What would you tell your childfree self?

[VanillaChai20]

If you could back in time, is there any advice you'd give yourself pre-DC? Anything you wish you'd done beforehand or anything that's surprised you and you wished you'd known?

I don't have kids yet, which is why I'm asking!!

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@AnotherEmma ok

Don't have kids 😀.

Joking aside, make sure your financially stable, got a decent job to go back to and a solid, dependable roof over your head. Yes things can happen, but in my opinion best to start off the right way. Also don't have so many and leave longer between them. Plus spend plenty of time traveling, more time doing what you want and time with your other half.

To deal with my own childhood trauma first so I don't end up sounding like the worst of my parents when I've lost my temper.

@mrsmuddlepies

Honestly? I'd tell myself to have them a few years earlier (I started at 31 maybe wish I had got my bum into gear around 27/28).

I'm sorry if you took it that way Frangipani, it wasn't my intent.

I still think that human nature is pretty much as it always has been.

I'd tell my children self...

Don't do it. Its probably not for you, from what you've seen.

And I did not do it, and am 45 and don't regret it.

It was something I actually read on here that made the difference. I was 39 or so, 40
thinking, it's now or never, genuinely. Should I, shouldn't I?? Someone said, that hormonal drive you get when its last ditch saloon? It goes away.

Oh!!! I thought. Oh well, if this feeling goes away, I wont do it then.

And feeling that relief is how i knew being a mum wasn't for me.