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WWYD? Father acting strange.

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SeaSaltandLime · 24/09/2019 19:20

DF has been ill today. It started off with him being snappy saying he felt rough and sleeping on the sofa all day.

I've bought him tablets, water, tea. Anything to liven him up but no, still miserable as sin.
He said he was freezing, but had gotten wet this morning and sat in his wet clothes when he got home..
I left him to it.

About an hour ago I went downstairs and found him pacing.
Apparently he's had chest pains for the last 4 hours, has called 111 and been told to go in.
I didn't hear this phone call.

I was speaking to our mutual friend who offered help if we needed it.
I told DF, and he said 'look I don't want help from anyone just leave me alone!'

He's been miserable and acting strange all day. Surely if he'd had chest pains for 4 hours he should've gone in? Wouldn't they have sent an ambulance?
I've told him to go but he says he doesn't want to.
If he's being snappy because of the pain then why wouldn't he go?

What the fuck is wrong with him? I've given up now.
He's been so rude all day and people being nice, trying to help are getting it thrown back in their faces.

WWYD?

OP posts:
ChestyNut · 25/09/2019 18:34

Well done OP for getting your DF the life saving attention he needed. His behaviour is likely to have been due to the effects of the infection and perhaps fear. Flowers

I’m sorry about the loss of your DM Flowers

saraclara · 25/09/2019 18:38

I'm so glad to read your update! I hope he's soon feeling stronger and quickly makes a full recovery.
And yep, if he doesn't show you adequate appreciation and an apology at some point, he'll have us to deal with!

simonisnotme · 25/09/2019 18:38

well done OP sometimes you just have to brave it and make the call and have the fall out from it
he was probably scared stiff because of losing your mom and the effects of the infection
get some sleep if you can

MitziK · 25/09/2019 19:22

I'd rather make a call and have somebody tell me they hated me for doing it than obey their idiotic and nigh on suicidal wishes and have them die in front of me/have to perform CPR.

Hope all is well and he's back to moaning at you shortly - I wonder whether you'd feel more confident in the future if you took a first aid course, though? I definitely felt happier/more confident to say 'No, I'm not happy with this and I'd rather you were cross with me when the paramedics say I'm wrong than do nothing and be right' once I'd got my qualification. Yes, it's emotionally testing to confront it, but the courses are provided by lovely people who are aware attendees could be coming as a result of a traumatic event and it also gets you able to react with training, rather than your natural emotion getting in the way when you need to be The Person Who Knows What To Do.

Did it for DP once - knowing in his case that his heart rate dropping to below 50bpm from over 130 and resisting being put into the recovery position was properly dangerous made it a lot easier to say 'I'm calling. You can have a go at me about it later after they've seen you'. He didn't.

FaithInfinity · 25/09/2019 19:25

Wow! I’m a nurse and I started reading this hoping you would call him an ambulance. I’m so glad you did. You probably did save his life. I’m glad he’s now getting the treatment he needs and hope he’s better soon.

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 25/09/2019 22:06

Hope you get a good night's sleep tonight lovely Flowers

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