What age do you consider over the hill?

[PapaStinky]

I was thinking 50?

I'm hardly ageist

You are asking what is considered "over the hill" - so yes, yes you are ageist.

It depends what for - to be an underwear model or Olympic athlete or to be attractive to 20 something men definitely to live a full fun meaningful life definitely not until you lose your health.

Depends for what? DPs and PILs range from late 50s mid 60s and they all still work/have hobbies/do childcare/bit of exercise etc. All have health 'niggles' but nothing that has a major effect on their day to day lives.

3/4 my grandparents still lived independently n their mid 80s and didn't decline/die till 88/89 (One died age 75 of cancer and one is 85 now and lives alone)

Well I'm 45 and gig regularly with a punk band. The other members are over 50.

I have friends with whom I go youth hostelling a couple of times a year - again the others are 50+

I still have all my piercings and bright red hair.

I wild camp with my child.

I go to festivals and camp on my own or with my child.

I work full time in a professional career.

I can't see much of that changing in the next 5 years or so.

So I'd also like to know 'over the hill' for what?

I always took Over the hill to mean over half way through your life span??

I thought it was generally taken to mean 'past your best' or 'outlived your usefulness'.

It implies that you should be slowing down and have become less relevant.

Christ, why is everyone so fucking aggressive?

The question is deeply stupid. 🙄

Agree that it’s ten years older than your current age.
I remember going to a thirtieth birthday party when I was about twenty.
I was surprised that the birthday girl actually looked so good as she was so ‘old’.
You are over the hill when you decide you are over the hill imho

If you're not rich and famous then by 45 or so. I'll definitely be well over the hill in 10 years, I'm part way there now.

Over the hill?
That concept is dead and buried.
Live till you die!

Stupid question was my husband over the hill? He died at 38??

I'm 53 and I don't get the backlash the op has been getting here. So what if someone thinks 50 is over the hill? I couldn't give a rats arse what anyone thinks I'd my age so I wouldn't be annoyed at this in a million years. But some, we'll most of you are up in arms at anyone thinking they're over the hill.... Lighten up folks!!!

I’m in my early 60s and also thought it was a jokey phrase, I feel very much over the hill today nursing my tooth abscess and looking forward to another extraction but other days I almost feel young and vibrant.

I am 75. It depends on how steep the hill, whether there is a handrail and whether what is on the other side of the hill is worth the effort.

Which hill?

Surely you just have an ageist mindset if you think theres a cutoff age for... what exactly? Fun? Love? Excitement?

Papa don't stress about the thread. It'll put years on you.

Thanks to those who kind of got where I was coming from. As for all the nasty comments I didn't realise how upset strangers replies would make me but it has. I have asked for the thread to be removed but they have said no. I have been on here in different guises for about 12 years and haven't experienced this kind of backlash so am quite saddened by the responses. I thought we were all here to empower each other not all sweary insults that have been dished out, for what I genuinely thought was a valid question.

If you don't agree with a comment fair enough but there are nicer ways to get your point across.

My SIL sent me a birthday card with "you're not over the hill yet but there's a pretty good view from where you're standing " maybe I should have told her to fuck off instead of laughing about it?

Oh god I know JLO is incredible - I saw a post on instagram where she was standing with around 10 supermodels in their 20s and they were all casting such envious anxious glances her way - she was by far the most beautiful, powerful and strong. She wiped the floor with them.

I am definitely over the hill!

I must admit it is a bit irritating when people say, "Look at X, Y, and Z!" as examples of 50-somethings who are gorgeous. C'mon, most of us do not look like actresses/models. They are outliers. And probably spend a good deal of money on being outliers, too, ie on "improvements" which can be quite subtle but effective.

Surely we should be ok with being 50+ and not have to be doing a fine impression of someone who is 30 in order to qualify as not being "over the hill".

Yes I don’t actually like the celebrity angle and the implied notion that one has to be ‘sexy’/fantastically fit/still look like a 30 year old in order to not be over the hill and/or still relevant.

I’m in the prime of my life right now, whether or not I fit that very narrow set of criteria, thank you very much!

And I’m hugely offended by the idea that being strong or powerful is in any way connected to one’s looks, nor in fact to one’s age.

Fuck sake op, what sort of replies did you expect to such a stupid question?

I thought we were all here to empower each other

Well, you’re hardly empowering those of us over 50 by insinuating that we’re ‘over the hill’ are you?