Don't know what to do

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Name changed as don't want this on my posting history.

Been with new partner for about 3.5 months. I've just found out I'm about 4 months pregnant with my exs baby. Me and ex weren't together when baby was conceived we were both drunk and slept together.

Now I don't know what to do 😞

Advice please

Do you want to have a baby?
How do you feel about the likelihood of being a single parent?

I did want a baby in the future but I don't want to put this baby up for adoption or have an abortion (I think it's a bit late now though even if I wanted to have an abortion). I probably will be a single parent as partner probably wouldn't want to bring up another man's baby 😞.

Also don't know how to tell partner. Ex doesn't know yet either

It's not too late to have an abortion if that's the best option for you. Putting a baby up for adoption isn't as easy as the media (especially the American media) would have you believe.

Do you have any real life support from friends or family?
Would you be able to cope financially?

You don't have to have this baby; you can have a termination now and go on to have a baby in the future when circumstances are right. You've got to decide what's right for you.

Do you have any idea if you want to keep the baby? That is your first decision, and has nothing to do with either man if you don't want to tell them yet/at all

Firstly you need to decide if you want to keep the baby, that is the priority right now (abortion limit is 24 weeks in the uk I think??) You could consider adoption but you still have to go through pregnancy, birth, see you baby and it’s not as easy to give a baby away as people think.

If you do then you need to tell you partner, nobody could blame him if he didn’t want to continue with this relationship. This is a massive deal and you’ve been together just 4 months. In all honestly would you stay in the relationship is you were him? I wouldn’t.

Then you would need to tell the ex, he may or may not want to be involved. He will however have to pay child support

Can you support a child currently? Do you have a secure home? A job? Family to help?

More questions than answers here too, sorry, but without knowing the answers to the above questions it’s too difficult to say

I’d also like to know how old you are.