What age do you consider over the hill?

[PapaStinky]

I was thinking 50?

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I'm 57 and spent last Saturday partying and shagging my fwb till 4am. I swim a km a day of fast front crawl, I work in a good job, I ride horses cross country, I go to gigs, I drink wine, I go on protests and I think your attitude stinks.

50! - over the hill?!

Just because some silly cards say that 40 or 50 is over the hill, doesn’t mean that it actually is, or that the phrase has any meaning.

Blimey, age 50 is only approximately 5/8ths of average life expectancy. That's not so far over half way up that hill!

Mumsnet HQ , please keep this on file for 20 years then send it back to the OP and see how they feel about it then! LMAO !

@PapaStinky

Tbh, I too thought you were being goady in your OP but then read your other posts.

I think you're still getting a lot of backlash because people often don't RTFT, even the highlighted OP's posts.

I do see where you're coming from re the cake and wondering if it's appropriate. My first and only "snigger - you're old now" card was on my 30th. Cards for my 40th and 50th were a lot more tactful (probably should have worried me more: "Don't let's upset the poor old girl").

My next big birthday will be 60 which is the age that I always felt from a teenager counted as "old". I'll wait and see how I feel then.

Looks-wise, I was at my best during my 30s and 40s (more confidence and more money). Sadly, I've definitely noticed a change in my skin since the menopause.

Wish your husband a happy 50th from me

I'm 29 and the age 36 gives me the fear

However I'm sure it will continue to move as I age, probably to ten years older than I am

I LOVED being 36. It was the best age. It was the year before my marriage ended, so not a happy time, but I finally felt like I was a proper grown up and I just loved the sound and the idea of 36.

I also loved 36.
I'd got to where I wanted to be in my job; my two children were old enough to sleep at nights, eat proper food and be continent, but young enough to be enormous, guileless fun, and I was starting to look and feel the best I ever had.

Given that I said I had my first and only "Haha you're old' card at 30, amusedbush, you may need to brace yourself

PS Great name, btw.

We all age so get over it! Even the snooty cool 19 year olds will be 46 one day if they are lucky . Better than the alternative.

@LaMarschallin

I think you're still getting a lot of backlash because people often don't RTFT, even the highlighted OP's posts.

I do see where you're coming from re the cake

Nope. Sorry. That doesn't wash. The OP was specifically stating that @PapaStinky thinks 50 is over the hill.

Yes but without any further thought (and let’s face it, a lot of people don’t actually think much) I can see how OP might have thought she was asking a simple question:

When is it appropriate to buy this cake for someone?

• My answer, of course, would still have been probably never, whatever the age! Unless it’s an in joke and a very lighthearted person who isn’t going to find it dismissive and rude.

On the other hand I think I might vaguely remember a similarly goady statement from OP before, so it wouldn’t surprise me if there was another motivation. In any case this is about as much attention I’m going to afford this thread.

Ninkaninus

Yes but without any further thought (and let’s face it, a lot of people don’t actuallythinkmuch) I can see how OP might have thought she was asking a simple question:

When is it appropriate to buy this cake for someone?

Yes, that's what I thought.
I said the OP sounded goady to me. But then PapaStinky posted this:

Jeez didn't mean to cause offence. Genuine question as I was looking at birthday cakes for DH as his 50th is looming. I spotted a Costco one that has an over the hill design and wondered if that was appropriate. I Googled it actually and it says over 40 is considered over the hill. I was thinking that sounded too young so maybe 50 hence asking the question. Never expected a shit storm

I promise I've got form for reacting very strongly to what I perceive as ageist posts.
But reading the other posts from PS, including mentioning they're close to 50 and their OH is just about there, I felt a bit sorry for them and that they'd been misunderstood (and maybe should have posed their AIBU better).

On the other hand I think I might vaguely remember a similarly goady statement from OP

Fair enough.
They're new to me (mind you, I'm probably new to loads of people too).

@LaMarschallin

Thank you

I'm actually really looking forward to 30. My 20s have had some really great bits but on the whole, it has been a long slog.

Age is definitely a state of mind, and I am internally 87

My dad in law is 80 and still rides a motorbike (very capable) my dad 68 is sick with various health complaints and does very little. It's just a number. Life is so short. Live however and whatever you wish and make the most of it... I never even think of being over the hill!

People age differently.

I'm rather heartened that MNHQ wouldn't remove the thread because the OP didn't like the replies.

I thought we were all here to empower each other

You didnt think that when you insulted everyone over 50. That wasnt exactly empowering

I'm glad MNHQ didnt remove the thread. Too many threads get deleted for no good reason. Asking to have it removed because it didnt go your way is ridiculous