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Avoidance

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depressedorpaininthearse · 26/09/2019 23:58

Hi, would appreciate some advice if you know anything about mental health.
If you find yourself avoiding things - by that I mean situations in life or indeed people - and you find you’re doing it more and more often, is it a sign of anxiety, or depression, or a personality disorder, or both/all of those things?
For example today I drove a ten mile round trip so that I could avoid going to the shop that is 5 minutes walk from where I live.
Are there any techniques I should employ to stop doing it? Or whAt kind of therapy or counselling should I be trying to get?
Thank you for your input. I’ve been here a good few years but have name changed for this.
Sorry it’s so dull and boring.

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depressedorpaininthearse · 26/09/2019 23:59

.. bah! I should have posted this on the Mental Health board shouldn’t I? How do I get it moved, anyone know?

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depressedorpaininthearse · 27/09/2019 10:07

Just bumping for myself because it’s a bit busier at this time of day.
I realise this is an extremely boring and probably self-absorbed thread. But I’m having difficulty with anxiety generally and just wondering if I should give myself a stern talking to, or whether avoidance is a legitimate response to stress, or perceived stress.
Avoiding opening the post is causing me real practical problems. That sounds no let’s written down. Would really appreciate any input.

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Wolfiefan · 27/09/2019 10:10

The post thing is very common apparently. Do you have any symptoms of depression? If anxiety is affecting how you live then you should seek help.

depressedorpaininthearse · 27/09/2019 10:11

Regarding the anxiety as soon as I’ve pressed the ‘post’ button (on the mobile site) my heartbeat goes into over-drive and I become really fearful that people will know who I am, and all of my personal business will be over the internet, and that people I know in rl will be talking about me, etc.
Is this drip-feeding? Giving small amounts of information at a time?

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depressedorpaininthearse · 27/09/2019 10:14

Thank you Wolfe. I’m relieved to hear that it’s it uncommon (to avoid opening the post). Recently a speeding fine - which I could have dealt with by going on a speed awareness course, has ended up in court.
Do you mind d me asking if you suffer from either?
If you have, what has helped you? I have tried to get help.

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Wolfiefan · 27/09/2019 10:39

Yep. Anxiety and depression. Had CBT. Still taking Prozac and the combination has been life changing for me.

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