares with us, he will save sweets from a birthday party for us, he's extremely affectionate, loves helping out with diy or cooking, even cleaning! He is extremely tolerant of the dog and loves her to bits, says she's "kind of a sister, but better"

More lovely onlies

And yes I agree, why on earth do people think we are desperate for a scrap of a play date

It's quite surprising what some individuals perceptions of our dc and their social scene entails.

I don't have DCs but I am an only child. I'm tempted to find that other thread to read about what a selfish, tragically maladjusted weirdo I am

I'm an only child and a fucking joy to be around

😂😂😂

ElQuintoConyo

Lovely

In DD's class there are about 7 so almost half. It's lovely actually. Many of us are older parents so I also quite fit in

Vet

You aren't missing much

I'd give it a miss

'I'm an only child and a fucking joy to be around

😂😂😂'

Nice to see a positive thread.

My dd (14) is fab. She is very funny, tremendously kind and one of the most thoughtful people I know. She is amazing at making friends and keeping them. Mature, articulate, sensible and really hard working. Very organised. Incredibly generous. Super talented. I love her to bits.

She isn't perfect, of course. She can be a bit moody when she's tired but she resists sleep all the same. Her room is a bit of a tip and she always forgets to do her laundry until just before bedtime, but they're pretty minor failings in the grand scheme of things.

Her teachers all love her, and she has a really wide circle of lovely friends. She has great relationships with us and with her extended family.

And she is very happy being an only child!

I was going to venture on to the other thread but sounds like it would just annoy the crap out of me so I will hang out here telling you about my wonderful only child.

She’s smart, funny, has a razor sharp wit, is kind, generous and thoughtful beyond belief, loving, has lots of friends and is outgoing, generally an all round awesome kid. I’m immensely proud of her. She also, like PPs kids, gets lots of compliments when we’re out and about about how polite, friendly and well mannered she is.

I’m sure the numpties on the other thread would feel very sorry for her as she is not only an only child she is the only adoptive child of a single mother. I’m sure they’d recoil in shock and horror that such a child could turn out to be utterly frickin awesome! Oh, and really good at sharing too...

I'm an only child, I never felt that I missed out on anything. I grew up to be a caring, empathic person, I shared with my friends, I cared and I loved my friends but at the end of the day, I enjoyed the peace of my own company, my own bedroom, and toys.

This is a lovely thread. Thank you so much for starting it. I posted on the other thread and was probably a large part of what led to us parents of onlies being described as "chippy" or something.

My DS is bright, confident, polite, caring. He is really good with younger children and I love to watch him with his little cousins. His best friend's little brother adores him.

What made me so sad about that other thread was the implication that it doesn't matter what other factors are in play: we've screwed our children simply by not giving them a sibling - that that is the ONLY criterion by which happiness is measured. I mean, I know that some utter shit gets spouted by people who, to paraphrase Sherlock, lower the IQ of the whole street when they talk out loud, but I was amazed by how much of it there was and how insensitive it was. I am the parent of an only by choice, but where that's not the case it must be utterly heartbreaking to read such utter bollocks being parroted as some kind of scientific truth.

So thank you for this thread.

Well said TheOnly - and everyone on this thread tbh.

There's a book that debunks all the "only child" myths based on, you know, facts - so there is scientific research to back up what we are saying about all the myths being a load of cobblers.

Having said that, I've never actually read the book as I already know it's the truth!

This is it btw and Only [[https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16130295-one-and-only]]

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Those idiots have no idea at all.

My ds is wonderful! He is a bit of an introvert like me at times, but he can stick up for himself and express his opinion, is thoughtful, kind, is a part-time comedian and he's just a good egg really! Will never forget when I was ill with a fever and he came into my room to give me a cup of tea and to pull the duvet up so I wouldn't get cold. He is 8.